Date at the gym...never again
I have know this guy for a little while and we have went out a few times like to the movies and out to eat.
This time he asked if we can go the the gym together and since i workout 6 days a week i said why not.
First thing first he was an hour late getting there ._. which was really irritating.
When he did get there he was the biggest newbie i have ever seen.
He told me he lifts all the time and goes to the gym nearly everyday and has been doing so for years.
I thought he was going to teach me something about weights and help me with barbells and stuff.
Well before the weights he literally got on every cardio machine he saw and did like 2 minutes and moved to the next one.
I asked what he was doing he said "This is how you get strong legs"..I look down at his legs and they are the smallest little sticks i have ever seen. So i just go with the flow getting on every cardio machine in that big gym.
After that we finally went to go lift..turns out i can lift double than what he can. He cannot use 20 pound dumbbells because its too heavy he has to use 10. He cannot squat with weights because they are too heavy and he had no idea how to bench press.
On top of that he doesnt talk a lot. He said 2 sentences to me the whole 2 hours. I would rather sit and watch paint dry then to try and have conversation with him.
Later that day he said he had a great time and would love to do it again. This guy just cannot be serious. I didnt break not one sweat the whole 2 hours with him. I didnt even burn 1 calorie besides just being alive.
Worst experience ever. What a waste.
This time he asked if we can go the the gym together and since i workout 6 days a week i said why not.
First thing first he was an hour late getting there ._. which was really irritating.
When he did get there he was the biggest newbie i have ever seen.
He told me he lifts all the time and goes to the gym nearly everyday and has been doing so for years.
I thought he was going to teach me something about weights and help me with barbells and stuff.
Well before the weights he literally got on every cardio machine he saw and did like 2 minutes and moved to the next one.
I asked what he was doing he said "This is how you get strong legs"..I look down at his legs and they are the smallest little sticks i have ever seen. So i just go with the flow getting on every cardio machine in that big gym.
After that we finally went to go lift..turns out i can lift double than what he can. He cannot use 20 pound dumbbells because its too heavy he has to use 10. He cannot squat with weights because they are too heavy and he had no idea how to bench press.
On top of that he doesnt talk a lot. He said 2 sentences to me the whole 2 hours. I would rather sit and watch paint dry then to try and have conversation with him.
Later that day he said he had a great time and would love to do it again. This guy just cannot be serious. I didnt break not one sweat the whole 2 hours with him. I didnt even burn 1 calorie besides just being alive.
Worst experience ever. What a waste.
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I didnt even burn 1 calorie besides just being alive.
This sentence made me giggle for some reason :laugh:
I probably would have left the second I saw his skinny legs... lol0 -
LOL! One of my best recent dates was a gym date. But he was a personal trainer, with an amazing physique, and knew exactly what he was doing. But yeah, I can see why your date wouldn't have been so fun!0
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I had one gym date, would consider it again, definitely added some sensual underlying tones to the training session0
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He probably didn't talk much because you out lifted him. Maybe he wants to do it again because he learned something from you and wants to learn more. Or maybe he was being nice and is running far, far away, changing from bike to stairs to flat land every two minutes.
Sorry it was so bad. I don't work out with my bf because I get too cranky with him. :drinker:0 -
I went to the gym with the woman I am seeing, but we just split up and did our own workout with a few winks in between sets and such, maybe a sentence spoken to eachother here and there. Then afterwards went out to eat. If he wants to go to the gym to socialize with you, that is your first red flag that he doesn't even lift.0
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well to be fair- I wouldn't go on a "gym" date and expect to be talking- I mean- it's not social hour.
I am not sure why you let him lead you around by the nose at the gym- if I was going to the gym with someone I would have a plan- either we are a doing a set work out- or we are going to do our own workouts.
I find working out with people more of a chore than not- but there is one person I like working out with- and we always have a good game plan and work well together getting stuff we both need done. But I would never let someone push me through a crappy workout.
Sorry for your luck- sounds like it's time to move on or clear your gym space for yourself.0 -
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well to be fair- I wouldn't go on a "gym" date and expect to be talking- I mean- it's not social hour.
I am not sure why you let him lead you around by the nose at the gym- if I was going to the gym with someone I would have a plan- either we are a doing a set work out- or we are going to do our own workouts.
I find working out with people more of a chore than not- but there is one person I like working out with- and we always have a good game plan and work well together getting stuff we both need done. But I would never let someone push me through a crappy workout.
Sorry for your luck- sounds like it's time to move on or clear your gym space for yourself.
I mean of course i didnt expect to have a full on conversation with him but a few words would have been nice since we were with each other the whole 2 hours. Even when we had to walk a 3 minute distance to our cars he said nothing. But i will be working out with myself only from now on lol.0 -
A gym date with the right person could be a sensual experience.....small twiggy legs are definitely NOT sensual
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I have a gym date 2 times a week and it is awesome. He's a great spotter and pushes me to bust my butt. He's also a beast, so there's that.0
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Did he look you in the eye and wink as he work the hip abductor machine? SO HAWT!0
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lolll to the original post.
At my gym one of the personal trainers is so hot. He called me "lovely" one day and i died inside. lol.0 -
I like to break at least two sweats at the gym, but then I work out with a hottie0
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I love gym dates with my boyfriend. We spot each other, don't talk much, and go out to eat afterwards. Definitely sensual with the right person. :bigsmile:0
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Oh wow I'm so sorry lol made me have a good laugh at work though! :laugh:0
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That sucks..I cant bear the thought of my date cannot out-do the training that I did so far..:noway: :noway: :grumble: :grumble:
I had a few swim date instead of gym..It was great to see him swimming faster than I did. Somehow he purposely flexed his broad shoulder,just to make me lose focus in swimming competition.0 -
It wouldn't have been a waste if you had made that the first date. Then you would've known right away he wasn't playing with a full a deck, and you could've avoided the other dates. Think about the multitude of things you could learn about a person by training with them and then eating or grocery shopping with them.0
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HA! This whole conversation is great. Small legs= no bueno. :ohwell:0
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I couldn't do a gym date. I am like Mr.T in Rocky III. I train alone, I prefer to be by myself0
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I really wish I'd have been a fly on the wall for this *LOL*0
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I have know this guy for a little while and we have went out a few times like to the movies and out to eat.
Worst experience ever. What a waste.
So, for clarification, you liked the guy enough to go out a few times with him prior to this epic disaster of a gym date. Are you still interested in the guy? Or did his inability to lift kill that for you? If you're still interested, you could think about trying to help and/or encourage him to get help learning how to lift - since he clearly needs it - rather than calling it a waste. We all start somewhere. If you aren't interested anymore, then that's a different story.0 -
I occasionally go to the gym with my husband. We do our own thing and do not work out together.
I did have a male lifting partner for a while. Nerdy kid from grad school. He started lifted less than me but then passed me up supper quick. Damn testosterone.
If you like the dude, why don't you send your friend there a link to Strong Lifts and tell him you want to do it together? He'll get stronger than you quick.0 -
I had a gym date once. We started off working together, then moved on to do our own thing. Eventually we both ended up on the mat doing crunches and planks. Then we ended up back at his place for a post workout. I don't think a gym date could ever be as good as that one was.0
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ok...you haven't said one thing about whether you liked him or not...this wasn't your first date with him so I'm assuming you DID like him enough to keep dating him....
if you like him...you have an opportunity to teach him...to show him...
he was out classed by your efforts and out done and he wasn't embarrassed enough that he pretended it didn't happen...
no....no...he came back and said he had a great time and would like to do it again....
if you like the guy outside of this experience...then this is AWESOME...
why, as women, do we ALWAYS have to assume that the men are the gym rats, the big lifters, the experienced ones to our "newbieness"
he wants to impress you, but it sounds like you can impress him....I would see this as a golden opportunity.
when I was dating my SO, about a month in, he asked if we could work out together. I was extremely nervous and shy, but I did it....now it's our best times together. We now live together and lift 3 -4 days a week in our home gym, we walk, we are active and we share in the activity....
I'm unsure why this is so horrible...the opportunity here is just gold...it's pure gold in my mind.0 -
50% of the members at this gym have reported favorable dating experiences and would repeat. The other 50 are called "bi+ches".
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You complain too much. No, seriously............Dude was probably nervous that if things didn't go well, you might go blab on the internet about how horrible he is. Maybe cut him some slack?0
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I asked what he was doing he said "This is how you get strong legs"..I look down at his legs and they are the smallest little sticks i have ever seen.
HAHAHA I went somewhere else with this one .
All in all, GYM dates are a terrible Idea at least for me. I don't talk to anyone,at all. Sometimes I switch my phone to airplane mode so I wont get interrupted. I feel I lose intensity if I speak with someone while lifting.0 -
ok...you haven't said one thing about whether you liked him or not...this wasn't your first date with him so I'm assuming you DID like him enough to keep dating him....
if you like him...you have an opportunity to teach him...to show him...
he was out classed by your efforts and out done and he wasn't embarrassed enough that he pretended it didn't happen...
no....no...he came back and said he had a great time and would like to do it again....
if you like the guy outside of this experience...then this is AWESOME...
why, as women, do we ALWAYS have to assume that the men are the gym rats, the big lifters, the experienced ones to our "newbieness"
he wants to impress you, but it sounds like you can impress him....I would see this as a golden opportunity.
when I was dating my SO, about a month in, he asked if we could work out together. I was extremely nervous and shy, but I did it....now it's our best times together. We now live together and lift 3 -4 days a week in our home gym, we walk, we are active and we share in the activity....
I'm unsure why this is so horrible...the opportunity here is just gold...it's pure gold in my mind.
I like him as a friend i guess. The reason why i went on dates with him is to see if he would finally open up. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt before this. I dont see it going any further.0 -
why did you even bother going out with him in the first place? wow. that gym "date" sounds godawful.0
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ok...you haven't said one thing about whether you liked him or not...this wasn't your first date with him so I'm assuming you DID like him enough to keep dating him....
if you like him...you have an opportunity to teach him...to show him...
he was out classed by your efforts and out done and he wasn't embarrassed enough that he pretended it didn't happen...
no....no...he came back and said he had a great time and would like to do it again....
if you like the guy outside of this experience...then this is AWESOME...
why, as women, do we ALWAYS have to assume that the men are the gym rats, the big lifters, the experienced ones to our "newbieness"
he wants to impress you, but it sounds like you can impress him....I would see this as a golden opportunity.
when I was dating my SO, about a month in, he asked if we could work out together. I was extremely nervous and shy, but I did it....now it's our best times together. We now live together and lift 3 -4 days a week in our home gym, we walk, we are active and we share in the activity....
I'm unsure why this is so horrible...the opportunity here is just gold...it's pure gold in my mind.
I like him as a friend i guess. The reason why i went on dates with him is to see if he would finally open up. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt before this. I dont see it going any further.
Then I hope as a decent human being you will be up front and direct with him. He sounds like a nice guy and deserves a little respect.0
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