Have You Ever Gotten "The Question?"

lmhbuss
lmhbuss Posts: 282 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
The other day at work a woman that I really like and respect asked me point blank, with lots of people around "So what exactly do you weigh right now?" All conversation stopped. All eyes turned to me. I was stunned for just a moment, but since obfuscation is not one of my greater talents I just answered her. "I weigh 219lbs down from 297. Still a ways to go yet."
It made me slightly uncomfortable to announce my weight in front of so many people...but I figure that is what I weigh and there's no sense in beating around the bush about it. Have you ever had someone ask you this question so directly? If so, how did you handle the situation? I ask because I have a feeling it's going to come up a few more times and I'd like some options. :happy:

Edited to add that as of the next morning I was down another pound. \m/
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  • hellomanen
    hellomanen Posts: 96 Member
    oh darn you are brave! I have! whenever the "weight topic" appears I'm always stared at and asked, since I'm the tallest of the class with at least half a head from the other tallest girl is...just... no I dodge the subject as I can (barely) saying that "weight fluctuates" or "it is different according on your heaight" etc
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    I tell people that I don't weigh, but go by what I see in the mirror and how my clothes fit.
  • AwesomeGuy37
    AwesomeGuy37 Posts: 436 Member
    I am proud of my weight. I wear it in my sig.
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I'm always surprised if someone asks me. It's a pretty personal question. I reluctantly answer. But in a room full of people?? I'd probably just say "I'm not telling everyone what I weigh..." Some people have no filter.
  • Aparz1
    Aparz1 Posts: 949
    yeah... used to get it all the time... I don't really care though so if asked I tell them even though it's none of their business... guess it doesn't make me uncomfortable
  • Apocalypz
    Apocalypz Posts: 155 Member
    "Are you normally this rude, or was this simply a lapse in judgement on your part?"

    "But to address your concern, because my life is about you, I've lost 79 lbs since I started my lifestyle change. Would you like some tips?" Then smile, not grin, but smile.
  • drcherokee
    drcherokee Posts: 16
    You could just say, "Oh, that's private...I don't talk about that." If they're offended, then tough. It's not necessarily an appropriate question to begin with, or at least it's perfectly appropriate and reasonable not to answer. Just like when people ask age, religion, politics, ethnicity, or income.

    NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! :D
  • maroonmango211
    maroonmango211 Posts: 908 Member
    "I don't know, I didn't weigh myself today. What about you?"
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    Numbers are just numbers. They don't define me. I'm always honest about. them. I've had people ask my age, clothing size, weight, etc. I just tell them. If you answer confidently and don't seem surprised or hesitant or shy about it, act like it's no big deal, it's likely others will react the same way.
  • LTKeegan
    LTKeegan Posts: 354 Member
    "Are you normally this rude, or was this simply a lapse in judgement on your part?"

    "But to address your concern, because my life is about you, I've lost 79 lbs since I started my lifestyle change. Would you like some tips?" Then smile, not grin, but smile.

    Amazing!!


    I just give the death glare. I'm pretty sure if I glared any harder I would be able to summon the force and choke them from across the room.

    I don't understand why people feel like they have the right to even ask!!
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    "I don't know, I didn't weigh myself today. What about you?"

    I like this one! lol
  • JG762
    JG762 Posts: 571 Member
    My response would have been; Are there any more questions that you want to ask me that are absolutely none of your business or is this the only one?

    Had I been in your shoes I would have laid into her for asking such a question in a public/work setting.
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
    Not that. But I have been asked my age and I have answered I would rather not discuss that, like how much money I make. It isn't a popular answer but I do believe we have the right to privacy. We also have the right to disclose. But just because someone tells me their stats doesn't obligate me to reveal mine. :wink:
  • lsorci919
    lsorci919 Posts: 772 Member
    Wow, putting you on the spot! I've been asked many times, but, not in front of a ton of people and it's always asked by people that I'm close to. Although I'm not shy about my weight, at least not anymore. I'm proud of what I weigh now and you should be to.
    We've worked hard to get there. Also remember they ask because of how far you've come.
  • enchantedgardener
    enchantedgardener Posts: 214 Member
    It's completely okay to say "that's none of your business" or "I'd rather not answer that". It IS a personal question, and no one needs to know the answer besides you and your doctor.

    I've had people ask me how much I've lost, which I'm happy to answer. I've never been asked directly how much I weigh, but I have mentioned it in conversation when the subject was weight gain/weight loss.
    I'm comfortable talking about my weight, but not everyone is. And that's okay.
  • PhearlessPhreaks
    PhearlessPhreaks Posts: 890 Member
    Wow, that's ballsy to ask a question like that. Like and respect or no, I'd be too pissed that they asked me in that sort of situation, with other people around, to answer kindly. "That's nobodys business" is probably the most polite thing that would come out of my mouth.

    And to answer your question, no, not in a public setting in front of others.
  • Super_Amy
    Super_Amy Posts: 97 Member
    Congratulations on your amazing weight loss.

    If it happens again say, "I'll tell if you do."
  • lmhbuss
    lmhbuss Posts: 282 Member
    Congratulations on your amazing weight loss.

    If it happens again say, "I'll tell if you do."
    THIS!! This is perfect! I will remember this if/when it comes up again. I LUV it. <happy dance>
  • christa279
    christa279 Posts: 222 Member
    It's happened to me and I typically answer. I've even had my sister's best friend attempt to lift my shirt to see my stomach in a room full of people. I did stop that and my sister said something to her friend about it being inappropriate.
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  • lmhbuss
    lmhbuss Posts: 282 Member
    It's happened to me and I typically answer. I've even had my sister's best friend attempt to lift my shirt to see my stomach in a room full of people. I did stop that and my sister said something to her friend about it being inappropriate.
    Wow. Just wow. I would have flipped out.
  • lmhbuss
    lmhbuss Posts: 282 Member
    It's funny, but it don't understand what the big deal is. If someone asked me, I'd just answer. I don't see why it's private information.
    In all honesty it's just makes me uncomfortable to have to admit how far from a healthy weight I still am. It's not something I can really hide...but yeah, I don't want to spray paint it on the side of a building either. :laugh:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Just tell her that is a weird and inappropriate question to ask someone, especially in the workplace.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    I've only had a couple of close family members ask. They were people that I didn't mind telling. At one was a teen, and it was actually good for me to tell her, because she was surprised at the number - she thought I weighed a lot less. It was good for her to know that the number on the scale doesn't tell the whole story.


    Now, if someone asked me that in public, they would get a hell of a snarky response. Probably starting with "You first"
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I've only had a couple of close family members ask. They were people that I didn't mind telling. At one was a teen, and it was actually good for me to tell her, because she was surprised at the number - she thought I weighed a lot less. It was good for her to know that the number on the scale doesn't tell the whole story.


    Now, if someone asked me that in public, they would get a hell of a snarky response. Probably starting with "You first"

    ^this. I don't mind if it's family or a really close friend. Other than that, I think it is very strange to ask someone that.
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    "Are you normally this rude, or was this simply a lapse in judgement on your part?"

    Some people have absolutely no boundaries or filter on what is appropriate. Yes, I have had people ask me and it's usually the ones who are fat and unhealthy. The slim and gorgeous friends are usually just so proud of me for making steps to be healthier and a better version of myself.

    What about...
    "Less than I did last month and more than I will next month"

    Or

    "I don't know I don't weigh myself anymore. What do you weigh?"
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    Hehe... You tell me yours and I'll tell you mine... Then wink.

    Or... Less than a house and more than a cracker.

    Or... I weigh everything. Kinda hard to track my calories otherwise. How about you? Do you weigh your food too?
  • eyleene
    eyleene Posts: 264 Member
    Ha ! I would probably have gone straight for the jugular and , then probably made them an offer for some personal rearrangements to their bodily parts then told them to mind their own f***ing business

    but i am snarky .
  • angie007az
    angie007az Posts: 406 Member
    Next time, just say that there are some things a LADY never tells, her weight and her age. Then just turn and walk away.
  • LTKeegan
    LTKeegan Posts: 354 Member


    Or... I weigh everything. Kinda hard to track my calories otherwise. How about you? Do you weigh your food too?

    This is amazing! I'm gonna save this!

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