Weight Loss Envy?

dsb188

Has anyone dealt with a friend, co worker, etc who have made snarky comments about the weight you have lost?

I have had people tell me "It doesn't look like you lost that much" or "its just water weight" etc. I'm down about 43 pounds and I'm proud of that. It makes me happy to see people who have lost anything at all. I think its motivation to see someone who has lost more weight than me because it makes me wants to keep going.

I just see the positive in all of it but I notice some people are not as excited about it. Its not easy to lose weight it just bothers me people are so quick to downplay your success be it 1lb to 100lbs. Either way its great in my book!

albayin

only me envy others who can lose easier than me...nobody else envies me yet.
I have to say I am bitter from time to time because of frustration of my own lack of progress but I try not to make snarky comments on others only joke with my friends by mocking myself.

catrip1024

My other half told me the other day that he felt guilty because I was losing weight and he wasn't even trying. It made me feel a little guilty for talking about losing weight and for watching what I'm eating. I didn't really know what to say.

-Carla

nomad1000

H sometimes gives me a hard time for losing more weight than him this year. But then I point out that I am weighing and measuring the stuff I eat and staying on goal. That usually shuts him up.

Though I probably have been gloating a bit more than I should but it is the first time ever I have lost more than him over the same time period. Usually his loss is more than double what I may lose.

weewdy

Yes i have had it from a fellow co worker asking me what drugs i was taking. I have also had another saying "oh you dont look like you have lost that, youve quite a bit to go".

I get upset about these and other comments i have had but it makes me all the more determined to succeed in what i want regarding my weight.

Eric_DeCastro

haters are going to hate. don't pay them any mind. You are doing it for yourself not for them. and when you look fabulous and they say wow you look great, just tell them...I know I do.

stefaniem76

Even worse is the judgement of what I eat. I eat very healthy, and have for the past year, even though my weighloss has only been about 10 pounds (not that noticeable on a 212 lb frame)...so I get the constant judgement when people see what I bring in to eat and say "oh trying to get healthy?" or "oh trying to lose weight?" Constantly. No, I just happen to like this food!!!! It's frustrating.

tquill

43 pounds of water weight? lol

jim9097

My other half told me the other day that he felt guilty because I was losing weight and he wasn't even trying. It made me feel a little guilty for talking about losing weight and for watching what I'm eating. I didn't really know what to say.

-Carla

NO NO NO!! You don't feel guilty about that!! You do what you are doing and give encouragement to your OH when appropriate. You may find if you play this right that he will join and you guys will share a common interest that will bring you closer. But you can't force the issue either; people have to come to terms with this on their own!

seltzermint555

I think one of my friends is slightly jealous, although she is definitely happy for me too. She has never been obese on the level that I was (5'8" and 307 lb was my largest and I think her largest was around 190 lb at 5'3"). A little over a year ago she was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes and changed her diet and she lost around 35-40 lb in just a couple of months, and got really excited about being so much thinner and wearing smaller sizes and so on. Meanwhile I was losing very slowly but also a very considerable amount. I am still much larger than her, and probably always will be since I am just a bigger person than she is and 5+ inches taller. But I think it bugs her sometimes that I am continuing to go down in sizes. She has backslid a bit into previous eating habits now that her diabetes is under control, and is wearing a size 12 I think. Last summer she was in a 10. I mentioned that I wear 14 right now and she was like "We are going to be the same size soon" and I could tell that it kind of freaked her out.

usmcj80

People are going to attack you and try and bring you down to their level since they don't want to do anything to get better themselves. If they make you closer to them or make you feel bad about getting better for yourself then they themselves feel better about themselves.

bear2303

40 pounds is A LOT!!! Don't let them get you down, just keep plugging away and one day they will HAVE to say "wow you look great" and even if they don't the main thing is that you FEEL better and are healthier. Their pessimistic and negative attitudes are toxic to themselves in the end and you need to get rid of all the toxins in your life including negative people!

SezxyStef

I have friends who are happy for me...but have made comments...not so much about my weight loss but more about my shape...(I lift heavy)

things like you have no butt...:noway: my hips are a 38...and most of it is butt...

or

your shoulders are too big you can't wear that shirt (tank top), my shoulders are defined...

or when they find out I am in the same size they are...they are happy for me but don't understand how that is possible...not outright saying I am lying...but

weighing 125 and in a size 5....me weighing 156 and in a size 5...

jkwolly

Totally have!

It's jealousy, and you should just rise above it in your skinny jeans and short shorts. :drinker:

jkwolly

43 pounds of water weight? lol

HAHA my thoughts exactly!

MostlyWater

We have to do this for ourselves. It can't matter what others think.

amandamaynv

No one envies me but I just started so it's not noticeable. I'm a tad jealous of a friend because she was a lot bigger and now weighs less than me. But she worked her *kitten* off and I know how much dedication it took for her to get where she is now. It pushes me to see the results I want to see because now I know it can be done. I think a little jealousy can be a good thing if it helps motivate a person but it seems like those people are just pissed because you look better than they do lol!

jos05

I have friends who are happy for me...but have made comments...not so much about my weight loss but more about my shape...(I lift heavy)

things like you have no butt...:noway: my hips are a 38...and most of it is butt...

or

your shoulders are too big you can't wear that shirt (tank top), my shoulders are defined...

or when they find out I am in the same size they are...they are happy for me but don't understand how that is possible...not outright saying I am lying...but

weighing 125 and in a size 5....me weighing 156 and in a size 5...

I have this problem all the time!! When I started lifting I kind of got discouraged because I only lost 10lbs... but I also went from wearing a size 10 to a 6!!! And friends still like to say things every now and again...but that's ok... I never listen to them anyway... I did this for me; not them.

It's truly amazing how much your friends and family will be the first one's to try and down grade your efforts...just keep doing your thing!

albayin

I actually envy those who feel so good about themsevles, no matter how much weight they have lost or not lost...

IramIMZ

Truthfully, most of them are jealous and want to discourage you so you'll stop and gain it all back. Don't let the "demons" get to you and congratulations on the loss, 43lbs is AMAZING and they're just blind if they can't see the difference.

dsb188

Thanks Everyone for the replies! I am glad that I am not the only person who has experienced this in some form. I can't lie at one point i did have it but i would never vocalize it or say it to someone. I used it as motivation for me to get in shape!