Down 37 pounds but don't feel successful?

RHachicho

Hehe take a look at my ticker. I'm in worse shape than you and yeah I totally get it. What helped me was to have clear goal points so that I could see my progress. My first goal point I have already passed. Being able to do squats and star jumps. My next goal. Which I am getting pretty close to is being able to do a genuine push up. Those made me see real progress and kept me hanging in there. After I can manage a push up my next goal will be to be able to do a pull up

zyxst

I don't feel successful with weight loss. Other people think I'm awesome, but I'm still the same person in a not-so-fat body.

navygrrl

You have done an awesome job! I know how you feel - on one hand, you've lost so much weight, but on the other hand, there's still so far to go. Looking at the big picture can be overwhelming, but I try to focus on meeting smaller goals. Those smaller goals break up the big goal into manageable pieces.

You've lost the amount of weight of an average 3-4 year old child. That's a lot! You've done so well, and I know you can keep going!

doctorsookie

put on a pair of pants that fit when you started. then you will see the difference. that is a great accomplishment and you should feel very good about yourself. i know the person losing weight is the last person to notice because we see it everyday but others have noticed by now and yare proud of your journey. keep up the great work.

toadg53

Totally feel the same way. As of yesterday, I hit my 100# loss mark. I still have 38# to go to meet my "rough" goal. But I too am having a hard time being proud of what I have accomplished. Just becuz I am disgusted with myself for LETTING myself get to this point in the first place. Especially since about 7 years ago, I had lost weight on South Beach and got down to about 10# more than I am right now, and due to some emotional/other stuff in my life, put it all back on. This time I know I can do it, and it's all under control, but still it's definitely a "head" thing and I realize that even after the weight issue is under control and I DO meet my goal, I'll definitely have to deal with a mental issue that will probably take even longer than it took to lose the weight. But it'll come, I know it will. In the meantime, I feel SOOO very much better, look better, my whole outlook on life is better. So it's all good. And with time, it'll all meld into one. That's my take on it. And ya, I have to do the picture thing. I've always hated pix of myself, so didn't do that. I did do the measurements, and have had to buy new unders 5 times during this journey and totally buy new clothes twice, so have a pretty small wardrobe right now. But the measurements tell it all.

KittyLumpkins

You sound exactly like me. Then I gave up and gained it all back. This time I know that baby steps are still steps in the right direction and this is a LOOOONG process that may take me a year (or two).

EDWARDSMOMMY2

You go girl!! You can only get to your goal by losing SOMETHING!!

_HeartsOnFire_

The first thing you have to do is kick that negative nancy that's in your head making you feel like a failure to the curb. She's obviously delusional, you've lost 37 pounds!!! That's AMAZING!!! So kick that negative nancy out, and keep going! You're doing awesome.

It's a hard habit to break, I know, been there. You have to work on it every day. When you start feeling like a failure say 37 lbs!

zanne54

YES! I know all too well what you're feeling. I started at 240. Strangely, I felt "fattest" throughout the 190s-170's range. The best way I can explain it, is at 240, I was fat all over and it was proportionate. But once I hit onederland, my arms and legs thinned out, but my torso and hips were still heavy - so I looked disproportionately "fatter" in those areas. Which was a huge buzzkill when I should have been revelling in my success of a significant, fast loss. Because let's face it, you & I both started in January (or so says your profile), a year apart, and a 30+ loss in that time is quite a drastic change.

All I can offer you is to focus on where you're going; not where you came from. Patience, dedication and perseverance. Keep at it, and DO NOT GIVE UP. Set yourself smaller, interim goals because this next part is where it's a grind. Add in an exercise goal as well (if you can) to keep yourself motivated. What worked for me was adding a secondary goal of a 500 daily calorie burn.

And yes, there are days that I'm ashamed that I let myself get up to 240. WTF was I thinking? Why didn't I do anything earlier? However, I can't go back in time to fix that, and I'm not going to allow myself to be pessimistic and beat myself up over something I can't change. All I can do is move forward, and make sure that I NEVER allow myself to start that slide again. I'm within a pound of my original goal weight of 160. Which I'll likely pass and reduce to 155. So that in the future, should I see 160 on the scale again - early warning system alarm bells will go off, and I'll immediately take steps to correct it BEFORE I find myself at 240 again.

And finally, you should also congratulate yourself that you realized you needed to do something at only 263 lbs. It could have been a lot higher had you done nothing for another year!

flatlndr

I feel just as large today as I did when I started. My mind knows I've lost weight, my clothes know I've lost weight and the scale tells me I lost weight! but I don't 'see it' maybe one day my head will catch up to my body. You are def not alone!

I felt like this when I hit 35 lbs down. A friend told me to fill up a backpack with 30 lbs of weights and walk up and down the stairs a few times. It was a great demonstration of what a difference the weight loss made for me. I was huffing and puffing carrying the backpack load, while the lighter me had no troubles.

Comparing photos helped ... and looking at your photos, it's made a big difference for you.

Be proud of what you have done, and keep carrying on!

BlueButterfly94

Don't feel ashamed of yourself! You are working hard to build a healthier you. You should feel proud that you've lost those almost 40lbs!