Thanks and No Thanks

TasteofEnvy
TasteofEnvy Posts: 123 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hello fellow fitness pals :3
A week ago I posted this ( http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1248510-i-just-wanna-ing-quit ) in the Motivation and Support forum.
I would like to say a few things (don't worry, no swearing this time).

I would first like to apologize for my behavior and attitude in this post. I was having a very bad week due to finals coming up, five essays being due, and friends being at each others throats (with me being awkwardly caught in the middle). So when I saw that I had gained weight, it became the straw that broke the camel's back. I wanted support and help. Some of you gave me this help and support. Some of you nicely put how I was over reacting to something that was most likely water weight. But it was when people started calling me a "troll" and basically saying I had no right to be a psychology major that sent me off the edge. Was it immature of me to swear? Yes. But it was very heartbreaking to see my plea for support mocked... the people who did this have no right to be posting in the Motivation and Support forum.

Other than that, I'd love to thank the few people who actually gave supporting words. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much it meant for me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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  • Amandawith3kids
    Amandawith3kids Posts: 367 Member
    you gotta have thick skin when you post on an internet forum. i forgot that when i started here too.
  • LunaZuriel
    LunaZuriel Posts: 77 Member
    Tell me about it...=-/ it's like people weren't raised properly.

    Just hang in there, I'll be here if you need me.
  • monstergirl14
    monstergirl14 Posts: 345 Member
    There are quite a few people who don't belong here, who say terrible things because they're hiding behind a computer screen. They use the internet and public forum as an excuse to display their true colors. We shouldn't have to tolerate it, but apparently they feel entitled to share an unwarranted and uncalled for opinion. There are other places and other forums for people to be turds, but no, they go to the motivation and support board to be the exact opposite of what we need, lol.

    Stress does terrible things mentally, and it's perfectly understandable that you may have exaggerated any circumstances.
  • uconnwinsnc
    uconnwinsnc Posts: 1,054 Member
    I've spent thousands of hours in internet forums during high school and into college so I learned how to deal with people on forums before coming here. Once you get into a situation where people start attacking you, you have to bail instantly. Stop responding and stop looking at the thread. People get all excited when the person they are bullying is getting worked up, and they don't like when the victim doesn't respond. It's different on the internet than in real life. Just shut the thread out completely and move on. This is a forum with lots of socially rejected and bitter people. Things can get nasty when they find their first opportunity to finally pick on someone else.

    You don't have to apologize for anything. We all go through nasty weeks when we just need to vent.
  • Libertysfate
    Libertysfate Posts: 452 Member
    There are quite a few people who don't belong here, who say terrible things because they're hiding behind a computer screen. They use the internet and public forum as an excuse to display their true colors. We shouldn't have to tolerate it, but apparently they feel entitled to share an unwarranted and uncalled for opinion. There are other places and other forums for people to be turds, but no, they go to the motivation and support board to be the exact opposite of what we need, lol.

    ^Yep. These people are everywhere and you will come across them several times throughout your life, but the internet seems to be a big place for them to gather and spread their negativity and hate.
  • TheGymGypsy
    TheGymGypsy Posts: 1,023 Member
    This place is just as bad as any other internet forum. No matter what you say, someone is going to ridicule or yell at your for it. I've had my fair share of my words being twisted around and used against me. Just take it with a grain of salt. A lot of times it's just unhappy people who have nothing better to do, or someone who is having a bad/stressful day themselves.
  • MagJam2004
    MagJam2004 Posts: 651 Member
    I've spent thousands of hours in internet forums during high school and into college so I learned how to deal with people on forums before coming here. Once you get into a situation where people start attacking you, you have to bail instantly. Stop responding and stop looking at the thread. People get all excited when the person they are bullying is getting worked up, and they don't like when the victim doesn't respond. It's different on the internet than in real life. Just shut the thread out completely and move on. This is a forum with lots of socially rejected and bitter people. Things can get nasty when they find their first opportunity to finally pick on someone else.

    You don't have to apologize for anything. We all go through nasty weeks when we just need to vent.

    You cut me to the quick sir. I got all wrapped up in a thread a few weeks ago, and it was only after telling my wife all about it that midway through I realized I had transported myself back in time to fight a fight I fought and lost a long time ago. I was taking it out on people who weren't there, didn't care, and share no blame...I was out of line. Tough lesson, but an important one.
  • uconnwinsnc
    uconnwinsnc Posts: 1,054 Member
    There are quite a few people who don't belong here, who say terrible things because they're hiding behind a computer screen. They use the internet and public forum as an excuse to display their true colors. We shouldn't have to tolerate it, but apparently they feel entitled to share an unwarranted and uncalled for opinion. There are other places and other forums for people to be turds, but no, they go to the motivation and support board to be the exact opposite of what we need, lol.

    ^Yep. These people are everywhere and you will come across them several times throughout your life, but the internet seems to be a big place for them to gather and spread their negativity and hate.

    Especially an internet forum where the majority of the users were, at some point, social rejects for being fat/bullied/embarrassed/teased/lonely/depressed/sad/angry/confused. There are more underlying problems in this forum than probably 99% of other internet forums.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    you gotta have thick skin when you post on an internet forum. i forgot that when i started here too.

    This. Be aware that when you put yourself out there for anonymous yet very public scrutiny, you get all sorts of responses, the good along with the bad.
  • beth4dieting3
    beth4dieting3 Posts: 80 Member
    It takes a lot to be humble enough to admit wrong-doing. Everybody has bad days and maybe some of the negative answers to your post were by people also having bad days. I hope things are better now. Best of luck.
  • Pirate_chick
    Pirate_chick Posts: 1,216 Member
    I've spent thousands of hours in internet forums during high school and into college so I learned how to deal with people on forums before coming here. Once you get into a situation where people start attacking you, you have to bail instantly. Stop responding and stop looking at the thread. People get all excited when the person they are bullying is getting worked up, and they don't like when the victim doesn't respond. It's different on the internet than in real life. Just shut the thread out completely and move on. This is a forum with lots of socially rejected and bitter people. Things can get nasty when they find their first opportunity to finally pick on someone else.

    You don't have to apologize for anything. We all go through nasty weeks when we just need to vent.

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  • Deedle7544
    Deedle7544 Posts: 185 Member
    I hope everything is going better for you now.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    ok
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    just like oil and water.....manners and internet do not mix \m/
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    The blog feature of this site is a good one. Use it for venting, not the forums.
  • TasteofEnvy
    TasteofEnvy Posts: 123 Member
    Thanks for the advice you guys. Glad I'm not the only one who's had to deal with this stuff >w<
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    But it was when people started calling me a "troll" and basically saying I had no right to be a psychology major that sent me off the edge.

    99% or people who look to psychology as a major do so to fix themselves. So you'll be fine.

    As for being a troll...9 post or which most are controversial, and no photos. You aren't making a strong case against it.

    Any way, all the best in your endeavors.

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