anyone else intimidated by their friends

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  • beachgod
    beachgod Posts: 567 Member
    edit: n/m. Trying to get HealthyNurseK's gif to post but it won't.
  • gusgoo13
    gusgoo13 Posts: 1
    Don't be - I applaud them for their dedication but be proud of what you do. I am way more active/healthy than most of my friends but there's one or 2 that put my behaviours to shame. I'm proud of them, but my life is full enough, I've lost 16 pounds, I'm fit , I'm healthy, I'm going to be proud to prance around a beach in a bikini soon - that's all that matters. I workout and eat well to be healthy - I've achieved that goal and there's nothing anyone else is doing that will make me feel less proud of myself and the DAMN HARD WORK it took to get here. I've said proud so many time :) - it's a theme. If being fit and healthy was easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't need these forums. Every time you take the stairs mentally sing "I'm awesome, I'm awesome" - everytime you balance a meal, repeat it.
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    If by "intimidated" you mean "inspired" sure! My friends are awesome:flowerforyou:
  • c2111
    c2111 Posts: 693 Member
    Wow thank you people you are all amazing and inspiring, ok I won't give it another thought:) just a happy me doing what's best for me :) oh I'm at goal weight I just feel guilty when I'm not pushing out huge burns its weird, when I was losing and getting fit one of my goals was ti burn 1000 in a day. I did it :).but it took a lot to do it, and I admire all those who cab but shir it wad hard work ! And love the roo and bears :) thank you (pls read between spelling mistakes I am on a phone its cheap and Chinese therefore I have no control over my spelling) if I try it deletes everything its bonkers .
  • There are no friends here....

    only people you shoot right away to put them down



    and those you keep around a while....because useful...
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    No. I do my own thing, I am not in anyone else's race but my own. I stopped competing with others and started competing with myself a long time ago and you wouldn't believe how my life changed for the better! And my fitness.
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  • Noogynoogs
    Noogynoogs Posts: 1,028 Member
    That's what keeps us on " the straight and narrow" having fearsome friends :)
  • Chain_Ring
    Chain_Ring Posts: 753 Member
    Intimidated?
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
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  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Ok my cal burn sits about 200 to 400 a day, I have friends that burn up atleast a thousand a day , I'm intimidated, I feel inadequate ! I should be doing more and I'm annoyed at that and jealous that's all , anyone else feel this ? And if theres gifs pls feature a koala or kangaroo :o. Bit of patriotism never hurt anyone and I'm sick of cat gifs !

    Your friends are probably doing it wrong, unless they do mountain hiking or canoeing (or similar) for like several hours.
  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    I'm inspired by what my friends do - always happy when they have a great workout!

    We all have the same goal - and when I see they are just as serious about theirs as I am about mine - it makes my day!
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    I've never EVER burned even close to 1000 calories during a day in workouts. I don't know how people do it, and I have to admit I always think to myself, "yeah, right." They may be overestimating, but maybe not. I think the most I've burned in a day working out is 600, and that was thanks to a 60 minute hardcore FitnessBlender HIIT workout. Sure, I felt awesome about myself afterward, but I'm certainly not going to do that every day.

    My average burn each day is 200-250 in a 30-minute routine. That's it. If I burned 1000 calories, I'd have to eat a lot more. That sounds easy, but I know I'd be tempted to use up those extra calories with sweets and other foods I'd rather not indulge in (during the week, anyway). I'm happy with my mediocre burn. I stay within my calorie/macro limits more often than not and I'm losing steadily. That's all that matters!

    Burning 1000 calories in a workout is almost always cardio. I can't stand cardio. If I do it twice in a week, I feel good about myself. I'd rather do strength training, burn less calories, and still see good results. If my friends like cardio, they can have it, good for them. We all have to figure out what works for us, so there's no need to be intimidated.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    Nope not at all

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Ok my cal burn sits about 200 to 400 a day, I have friends that burn up atleast a thousand a day , I'm intimidated, I feel inadequate ! I should be doing more and I'm annoyed at that and jealous that's all , anyone else feel this ? And if theres gifs pls feature a koala or kangaroo :o. Bit of patriotism never hurt anyone and I'm sick of cat gifs !

    Your friends are probably doing it wrong, unless they do mountain hiking or canoeing (or similar) for like several hours.
    I can bun 1,000 calories in 90 minutes on the elliptical or rollerblading.
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    No. Not really. I assume that if it was that important to me I would exercise to the exclusion of doing anything else.
  • c2111
    c2111 Posts: 693 Member
    It's just comforting to know that others are doing the same, I mix it up I rock climb, run, Pilates, lift weights I mix it up and I work and I have kids I never sit down , well except for mfp time , I just miss that fire I had when I was losing weight and I'm jealous and proud of my beautiful and amazing friends who push out huge numbers wish I.could , that's all yeah jealousy I guess but I do .m
    love them they are awesome
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    As someone who routinely burns 600-1500 cals and has friends who burn a daily 1000+ (mostly through running) I'd just say worry about your own four walls. Do what works for you. I believe in surrounding yourself with talented people that challenge you (stay away from the word "inadequate"). There's probably people that are intimidated by you as well and maybe even look up to you. If you don't feel like you're posting "good" numbers, switch to TDEE and keep it a secret :)
  • b3st
    b3st Posts: 1,350 Member
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    No, come at me bro.
  • aribugg
    aribugg Posts: 164 Member
    When i first arrived here, i felt the same way. my average day was 300 tops. i was so excited when i started burning 500 a day, and now i try to push my minimum to 800, or 500- 400 on lazy days. but i still get a bit grumbly when i see people burning sooo much in one day all the time. but i'll get there, and so will you! im sure they didnt start out right there, just like us. they earned it over time.
  • kamac413
    kamac413 Posts: 6 Member
    #1 - Most people overestimate their calorie burn. Most home/gym equipment overestimate calorie burn by as must as 50%.

    #2 - Scientific studies have shown that cortisol (the stress hormone that, among other things, dictates fat storage) increases in the body after 30 minutes of exercise. Yes, it's true .... your body views long periods of exercise as a threat so it produces more cortisol to protect itself ... thus the potential for more fat storage.

    #3 - If you start doing HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) you can spend as little as 15-20 minutes 3 days a week and burn off far more calories (HIIT burns calories for a minimum of 24 hours whereas long extended slow cardio sessions only burn calories while you are doing it) and burn more fat.

    So ... who cares what your friends are doing. There is no proof that what they are doing is either effective or efficient. Do what you do and dont worry about them. :)
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I feel left out as well....
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I don't concern myself with other people's burns...I have people on my FL who are posting astronomical burns for what amounts to recreational activity...I have others on my FL who are training for triathlons and century rides and marathons, etc who are legitimately burning those kind of calories...but guess what...they're actually "training" not just working out and they don't train year around....and they also eat like 3,000 - 4,000 calories to accommodate that kind of training.

    Your calorie deficit for weight loss is already included in your calorie goal...you don't need to "burn" anything with exercise to lose weight...this is why you're supposed to eat back exercise calories with MFP. Do you know how to "eat back" 1,000 calories of exercise burn?

    Again, stop worrying about what others are doing and focus on your own fitness and nutrition goals. Your friends may or may not be doing anything right at all.
  • c2111
    c2111 Posts: 693 Member
    I feel left out as well....
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    Awwwww and thanks everyone especially the lady before this roo post
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    OP, I think it might help you to remember that your friends didn't add you because you're going to be the anchor of their relay team.

    I am fortunate to have awesome friends. The fast majority of them (maybe all!) could beat me running, lifting, etc. I'm really proud of them and their accomplishments. But that ain't me. I gotta do what works well with my body and in my life.

    Just be you, OP. It's all gravy!
  • finallylean
    finallylean Posts: 553 Member
    My friends don't intimidate me, they motivate me to do better!
  • c2111
    c2111 Posts: 693 Member
    Nooooo I don't need any nutrition advice or weightliss advice I'm good, I mix it up I mountain climb once a week , I run 5 k z 3 week I lift weights everyother day that is changing my body and do yoga about twice a week, I'm all good I just miss and jealous of those huge ****ing burns , I live that my friends burn 1000 I just don't kit that.mark anymore. I'm close when I.climb but I always scale it hack ad I feel its an overestimated burn that's just me x
  • EddieHaskell97
    EddieHaskell97 Posts: 2,227 Member
    My friends don't intimidate me, they motivate me to do better!

    ^^-- This!
  • c2111
    c2111 Posts: 693 Member
    Dam it I need a new phone !
  • chelstakencharge
    chelstakencharge Posts: 1,021 Member
    um...no! Intimidated, really this is not high school. All my friends are very encouraging and we are all on different levels.