Gave birth almost three weeks ago and only lost 10lbs!?

So, I had my 7lb 14oz baby 3 weeks ago, and have only lost 10 lbs?! I am breastfeeding exclusively, and sticking to 1500 calories a day. I have no idea how I'm not losing.

I gained 45lbs with this baby and had a homebirth. With my first child I gained 65 and lost 30 in the first 2 days before leaving the hospital!

Am I doing something wrong? Should I only be eating 1200 calories? TIA for any advice
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  • sneaks
    sneaks Posts: 19
    I'm not a mother, but I'm guessing you need to eat more to breastfeed - you're feeding another human so you need to take that into account.

    I think 10 pounds is quite a lot really, assuming baby was some of that and then you've lost water etc. It will come off, but tbh I think you've got better things to be worrying about right now, like trying to get 5 mins sleep!
  • __freckles__
    __freckles__ Posts: 1,238 Member
    Holy crap woman! Losing weight should be the LAST thing on your mind right now. Take care of your baby and go get some rest. And for God's sake EAT more!!! You are breastfeeding. Health of your baby is priority, not your vanity.
  • Shuuma
    Shuuma Posts: 465 Member
    First, congratulations on your new baby! Second, breastfeeding alone burns around 250 calories alone (probably much more!). I would suggest you aren't eating enough to sustain yourself and nursing. I think eating more and drinking a lot of water and teas will be helpful. Water helps with milk production and to flush out water weight.

    Enjoy this time with your baby and worry about the weight later. Just make sure you're eating enough!
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    So, I had my 7lb 14oz baby 3 weeks ago, and have only lost 10 lbs?! I am breastfeeding exclusively, and sticking to 1500 calories a day. I have no idea how I'm not losing.

    I gained 45lbs with this baby and had a homebirth. With my first child I gained 65 and lost 30 in the first 2 days before leaving the hospital!

    Am I doing something wrong? Should I only be eating 1200 calories? TIA for any advice

    I heard somewhere that breastfeeding burns about 500 calories per day. And all you're doing is sitting there! So, 1500 calories is probably not enough for you. Your caloric needs are probably closer to 2000.

    It is a little surprising that you only lost 10 lbs after having a nearly 8 lb baby. The extra fluid, placenta, etc. is usually more than 2 lbs. I'm guessing your weight was higher than you thought right before the baby.

    Like the others said, losing weight shouldn't be your priority right now. Give yourself a break - it's only been three weeks. And dear God NO, don't drop down to 1200 calories. Providing your child with adequate nutrition should be your number one concern.
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    You need to eat more. Breastfeeding exclusively burns around 500 calories per day. Not to mention the fact that your body is still healing from childbirth. It needs fuel to heal properly.

    You are not doing anything wrong. It's only been 3 weeks. Give yourself time and patience. Every pregnancy is different, so it stands to reason that your body wouldn't react to this one the same as the last.

    Drink plenty of water to keep your milk supply steady and to help shed any water weight. Eat healthy foods, including good protein and fats. Take your vitamins, since if you are deficient in anything your body will give it to the baby before giving it to you, and you could end up malnourished if you're restricting your diet. And don't focus too much on the scale right now. I'm not saying not to try to lose weight -- I'm saying that your body is going through a LOT of hormonal changes right now, and it may not react in the way you expect it to, so don't get so discouraged about the number on the scale. You're losing, and that's movement in the right direction. Pat yourself on the back for that, and just enjoy that sweet babe.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Eat more! And worry about your weight less. You just had a baby, so cut your poor body some slack.
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    Here is some excellent information for you:

    http://kellymom.com/nutrition/mothers-diet/mom-weightloss/
  • mschicagocubs
    mschicagocubs Posts: 774 Member
    Most women lose ~10 lbs pretty quickly after being pregnant because a lot of it is fluids and you are back to moving in your "regular" body.

    I would make sure you are eating an adequate amount for your baby. 1200 is not enough.

    You will still lose pounds eating more.

    If you care more about your weight than feeding you baby, buy formula.
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    :noway: Please be a troll. PLEASE be a troll!

    Okay, seriously. Calm down and focus on your baby and your mental health. I mention mental health b/c it's flat out CRAZY to consider eating 1200 calories while exclusively breastfeeding a newborn. Maybe provide your height, weight, age and activity level for some tailored advice.
  • Corsetopia
    Corsetopia Posts: 307 Member
    Congrats on your little one!! Yay!

    But, back to business - it literally took me at least a month to see any budge in the scale after the initial 10 lb weight loss from the hospital (my baby is almost 3 months old). It seemed like I had a lot of water weight going on and it came off when it decided to come off and all of the sudden 20 pounds dropped off quickly after that first month and a half.

    And for the people saying to stop being so vain and whatnot. Newsflash: of course it's not the last thing on our minds. We just endured 9 months of packing on the pounds and we're not supposed to be concerned about when or how to jump back on the workout wagon and lose the weight? Maybe I'm neurotic, but I think it's somewhat healthy to worry about that kind of stuff.

    Edit: I didn't breastfeed, so I can't help you on that one, just be sure to be eating enough and drinking enough water, the weight will eventually come off after a couple months.
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    I can't believe I'm reading this. :huh::noway:
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    So, I had my 7lb 14oz baby 3 weeks ago, and have only lost 10 lbs?! I am breastfeeding exclusively, and sticking to 1500 calories a day. I have no idea how I'm not losing.

    I gained 45lbs with this baby and had a homebirth. With my first child I gained 65 and lost 30 in the first 2 days before leaving the hospital!

    Am I doing something wrong? Should I only be eating 1200 calories? TIA for any advice

    I heard somewhere that breastfeeding burns about 500 calories per day. And all you're doing is sitting there! So, 1500 calories is probably not enough for you. Your caloric needs are probably closer to 2000.

    It is a little surprising that you only lost 10 lbs after having a nearly 8 lb baby. The extra fluid, placenta, etc. is usually more than 2 lbs. I'm guessing your weight was higher than you thought right before the baby.

    Like the others said, losing weight shouldn't be your priority right now. Give yourself a break - it's only been three weeks. And dear God NO, don't drop down to 1200 calories. Providing your child with adequate nutrition should be your number one concern.
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  • nikkylyn
    nikkylyn Posts: 325 Member
    First off good for you for breastfeeding.

    I don't even count calories while I am breastfeeding. I drink lots of water, eat good sources of protein, lots of fruits and veggies. I make sure I am eating something every couple hours. I used to grab an apple and some crackers or cheese or a something...anything and put it on my table when I breastfed so I would be getting the nutrients my baby needed.

    Its only been 3 weeks your body is likely still swollen and you cant expect to lose weight this quickly.

    Noone expects a new mom to be down to her pre baby weight weeks after giving birth and neither should you. Your expectations are too high. Just enjoy that sweet baby because you dont get these precious moments back. Worry about your weight later. Eat healthy but stop getting on that scale for at least another month.
  • Mischievous_Rascal
    Mischievous_Rascal Posts: 1,791 Member
    You need to eat more. Breastfeeding exclusively burns around 500 calories per day. Not to mention the fact that your body is still healing from childbirth. It needs fuel to heal properly.

    You are not doing anything wrong. It's only been 3 weeks. Give yourself time and patience. Every pregnancy is different, so it stands to reason that your body wouldn't react to this one the same as the last.

    Drink plenty of water to keep your milk supply steady and to help shed any water weight. Eat healthy foods, including good protein and fats. Take your vitamins, since if you are deficient in anything your body will give it to the baby before giving it to you, and you could end up malnourished if you're restricting your diet. And don't focus too much on the scale right now. I'm not saying not to try to lose weight -- I'm saying that your body is going through a LOT of hormonal changes right now, and it may not react in the way you expect it to, so don't get so discouraged about the number on the scale. You're losing, and that's movement in the right direction. Pat yourself on the back for that, and just enjoy that sweet babe.

    Smart answer. And congrats on the new little addition to your family!

    PS: It took me five years to lose 60 pounds. Don't be so hard on yourself. :)
  • OrionMama
    OrionMama Posts: 19 Member
    I actually have an oversupply of breastmilk and have been donating to the local milk bank. I would certainly not be trying to lose weight if nursing was even an issue. The fact is I am unable to wear maternity clothing that I wore the week I gave birth. I have a three year old son that deserves to leave the house, and I can't care for him properly if I can't get dressed or function. This is not me being vain. We also don't have the money for me to go out and buy new clothing. I was simply asking for advice because I have not even lost the weight of the baby+placenta+other fluids, not really asking to be berated for perceived vanity.
  • __freckles__
    __freckles__ Posts: 1,238 Member
    I actually have an oversupply of breastmilk and have been donating to the local milk bank. I would certainly not be trying to lose weight if nursing was even an issue. The fact is I am unable to wear maternity clothing that I wore the week I gave birth. I have a three year old son that deserves to leave the house, and I can't care for him properly if I can't get dressed or function. This is not me being vain. We also don't have the money for me to go out and buy new clothing. I was simply asking for advice because I have not even lost the weight of the baby+placenta+other fluids, not really asking to be berated for perceived vanity.

    You still got your answer. You need to eat more. Not sure how you don't fit into maternity clothes even after losing 10 lbs?
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    I actually have an oversupply of breastmilk and have been donating to the local milk bank. I would certainly not be trying to lose weight if nursing was even an issue. The fact is I am unable to wear maternity clothing that I wore the week I gave birth. I have a three year old son that deserves to leave the house, and I can't care for him properly if I can't get dressed or function. This is not me being vain. We also don't have the money for me to go out and buy new clothing. I was simply asking for advice because I have not even lost the weight of the baby+placenta+other fluids, not really asking to be berated for perceived vanity.

    Question about your oversupply: are you pumping? If so, and you're not needing to pump to store milk for emergencies or going back to work, I would stop pumping. Hand express just enough to relieve the pressure if you're feeling uncomfortable, and otherwise don't pump. Let the baby dictate your supply. The more milk you pump/express, the more milk you will continue to make.

    Another thing you can do to help with your oversupply is change your nursing pattern. Make sure the baby drains the breast well before moving him to the other side. Or, have each session be on one side only, without switching (hand express if the other breast gets uncomfortably full). Doing this will ensure that he gets the good fatty hindmilk instead of filling up on the watery foremilk. Foremilk is great, but it can cause digestive problems for him if he's not getting that hindmilk.
  • Lmans77
    Lmans77 Posts: 58 Member
    Are you swollen? why can't you wear your maternity clothes that you wore presumably right before giving birth? Are they too tight in the boobs, that would be understandable, anything else would be cause for concern. Frankly, I'd talk to your doctor or midwife.

    I would think you need to eat at least 2000 calories a day while breastfeeding, if not more.
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    Are you swollen? why can't you wear your maternity clothes that you wore presumably right before giving birth? Are they too tight in the boobs, that would be understandable, anything else would be cause for concern. Frankly, I'd talk to your doctor or midwife.


    This too.
  • __freckles__
    __freckles__ Posts: 1,238 Member
    And for the people saying to stop being so vain and whatnot. Newsflash: of course it's not the last thing on our minds. We just endured 9 months of packing on the pounds and we're not supposed to be concerned about when or how to jump back on the workout wagon and lose the weight? Maybe I'm neurotic, but I think it's somewhat healthy to worry about that kind of stuff.

    I didn't even start to think about losing weight until my 6 week postpartum checkup with my doctor when he gave me the go ahead to start working out. At 3 weeks postpartum I didn't give a rat's what I looked like - all I cared about was making sure my baby was healthy and getting some sleep.

    OP - sounds like you need to enlist the help of friends/family, maybe to take care of your 3 year old for a few hours. Take him/her to the park, etc.
  • Lmans77
    Lmans77 Posts: 58 Member
    I actually have an oversupply of breastmilk and have been donating to the local milk bank. I would certainly not be trying to lose weight if nursing was even an issue. The fact is I am unable to wear maternity clothing that I wore the week I gave birth. I have a three year old son that deserves to leave the house, and I can't care for him properly if I can't get dressed or function. This is not me being vain. We also don't have the money for me to go out and buy new clothing. I was simply asking for advice because I have not even lost the weight of the baby+placenta+other fluids, not really asking to be berated for perceived vanity.

    Question about your oversupply: are you pumping? If so, and you're not needing to pump to store milk for emergencies or going back to work, I would stop pumping. Hand express just enough to relieve the pressure if you're feeling uncomfortable, and otherwise don't pump. Let the baby dictate your supply. The more milk you pump/express, the more milk you will continue to make.

    Another thing you can do to help with your oversupply is change your nursing pattern. Make sure the baby drains the breast well before moving him to the other side. Or, have each session be on one side only, without switching (hand express if the other breast gets uncomfortably full). Doing this will ensure that he gets the good fatty hindmilk instead of filling up on the watery foremilk. Foremilk is great, but it can cause digestive problems for him if he's not getting that hindmilk.

    Yes, this. Are you a SAHM. Do you plan to EBF? If so, no need to pump unless you are just that uncomfortable. I never could hand express, but if I did pump to relieve engorgement, it was only just enough to relieve the pressure.
  • Miska_
    Miska_ Posts: 84
    Are you serious?

    Being pregnant now, I am nothing of losing weight nor would I be when the baby is here and I'm breast feeding.

    You should be eating your normal amount of calories + 300 extra for breast feeding.

    So if you usually eat 1500 calories, then eat 1800. If you work out and burn 200 of those calories, eat 2000 total.

    Be sure you keep taking your prenatal vitamins as well, it's all about nutrition for the baby.

    Weightloss will come, for now, enjoy the life you have created and being a mom :)

    Good luck!
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Holy crap woman! Losing weight should be the LAST thing on your mind right now. Take care of your baby and go get some rest. And for God's sake EAT more!!! You are breastfeeding. Health of your baby is priority, not your vanity.

    ^ This
  • I am not judging - really I'm not.

    You have just had a baby - you are exclusively breastfeeding and I am sure you are up night and day and also have another one to look after.

    What a way to put pressure on yourself that you don't need!

    Really - and this is from the heart - don't diet just yet. Or track calories. I'm not suggesting you binge either or live off MacD's - my advice..? Just get good nutrition in for the benefit of you and baby, walk gently and increase slowly. Nourish yourself and don't give a single thought about weight loss for right now. You can attend to that later.

    So long as you are sensible - so long as you feed yourself and therefore baby well - there really should be no major problems or weight gain. You will slowly and naturally slim down as your womb returns, as your breasts settle, as the water retention shifts - it will all come together..

    Second babies do take longer to get back in to shape. If you are worried about swelling by all means get advice - I'm assuming you are not excessively bleeding which could point to retention of placenta?

    Good luck with this and please, don't worry about the weight - if it's a clothing issue see your doc but, don't 'diet' or limit right now - slow and sensible does it.
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    Weight? Height? Do you weigh ALL your food (digital food scale)? Open your diary and maybe we could help, but as everyone said you definitely need to be eating more.
  • Congrats on your baby! I read on Wikipedia (always a great source, right?) that when breastfeeding fat mobilization of fat stored during pregnancy increases substantially from 3-6 months, probably has something to do with nature trying to make sure baby won't starve. If you don't eat enough for both your needs and the breast milk, it will go to the breast milk, and you may not receive adequate nutrition. My only evidence of this is that a Doctor had to warn a relative that the baby was leaching minerals out of her bones because she didn't eat enough. Yikes!

    Good luck!
  • mschicagocubs
    mschicagocubs Posts: 774 Member
    If you are really concerned about your weight and don't seem to know why you are retaining as much as you say you are ... why not ask you doctor?
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    Holy crap woman! Losing weight should be the LAST thing on your mind right now. Take care of your baby and go get some rest. And for God's sake EAT more!!! You are breastfeeding. Health of your baby is priority, not your vanity.


    This. This was my first thought as well. :noway:
  • tristaj90
    tristaj90 Posts: 330 Member
    you think it's bad that you ONLY lost 10 lbs in 3 weeks? I had a baby in November 2011 and GAINED 10 pounds after having him.. It took me from March of 2012 to May of 2013 to drop 100 lbs.

    Relax. your body will even out in time. Not every pregnancy is the same, nor is your body able to react the same way after every birth. Baby comes first.
  • s1rens0ng
    s1rens0ng Posts: 127 Member
    Its only been 3 weeks? at least give yourself 6 weeks to recover and heal from the birth then as advised re eating more calories and pregnancy/nursing care vitamins. (i had 4 babies within 5 years and breast fed, i was back in uk size 10 within a few months)

    You can eat as much as you like, breast feeding will suck that tummy and muscles back in place in no time and congratulations on baby x