First Day on MFP

I'm excited about this new chapter. I am open to any advice anyone may have. I have a long way to go, but it's time. I recently re-quit smoking after about a year relapse. I'm not afraid of hard work, but I'm terrified of failure.
~M

Replies

  • amandatadrzynski
    amandatadrzynski Posts: 11 Member
    Never be afraid of failure! This is a difficult life change, and the hardest part is starting. However, once you start seeing your body change and grow you'll become addicted. This is my second time around trying to become healthier, so lets motivate each other to be better and healthier beings!
  • asideofarmao
    asideofarmao Posts: 4 Member
    Thank you. It's a deal :)
  • Keliandra
    Keliandra Posts: 170 Member
    Never be afraid of failure. Failure just means that you learned a new way that something will NOT work. As humans, we never learn from initial success; we only learn after we try and fail.

    See that photo to the left? I "failed" Atkins, I "failed" Medifast. I "failed" Weight Watchers. I "failed" when trying to eat by the food pyramid. I "failed" every diet program I tried! Now I know that there at least 4 programs that will not work for me. I've experimented and found what seems to be working for me.

    I didn't join here until I had less than 100 pounds to lose. That 16 pounds below? That photo to the left? In that photo, taken 3 days after my wedding 15 months ago, I weighed 288.2 pounds. This morning I weighed 235.6.

    You can do it. It will be hard at times, it will be depressing, you will be discouraged and want to give up. Each morning is a new chance to start over fresh. If you want inspiration, check around the boards. There is a woman in MN that lost over 100 pounds and just logged in to MFP for her 1,000th day in a row.

    Above all, remember: The weight did NOT go on overnight, it will not come off overnight.
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,584 Member
    here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    this could help.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    nooooooooooooooooooooo. leave now! before it's too late!


    KIDDING.


    listen to trog. this guy speaks the truth :)
  • ThatSoundsHard
    ThatSoundsHard Posts: 475 Member
    Welcome!
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    this could help.

    QFT(Quoted for Truth) and Welcome
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    What trogalicious said times infinity.
    /thread.
  • I am not new to MFP, but I am back after a "hiatus" let's say.... Fear of failure will eat you up (no pun intended). Squash that fear and use it to your advantage.

    Best of luck. There's some great advice here... use it!
  • Canuname
    Canuname Posts: 182 Member
    The only time you truly fail is if you give up. You are never defeated until you stop trying to achieve your goals. You can do this!!!
  • jlapey
    jlapey Posts: 1,850 Member
    Welcome to MFP! Here is a link I think all new members should be directed to:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Robin_Bin

    Great info here as well:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    I hope this site proves to be everything you want it to be and that you are successful in reaching and maintaining/surpassing your goals.
  • bharriscar
    bharriscar Posts: 91 Member
    Fill out your Profile info on MFP, set goals and try to keep close to them. I have had good success using MFP numbers, but see what works for you. I would say Good Luck but it's about staying positive and walking away from food when you know you don't need it. So, Stay Positive.
  • klkateri
    klkateri Posts: 432 Member
    "Vodka and Twinkie diet" <-- SIGN. ME. UP!!

    But really, I look at failures as lessons on the road to success. Sometimes we fall, sometimes its just a stumble but it all goes to making us a stronger, more determined and it makes the end that much sweeter!!

    Good luck on your road!!
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    I'm excited about this new chapter. I am open to any advice anyone may have. I have a long way to go, but it's time. I recently re-quit smoking after about a year relapse. I'm not afraid of hard work, but I'm terrified of failure.
    ~M

    People can be blunt around here... try to not take anything personally when you ask a question and they give blunt or seemingly harsh advice, as most are genuinely trying to help and have been here long enough to know what works.
  • wcso911mn
    wcso911mn Posts: 68 Member
    here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    this could help.

    **LOVE THIS!!!***

    Hmmm...twinkie & vodka diet. If I didn't hate twinkies, I would've probably attempted that diet! :laugh:
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    ^^^ Yup...
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    After all the great advise you already have, I found it hard to think of some more.
    However, I have one:

    Find yourselves some friends here on my fitnesspal. You dont need a lot because it is quality rather than quantity.
    Find people who motivate you when you have a low day.
    People who congratulate your sucess and push you to do better if you slip a little.
    This is something that has helped me (especially today as I have been feeling low). Having good friends had made the diffrence between success and failure for me on numerous occassions.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    this could help.

    Always this...

    Other things to remember while you wonder around MFP.

    If you post a thread with a question, be open to all responses. Some will be snarky - and it's that way for humor. No one is actually trying to be rude to you, unless they say they are. There will be some rude ones, this is the interwebz, do not let them get you all worked up. Most people here aren't here to coddle anyone. They will tell you the truth, sometimes it's very blunt. Don't take it personally because it's NEVER meant that way. When people disagree with you or are bluntly honest they are not being mean, bullies or things like that. They are actually trying to help you.

    Good luck! You can do this!
  • p_s1984
    p_s1984 Posts: 30 Member
    Eat. No seriously. Ur not trying to trick your body in slowly eating itself. Food is fuel. Eat real, whole food. Eat your calories AND eat back your exercise calories. No seriously. Work out and eat healthy WHOLE food. I lost for a month on 1200 calories and then my body was not wanting to lose. I ate more and BAM my weight started dropping again. Good Luck!!
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    trog FTW!!
    (trog, if i had a gif of you nodding in the affirmative, i would use it after quoting your post...have you made that yet?)


    welcome to MFP!

    pull up a seat and enjoy the ride.
    there is a huge treasure trove of great information on this site (some of which is buried in stupidity, so you may have to filter thru).

    congrats on quitting smoking!
    and also, congrats on taking one of the hardest steps already....the decision to make it happen.

    you can do this, and we're here to help.
    good luck!


    now go get it!

    :drinker:
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    Eat. No seriously. Ur not trying to trick your body in slowly eating itself. Food is fuel. Eat real, whole food. Eat your calories AND eat back your exercise calories. No seriously. Work out and eat healthy WHOLE food. I lost for a month on 1200 calories and then my body was not wanting to lose. I ate more and BAM my weight started dropping again. Good Luck!!

    if the OP is going to follow 80% of TDEE, then she doesnt need to eat her exercise calories back.
    instead, let's ask the OP what her plan of attack is, if she has one yet.

    if the OP is going to follow IIFYM, then she doesnt need to eat "healthy" food.
    instead, let's ask the OP what her plan of attack is, if she has one yet.

    see where im going with this?

    EDIT: just wanted to clarify that im not saying the advice i quoted is BAD advice...im merely stating that there are different ways to go about this and we dont yet know how the OP is going to embark on this. :flowerforyou:
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    here:

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    this could help.

    You again. I'm warning you...one more "winning MFP" post and I'm send you a friend request.
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    To OP: there is no such thing as failure. You are an adult. You will choose what you eat every meal, every day. Sometimes you will consider your calorie and nutrient needs when you do this. Sometimes your choices will be driven by other decisions. As long as you meet your needs over a week, you should be ok. If it doesn't balance out for a certain week, then figure out a strategy so you're not in that situation again.

    Figure out a way to get at least 30 minutes of activity 5 times a week. It doesn't need to be "exercise" and it's not really even for weight loss. Our bodies HAVE to move at least that much to stay healthy - there are tissues that don't get fed unless you move enough to push the blood through them. Which reminds me, I've got some stairs to walk.