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if its a free drink, il take it, polite small talk with the guy. but as soon as he gets too friendly, then il tell him ive got a boyfriend.0
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I accept all freebies. I will talk to anyone, but I do not intentionally flirt.0
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No! I try to think about it if the shoe was on the other foot. I know I wouldn't like it if my husband accepted a drink from another woman.0
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If the guy was smart, he wouldn't buy a random girl a drink unless they were conversing first.0
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If the guy was smart, he wouldn't buy a random girl a drink unless they were conversing first.
Yup, this! I live in a small town, too, but this has not happened to me. We would have to be already chatting it up for a guy to even offer to buy. I think it's very situational - depends on the person, the circumstances, what was exchanged already, my relationship (since this assumes a committed relationship), etc, etc. As a rule of thumb, I would likely not accept under the over-simplistic situation laid out here.0 -
Yes but I always start with "I'm married and I have 4 kids" usually the guys don't care. I've actually had this happen in front of my husband several times also. He thinks it's hilarious.0
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No and no.0
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no on the drink
but yea on the talking to them if they seem cool ....which is rare
its happened many times in front of previous partners not a big deal0 -
No.
Not that that ever happens. :laugh:0 -
Depends on creep factor.
It's my job to talk to people and I travel a LOT so I'll happily bullsh!t with anyone as long as it's kosher.
I see I'm the minority here. LOL oh well!0 -
Yes, but I am a bartender and have been for 18 years. That's how I met my partner of 12 years. I live in a town of about 30,000 so most of the guys who come up to me are customers. I take their drinks and say thank you and keep it friendly but professional. I have to keep a flirty yet distant relationship with my clientele. My partner is aware of the fact that I'm "on stage" when I go out and is okay with it because I don't take it to an inappropriate level.
Plus, in my experience both observing and being out, you can totally take a free drink and feel no obligation to say anything other than, "Thank you."
Let the bartender hand you the drink, for heaven's sake. Of course you don't take it from the guy.
I do want to say that friendly drink buying is super common where I live. People often by rounds for the bar or just any random people sitting nearby. It is considered a social faux pas not to take the drink (or if you don't want a drink, you will get a token for the next time you come in). The bartender will give you a token and take the person's money whether or not you want the drink. It's just the social custom in Montana.
^and everything she said here.0 -
Depends on creep factor.
It's my job to talk to people and I travel a LOT so I'll happily bullsh!t with anyone as long as it's kosher.
I see I'm the minority here. LOL oh well!
It can get tricky for military spouses. There's a TON of infidelity and it's a super small community. It makes everything easier if there's not even the appearance of impropriety. In many ways the military community is stuck in the 50s.
Also I'm antisocial and have no desire to talk to anyone. :laugh:0 -
No. In a committed relationship means my man buys my drinks. If I'm out with the girls, I'm out with the girls, not the girls and some random dude.0
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If I'm in a committed relationship... I wouldn't need to ask that question.0
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Yeah, sure. As long as I see the bartender pour the drink and it goes right into my hand. I'll chat with him too. I'd expect my bf to do the same. Actually, I'm pretty sure he does. He's a bar tender, gets bought drinks all the time and flirts for tips every day! haha...0
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I realize your question was directed at women, but I just wanted to say that this was the best answer by far:I'de be honest with the guy before he spends his cash and tell him I'm taken. If after he still wants to, sure! But it won't make a difference as I'm happily commited and will tell him that.0
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Nope. No sense in having a guy waste his money when I have no intent on giving him attention.0
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Nope, for one thing I do not drink alcohol. And another I am with someone and offering to buy a drink to me is being hit on so Id pass anyways. Politly of course lol0
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