Advice?

LokiFae

Okay, here's what's making me want to get into the car, drive to Dairy Queen, and eat EVERYTHING on the menu...

My husband is in a band that is in the process of signing a record deal. Which is AWESOME, don't get me wrong. He just called me on his lunch break to say..."So I guess after we finish recording, we are going to get a tour booked." Again, awesome, but here's the clincher: "We'll probably be gone a whole year." :noway: :noway: :noway:

Excuse me?! We have a ten month old son. And from what the guy who's signing them is saying, the pay isn't that great on tour. It's basically enough to keep gas in the bus, food in their stomachs, and maybe, like, $20 a month to send home. And after the tour is over and they get to come home, they'll book another tour that starts, like, two months later.

I didn't get married to be a single mom. I'm just getting ready to lose it. I really REALLY want to be happy for them...And I AM! But my husband is the only member of the band with a family, so it's difficult for the other members to understand what having a family entails, and I'm afraid they're going to agree to things in the contract that are just going to be unliveable (sp?) for me and my son. I don't mind getting a job and supporting my son, but not at the expense of my husband running off to fulfill his dream of being a rockstar and (basically) leaving us behind. I'm just really stuck at a crossroads and I don't know what to do. Help me keep from emotionally eating!

Sorry for the long post, just needed to get some of this out.

LokiFae

Okay, here's what's making me want to get into the car, drive to Dairy Queen, and eat EVERYTHING on the menu...

My husband is in a band that is in the process of signing a record deal. Which is AWESOME, don't get me wrong. He just called me on his lunch break to say..."So I guess after we finish recording, we are going to get a tour booked." Again, awesome, but here's the clincher: "We'll probably be gone a whole year." :noway: :noway: :noway:

Excuse me?! We have a ten month old son. And from what the guy who's signing them is saying, the pay isn't that great on tour. It's basically enough to keep gas in the bus, food in their stomachs, and maybe, like, $20 a month to send home. And after the tour is over and they get to come home, they'll book another tour that starts, like, two months later.

I didn't get married to be a single mom. I'm just getting ready to lose it. I really REALLY want to be happy for them...And I AM! But my husband is the only member of the band with a family, so it's difficult for the other members to understand what having a family entails, and I'm afraid they're going to agree to things in the contract that are just going to be unliveable (sp?) for me and my son. I don't mind getting a job and supporting my son, but not at the expense of my husband running off to fulfill his dream of being a rockstar and (basically) leaving us behind. I'm just really stuck at a crossroads and I don't know what to do. Help me keep from emotionally eating!

Sorry for the long post, just needed to get some of this out.

charny164

Don't do it! Got to the store and get some Skinny Cow ice cream bars or some frozen yogurt or something....anything but DQ.
As for the hubby in a band and gone on tour leaving you alone with your baby.....I can sympathize and relate (kinda - a little). My only advice is if it is important to you both that he is in this band and you are willing to make the saccrifice of going to work/back to work with a child you can make this work! It's not a terrible thing as long as your both onboard with the idea of him touring. It can actually strengthen your relationship with your husband and your child.
I hope you have a good support system (friends and family) that can be there for you on your lonely days. Don't forget, your hubby will have them too.
Good luck! :flowerforyou: