People irritate the *kitten* out of me

jhellwig828

It should never be OK to talk about a person's weight. Ever. Period. I have worked at the same place for the past 14 years. Some of these people have known me almost half my life. And over the years (and 2 kids) I had put on some weight. I carried it well, thankfully, but it was totally unhealthy. Now that I have lost the bulk of it and am back to a healthy weight people are making all kinds of comments! "Oh you're too skinny now" "You need to stop losing weight" Mind you, I was this weight 14 years ago when I started working here and no one had anything to say about it then! It's just that they got used to seeing me heavier and now they aren't used to it. I'm so over. I've gotten to the point where I lie to people about whether or not I have more weight to lose. Granted, I'm only one pound away from my goal (!) but it still aggravates the *kitten* out of me!

Ok, rant over. Thanks for listening. Happy Friday :happy:

blc1971

I feel your pain!! I'm 1 lb to goal and I've taken to evading the question about whether or not I'm in maintenance yet. It's annoying to have to explain yourself. I don't generally get too aggravated because the people who comment to me are family and friends who I know for certain really do care about me. The problem is I'm 5'6", 149 lbs, and no where near too thin. I'm a grown woman and I do know how to take care of myself. I can decide if I'm at a healthy, satisfactory weight or if I need to gain or lose a few pounds.

I think it really does boil down to people getting used to the overweight you and they can't really wrap their brains around the slimmer you.

BTW, congrats on your success!! You've done amazing!

beachylove

First off congrats!! :happy:


I have been getting the same kind of remarks at work, I am only 1/2 to my goal and people keep telling me not to lose more. Really working at this office the last 5 years I have been my heaviest ever. They didnt know me at my smallest (when I was with my previous employer) so they have no base to know my healthy weight.

I think people just dont know how to handle change in those they see everyday....I dont know about your case but I know a couple here it has been jealousy that has spurred their comments.

allotmentgardener

I feel your pain!! I'm 1 lb to goal and I've taken to evading the question about whether or not I'm in maintenance yet. It's annoying to have to explain yourself. I don't generally get too aggravated because the people who comment to me are family and friends who I know for certain really do care about me. The problem is I'm 5'6", 149 lbs, and no where near too thin. I'm a grown woman and I do know how to take care of myself. I can decide if I'm at a healthy, satisfactory weight or if I need to gain or lose a few pounds.

I think it really does boil down to people getting used to the overweight you and they can't really wrap their brains around the slimmer you.

BTW, congrats on your success!! You've done amazing!

I am 5ft 6 and I can't wait till I am 149lb - I'm currently in the 190's. Congratulations on your dedication and effort!

kwantlen2051

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I think people just dont know how to handle change in those they see everyday....I dont know about your case but I know a couple here it has been jealousy that has spurred their comments.

This!
Congrats on your achievement!

qtgonewild

I cant wait until someone tells me to stop losing weight LOL

Shuuma

My friend lost a great deal of weight two years ago and has maintained for over a year. People STILL tell her she's "melting away." Her response is "You have to get the 'fat me' out of your mind. I've been this size for 14 months."

Sometimes, people have to get new "us" into their minds before those comments stop.

Congrats on your hard work!

rachelg145

I saw your profile pic. Goal weight, check. Boobs, check. Curves, check. Until you appear like a young boy with no boobs or hips or butt, you are exactly how you should be. Lean and ladylike! Don't let the people bringing in the donuts make you feel like you have to explain anything. You look great!

fredgiblet

It's probably jealousy. Have they been bulking up a bit too? If so they have probably adjusted their thoughts of what's "OK" upwards and now they think you're unhealthy.

joeysfacts

Yep, I have the same problem. I've actually been maintaining now for almost a year and still getting the odd comment of "Oh you are too skiinny" or "stop losing weight". My gawd, I'm 5'2" and weigh between 125-127 lbs. I'm muscle and not skin and bones! It has only been comments from women I work with and not men though. I also get the odd teasing on my healthy eating and gluten free options. I chalk it up to envy.

Congrats on your weight loss;)

AsaThorsWoman

Raw envy.

Kevalicious99

I think this is a girl issue . as I never ever get asked about my weight .. and I am considerably less overweight than I was 8 months ago. If someone was to say something I would just tell them I have lost over 40 lbs of body fat and gained 6 lbs of muscle and feel wonderful.

Mischievous_Rascal

Question...are you the same body composition before? I weigh the same as before I gained all kinds of weight, but my body fat percentage is probably about 10% lower than then. I still hate the "skinny" word (since I'm quite proud of the muscle I've built), but that's the factor behind my friends' and family's comments. (To the point where some don't even believe me when I say I weigh the same.)

AwesomeGuy37

I got that before when I was 200 pounds! Everyone said I was perfect and needed to stop there. My BMI and (old) doctor told me I should weigh 155 lbs. I told my mom I had a goal weight of 170, and she said I was going to get too thin. LOL.
I'm trying to persuade her to eat tho..she dropped to 95 lbs. since I last saw her. She is grossly underweight.

Tracey_B_72

This is something I've experiance a lot to, you've lost enough now or you don't want to start looking unwell!!! Also I get back handed compliments from family that go, "your ok you've lost your weight now" and "it was always your arms that looked really fat" that one really bugged me!

I'm 5'6 and 147 is my goal weight and I'm almost back there after a winter gain and I still get comments from people I don't see often, it would be nice if they just gave a nice compliment and thought their opinion they don't have to go hand in hand.

withintherose

I get the melting away comments often since I have been working in an office for over a year now (and dropped 70lbs+ of my current loss while working there). My response is that it will keep melting away until I am where I want to be fitness-wise. People talk... that is what they do.

skrlec70

Ive been there also, annoying as hell, funny the ones I surpassed in the figure area were the first people to blap about how thin I was, HA! go suck an egg !
keep doing what you are doing , for you only I might add, it annoys the crap out of them LOLOL

earlybrd7

Sorry if I'm repeating something someone already said, but I understand where you're coming from. I think there were a couple of people at work that actually thought I was starving myself or something - very embarrassing. However, there is hope! Just as people got used to seeing you heavier, they will get used to seeing you smaller and healthier - eventually the comments will blow over. I wouldn't be surprised if somewhere down the road people start coming to you for fitness and diet advice

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Lorichr

I think people just dont know how to handle change in those they see everyday....I dont know about your case but I know a couple here it has been jealousy that has spurred their comments.

This is exactly right. It's much easier for people to stay heavy and unhealthy when everyone around them is doing the same. When someone takes steps to change and succeeds they get uncomfortable and the stupid comments start.I ignore them for the most part.

Laura732

I just tell 'em I'm trying to get down to fightin' weight.

Mygsds

First, you did an amazing job. Congrats on the weight loss. I hate how people get up in your business. I take my lunch as do the others in our lab. My favorite is"is that all your having?". Well, at the same time I have a LARGE salad with tons of vegetables with probably chicken in it. She, on the other hand , is having sandwich, fries and soda. Yeah , next to her I am eating less. But you eat what you eat and I will eat what I want. People just don't get it. Again, congrats

bdruggles

Some of it might be envy. Some of it is just cluless, they don't know what to say, so just spout whatever comes to mind. In time, when the you they see isn't new to them, some of them will adjust and shut up. In the meantime, there is one rule -- You don't own any of them an explanation. You do what you need to do for you! And congrats on your success!!!

Branstin

You don't owe those people an explanation for your choices.

jhellwig828

Thanks all! It's so nice to be able to come here and have people understand what I'm going through!!!

ebayaddict0127

I think people are just trying to compliment you on your weight loss. I personally am cool with people mentioning my loss (so far anyway...) Just take it in stride.

ashleyisgreat

Honestly, I have seen people lose too much weight, but even then I would never say anything about it to them. I wouldn't want someone getting up in my business about my body, so I wouldn't do that to someone else, even if they did appear to be too thin. If you feel good about your body, then rock it and ignore the rude people. They're clueless!

einzweidrei

I have been hearing this crap since December. My family tells me all of the time I look too thin. I will admit---I do look very thin now and considering I was just about to be overweight (not there yet) before I started losing, I can see how the loss seems dramatic. However, it is a constant conversation. Constant. I am told to eat more when I'm sitting at my parents' house stuffing my face while being told I eat too much junk.

Yet I am the only one who:
-Isn't overweight
-Doesn't have a plethora of medical problems

wolf23

I always thought it was odd that people (not family, they comment on everything) feel perfectly comfortable commenting on one's weight when they are losing with the snarky remarks, but you would never hear them comment if one was gaining weight. It is such a double standard.

You are doing great. Don't let it bother you and eventually they will get used to the new slimmer you.

suzyfrancoise

I totally know what you are saying, my family is always telling me I am too skinny, my partner wants to fatten me up..
I am the weight I am happy with, well I would like to be a few pounds lighter, but.....
I am so sick of people saying, oh you can afford to eat more you are so skinny, well I did not get skinny by eating... think about it.
just because they are over weight, they should be supportive

dlbredesen

Some people at work have made comments about me not needing to lose any more weight. Actually I haven't lost any more weight in a few months but I can tell I am getting a bit smaller by the fit of my clothes. I am by no means too thin. Some ask me how I have lost the weight. I always tell them that I follow MFP. They listen intently, even write down the website. A few days later they will tell me that they can't be bothered with all of that food logging and calorie counting. I am in agreement with the previous posters, it's a jealousy thing. They just don't want it bad enough.