Heavy Metal is going to save my life

BV1980

I have been on this site for a few years now. I had great success before by losing 94 lbs and going from my high of 452 lbs down to 358 lbs. I was even recognized by my gym on their website as a "success" story. That all fell apart, though, when my dad got cancer and I fell back into my old habits of coping. I gained it all back. I lost my way big time. Depression crept back into my life in a big way. Instead of being the 30-something year old guy who lost the weight and got his life on track and even got a girlfriend for the first time in his life, I went the opposite direction and got back up to my high of 452 lbs.... nearly 34 years old and still no girlfriend and feeling hopeless. Some people stuck by me on here and supported me. I am very grateful for them. Many more gave up and deleted me, though. It's ok, because why should they believe in me when I didn't believe in myself anymore. I understand.

I have tried to get back on track the past year and a half. I have managed to lose 31 lbs, but my motivation has been fleeting. I have been caught up in the loneliness and hopelessness of my situation, believing I will always be single because of my weight. I have found some motivation though, and it is my love of music that is going to help me. I always wanted to travel and have always wanted to experience one of the many great metal fests in Europe. I got fed up this winter daydreaming about going somewhere and doing a big trip and seeing one of these fests. I just booked a trip, without regard to whether I can handle it at my size. It is done. It is paid for. I am going to Graspop fest in Belgium at the end of June. I am also going to Paris and Bruges the week before the fest and Amsterdam the week after to make it a 2 week trip. I now have to lose weight to make this happen. Instead of always saying 'oh I cannot wait to do this or that after I lose weight', I turned it around and said I am doing this now and I need to lose weight now otherwise I just wasted a lot of money. So, heavy metal is going to save my life. I am going to this fest and it is my driving factor to get this done. My goal is to be down to 375 lbs by the time I leave on June 20. I am going to do this. This is going to get me back on track to continue the success I had a couple years ago. The motivation will no longer be fleeting.

...and maybe just maybe this will put me on a path to where I can finally get a girlfriend at the age of 34. I really hope so...



"And I can't live in a fairytale of lies
And I can't hide from the feeling 'cause it's right
And I go faster and faster and faster and faster for life
I can't live in a fairytale of lies

I can feel that you mesmerize my heart
I feel so free, I'm alive, I'm breaking out
I won't give in, 'cause I'm proud of my scars
And I can see I've been wasting too much time

A fairytale of lies."

-Within Temptation - Faster

knra_grl

Welcome back! You can do it - you know the drill and what you need to do. Good luck and enjoy the fest!

addictedtosweat

Love that song btw

CrusaderSam

I hate to be the one to tell you this but you are setting yourself up to fail. Your thinking is just wrong on all levels. Women wont fling themselves at you once you lose weight or even get muscles, that is just not how it works. Unless you are changing your life for your health, because you want to be a better person, you are going to end up back where you started.

BV1980

I hate to be the one to tell you this but you are setting yourself up to fail. Your thinking is just wrong on all levels. Women wont fling themselves at you once you lose weight or even get muscles, that is just not how it works. Unless you are changing your life for your health, because you want to be a better person, you are going to end up back where you started.

I said nothing about women throwing themselves at me. I created a goal that will keep me motivated and on track to lose weight so I can save my life (title of the thread). A goal that will keep me motivated is not setting myself up for failure. I'll post again in June before my trip and you'll see just how much I "failed"

CrusaderSam

Well what happens when you get back from the trip? Numbers on scales and trips don't matter, just focus on what does. That needs to be your goal, if its going to be a true life change.

eldazzio

Metal makes everything better. Metal fans will not judge you, go for it and good luck! :drinker:

LKArgh

With the story you posted, I think it is time to invest in therapy. Not instead of what you are doing, but to support what you are trying to do. There is a reason why you have reacher this weigh, and identifying this reason, not falling back into all habits and figuring out different coping mechanisms, it is a huge task. The more help you get, the easier your life will be.

chunkybun

Heavy metal is so motivational to work out to as well. Some people need a goal to reach to, and yours just happens to be a kick *kitten* one. Sorry you are getting some negative responses on here, but I say f*** 'em all! Keep working and make your way to Graspop. I've always wanted to go as well. Made it to Wacken in 2008, was an unbelievable experience! Go for it, you've got this!

Perseverance
Against all opposition
Crushing all limitations
Pure strength through solitude
Discipline and determination