RANT OVER UNHEALTHY PEOPLE JUDGING YOU

mazmol

I think we've all been there at some point. Robert Downey Jr. said it best: "Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f**k you were gonna do anyway."

:-)

bennettinfinity

When people feel they need to throw their two cents in, I always look at them as if what they've said just set the lightbulb off for me and enthusiastically state "You're right! I'm going to start / stop doing that right away! Thanks, so much... you've changed my life."

Sarcasm is fun...!

DamePiglet

Amazing how contagious lifestyle changes can be. I copped the same flack at work, people saying that it's a "health kick" and "wont last"...Now they ask me how i stay so fit and tell me about how they're going to the gym/running/dieting these days..pity they still wolf down KFC at lunch every other day, though

Yes... What a pity. Good thing you're so much better than they are, huh?

I often wonder, when these rants come up, whether the person ranting might be giving off judgmental vibes without meaning to do so.

It's definitely easy to. Everyone judges without trying. It's human nature. And yeah I may not understand why people work out and then blow it on sonic or kfc, but i don't make a comment about it, but that doesn't stop them from making a comment towards me

If you're willing to investigate further, maybe ask a close friend or someone you trust to be honest with you about whether you seem to be judging others' lifestyles. There may be behaviors that are being misinterpreted by your coworkers/friends and that you could work on so that people won't feel like they need to comment on your choices. Not saying you are, but it's something to consider.

But don't ask unless you're prepared to hear the answer.

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Good suggestion is good.

aprilw2222

You go girl!! I would like to be more like you. You inspire me!!

RabbitLost

I think we've all been there at some point. Robert Downey Jr. said it best: "Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f**k you were gonna do anyway."

Word!

kendall916

I'm the opposite I have my mom telling me to keep eating fewer calories and I should be on my exercise bike more because she's afraid that if I gain too much weight I wouldn't be able to wear my prosthetic leg :grumble:

I admit I'm human, and I do get frustrated sometimes when my mom keeps reminding me, but I am thankful she cares about me and helps me stay in shape. I feel sorry some people around my age who don't have a supporting parent to tell them to live a healthy lifestyle and don't teach them the values of cooking a healthy home cooked meal and eating the right portion. :frown:

Phaedra2014

Does anyone else get FURIOUS at people who judge you for eating healthy??? And watching what you eat?? Or tell you that you're "too obsessive" over exercise and eating healthy and should "enjoy your life??"" I'm like BACK UP, I take pride in my work in the gym and kitchen and DO ENJOY EATING HEALTHY. Sorry I don't want fries with that???!?!

Like today I was told running long distances was terrible for you and I would have to have knee surgery and leg surgery when I got older and was basically belittled because I like running ten miles instead of being told, "Wow look at you go!" Like excuse me people, I love love LOVE being healthy and no I may not eat the entire serving of cake that is put on my plate, but that means I'm "too obsessive" and "worry about my weight too much" ?!?!?!?

People can just piss you off, ya know?

No I don't get furious or angry or pissed off over things like this because it's really not a good state of mind and body to be in. I eat the way I eat because I like it and it works for me. That's all that matters.

BinaryPulsar

I don't experience that. Or if I do, it's not something I think about. People ask me questions about being fit, and I answer. Sometimes people say something like "You look great. Don't lose any weight." I'm not trying to lose weight and I tell them that. When they see me a year later and I'm the same size, they realize they had nothing to worry about. I'm like, "I lost 5 pounds two years ago. You have nothing to worry about."

Kenazwa

Sometimes people do this because they want you to pay attention to them. So give them some attention. Ask where they heard that, comment on something they're doing.

SLLRunner

When people feel they need to throw their two cents in, I always look at them as if what they've said just set the lightbulb off for me and enthusiastically state "You're right! I'm going to start / stop doing that right away! Thanks, so much... you've changed my life."

Sarcasm is fun...!

I like it. Bet that shut people up right away.

PikaKnight

Amazing how contagious lifestyle changes can be. I copped the same flack at work, people saying that it's a "health kick" and "wont last"...Now they ask me how i stay so fit and tell me about how they're going to the gym/running/dieting these days..pity they still wolf down KFC at lunch every other day, though

Yes... What a pity. Good thing you're so much better than they are, huh?

I often wonder, when these rants come up, whether the person ranting might be giving off judgmental vibes without meaning to do so.

It's definitely easy to. Everyone judges without trying. It's human nature. And yeah I may not understand why people work out and then blow it on sonic or kfc, but i don't make a comment about it, but that doesn't stop them from making a comment towards me

What's wrong with Sonic or KFC?

Personally I have found demonizing food quite an unhealthy mind frame.

then again, I find it really pretentious when people say they don't judge other's food choices. They just prefer to eat "real food." :indifferent:

BrainyBurro

Amazing how contagious lifestyle changes can be. I copped the same flack at work, people saying that it's a "health kick" and "wont last"...Now they ask me how i stay so fit and tell me about how they're going to the gym/running/dieting these days..pity they still wolf down KFC at lunch every other day, though

Yes... What a pity. Good thing you're so much better than they are, huh?

I often wonder, when these rants come up, whether the person ranting might be giving off judgmental vibes without meaning to do so.

It's definitely easy to. Everyone judges without trying. It's human nature. And yeah I may not understand why people work out and then blow it on sonic or kfc, but i don't make a comment about it, but that doesn't stop them from making a comment towards me

What's wrong with Sonic or KFC?

Personally I have found demonizing food quite an unhealthy mind frame.

then again, I find it really pretentious when people say they don't judge other's food choices. They just prefer to eat "real food." :indifferent:

GummyBears7779

My friend called me "crazy" and "insane" a few times for refusing a chocolate bar she offered or some ice coffee, but they got used to it XP

gloriaeffe

It happens to me all the time with friends and family and it still drives me crazy.
I've been eating clean and living a healthy lifestyle for more than 2 years, and yet they still comment on me passing on ice-cream and fries. And they still ask me what I normally eat and then make fun of it, every freaking time.

I've started replying on the line of "please do remember this conversation the next time you'll tell me 'oh, but you're so lucky cause you look good in bikini' or 'wow, how come you're so fit'.

I am so over people making fun of my heathy eating while they eat like **** and then complaining because they're fat and I am not.

paperpudding

I haven't really had this problem, just a bit of good natured teasing if I decline a chocolate or something, best response is just to smile at that and move on, not take it too seriously..
I wonder if you are taking some good natured teasing too seriously and others responded to that and it escalated from there?

I don't expect others to say much about my food choices at all - and usually they don't - what somebody else eats isn't interesting to others for long if you don't mention it yourself.

On the other hand I don't expect them to say 'Wow look at you go' either.

Seems odd that you mentioned they should be saying this instead - which makes me think perhaps you have been going on about your lifestyle a bit and angling for such compliments ?
Something to think about perhaps?

Expecting them to say nothing and saying nothing yourself, unless directly asked, seems better approach to me.

gypsy_spirit

I find the "don't ask - don't tell" policy to be helpful in many areas of life. Just as I don't discuss politics or religion - I don't discuss my life changes.

sabrina19782014

i am unhealthy (at the minute) and i say go girl! you keep up with what you are doing, ignore the ignorant you may have a few pounds extra but at least you are doing something about it (same as me)

caringiscreepyx

I think we've all been there at some point. Robert Downey Jr. said it best: "Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f**k you were gonna do anyway."

THIS!

smantha32

I think we've all been there at some point. Robert Downey Jr. said it best: "Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f**k you were gonna do anyway."

I love Robert Downey Jr.

icu814me2

Well, they are probably just jelous, or watch too much Dr. Oz People like you are actually my inspiration, so don't stop now! Have a great Sunday.

jennaworksout

yep

Snooozie

sometimes you just have to close your eyes, count to ten, take a deep breath, remind yourself that you wouldn't look good in prison stripes, and just smile at the dumbass and walk away. :laugh:

BridgetWolfbear

It gets so annoying when people do that! I got a juicer for my birthday and I had my sister tell me that I'm not "normal" because I could have anything I wanted and that is what I picked. On top of that I get into many arguments for watching what I eat and working out. Because I want to be healthy, and they think this is a problem?!
I wouldn't worry about what other people think or say. Your happy, and healthy and doing what you love to do. When others try and put you down just smile and walk away. You go girl and keep on going!

kelsully

I do find this annoying so I try to keep my habits and tendencies to myself. If people comment on things, like I bet over spring break all you will do is workout (yes that is correct) I just say, what a blessing it is to have the time to really enjoy a workout instead of just squeeze it in during my otherwise crazy life. If they want to judge me but I am proud or happy about what I am doing i just smile like a crazy person and keep them guessing.

To the note of people asking advice and not taking it...they want something but are afraid. They are afraid they would feel deprived, they are afraid they would fail, they are afraid they would be unhappy so they ignore you or belittle your advice.

jmv7117

Amazing how contagious lifestyle changes can be. I copped the same flack at work, people saying that it's a "health kick" and "wont last"...Now they ask me how i stay so fit and tell me about how they're going to the gym/running/dieting these days..pity they still wolf down KFC at lunch every other day, though

Yes... What a pity. Good thing you're so much better than they are, huh?

I often wonder, when these rants come up, whether the person ranting might be giving off judgmental vibes without meaning to do so.

It could also be the person being ranted about may be projecting their own insecurities onto the person making the changes.
This can cause a toxic relationship that really adds another stressor when trying to make lifestyle changes. In my case, I don't talk about making any changes, what I'm doing or not doing, or anything else. As mentioned I have one acquaintance that seriously can be a problem. She latches onto everything - hair, weight, clothes, why I should wear make-up, what I eat, and it just goes on and on. She really talks non-stop! The only way I deal with it is by not talking and avoidance. As far as anyone else, I'm not looking for support or acceptance of my choices but at the same time I don't really care what others eat or do. The only time I notice what someone is eating is occasionally at a restaurant and then it is the food itself that I'm interested in, not the person. Funny thing is, this type of thing comes up in a lot of aspects of life. I've heard comments about what others have in their shopping carts and for the life of me can't figure that out. I don't care what others have in their shopping cart!

FitnessLover001

I haven't really had this problem, just a bit of good natured teasing if I decline a chocolate or something, best response is just to smile at that and move on, not take it too seriously..
I wonder if you are taking some good natured teasing too seriously and others responded to that and it escalated from there?

I don't expect others to say much about my food choices at all - and usually they don't - what somebody else eats isn't interesting to others for long if you don't mention it yourself.

On the other hand I don't expect them to say 'Wow look at you go' either.

Seems odd that you mentioned they should be saying this instead - which makes me think perhaps you have been going on about your lifestyle a bit and angling for such compliments ?
Something to think about perhaps?

Expecting them to say nothing and saying nothing yourself, unless directly asked, seems better approach to me.

No, it's not good natured teasing when every time I see them they make a snide remark. This thread wasn't me ranting over how much better I am than others because I work out and eat healthy. And no I don't expect them to say "look at you go." because I don't go up to people and say "I worked out today, can you tell?" I don't even make a comment on it. But they always seem to look at me and say, "did you run today? You'll have horrible knees one day. Just wait until you're my age." I honestly don't expect them to say anything to me, positive or negative. But I feel like I am doing something positive with my life and no one should belittle me for it. Which, they do. And it seems like a lot of people experience the same thing as me.

Topsking2010

I think we've all been there at some point. Robert Downey Jr. said it best: "Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f**k you were gonna do anyway."

Well said!!

20Grit

I don't talk to people IRL about food, calories, or exercise unless they ask. I'm not open to their input so I don't even let that topic be open for discussion.

That doesn't stop the occasional person from saying something annoying, but it definitely limits it.

agree

erialcelyob

Very irritating yes I agree

ihad

There is a technique that you should perfect that I call "The art of listening without listening" and it is the ability to nod, make sympathetic noises and generally agree while not taking the slightest notice of what the other person is actually saying.

I always think its worth trying

This is a wise man.