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  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    ((hugs))

    You may have loved him but it doesn't sound like he loved you, he just liked having someone around to fawn over him - until he didn't. I'm sorry you've had to go through this and hope things turn around for you soon!

    If nothing else, please take this as a huge life lesson and approach your next relationships with a little of this experience in the back of your mind. No need to be overly cautious or untrusting but now that you've gone through this, you'll know the signs and need to make sure you don't turn a blind eye to them no matter how charming the guy is.
  • craftywitch_63
    craftywitch_63 Posts: 829 Member
    I'm so sorry you're going through this. While in college, I had a relationship like this. I became a clinging vine, which I wasn't before and haven't been since. For those who say you've dodged a bullet - you have. I ended up 19, pregnant, and no baby daddy to be found (my daughter's now a beautiful, loving 31 y/o now with two of the most precious boys on the face of the earth.)

    If I have any advice it's this: allow yourself to grieve and get over this loser. It may take a while but you're young, you have time. If you don't, you will end up in a string of disastrous relationships just like this one. Once you're truly over him, you can find the right guy. One that loves you for who you truly are.

    :flowerforyou:
  • AnthonyThrashD
    AnthonyThrashD Posts: 306 Member
    I feel bad for you because of your heartbreak and isolation in wales **HUGS**

    The golden rules of surviving any relationship, created by me, just now...holy crap, I should write book :P

    Your mate better be a pair of golden hand cuffs. he/she needs to keep giving you reasons to stick around. When those reasons stop, you bail.

    A golden parachute comes in handy when you're bailing. If you get involved or married, always keep a few friends. they'll most likely be part of your exit strategy.

    The golden ratio isn't just for artists and math geeks. Always keep a portion of your income, for relationship emergencies. It's bad enough to be dumped or to split, it really sucks with no money.

    And if you cheat on your bf/gf, remember...silence is golden. Don't tell anyone, that includes your mom&dad, BFF, friends at work and craftywitch_6 on mfp :D

    and...next time some one keeps giving you advice on your relationship who knows nothing about it (like me) politely tell him/her this: "thanks for the advice, but I don't need any more...I already have two fistfuls of bad ideas"

    :D
  • Kixshots
    Kixshots Posts: 74 Member
    I feel bad for you because of your heartbreak and isolation in wales **HUGS**

    The golden rules of surviving any relationship, created by me, just now...holy crap, I should write book :P

    Your mate better be a pair of golden hand cuffs. he/she needs to keep giving you reasons to stick around. When those reasons stop, you bail.

    A golden parachute comes in handy when you're bailing. If you get involved or married, always keep a few friends. they'll most likely be part of your exit strategy.

    The golden ratio isn't just for artists and math geeks. Always keep a portion of your income, for relationship emergencies. It's bad enough to be dumped or to split, it really sucks with no money.

    And if you cheat on your bf/gf, remember...silence is golden. Don't tell anyone, that includes your mom&dad, BFF, friends at work and craftywitch_6 on mfp :D

    and...next time some one keeps giving you advice on your relationship who knows nothing about it (like me) politely tell him/her this: "thanks for the advice, but I don't need any more...I already have two fistfuls of bad ideas"

    :D

    That made me smile :smile: I really like the golden handcuffs analogy

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