Stuck in a Fat Persons Body....SIck & Disgusted!!

knitapeace

I love all the responses you've gotten here, love your results, and love that you are still here and getting the job done! I definitely agree we need to value ourselves wherever we are in our lives right here, right now, in order to care for ourselves properly. The best way to get caught in a shame spiral is to use food and exercise as punishments rather than loving care.

boldandstrong

wow..seeing the after pictures is motivating me to stick to my plans. I feel the same way. Iike I'm trapped in my body and it is holding me back from going out and living my life. when I see pictures of myself from a while back and now...I am just shocked and mad at myself and I want to change as much as I can within the next two months..and seeing your pictures is motivating because I can see progress is possible!

sclevenger1

That is so true "mrsmuckster," I would cry so many times when I would feel so confident looking in the mirror and then someone would take a pic of me and I would think to myself...who is that??? I had to change my whole way of thinking and I am still battling with it everyday. We are our own worst crititc. You have to look in the mirror and learn to love yourself within while you are working on the rest of you and it makes all the difference in the world because people will see your confidence first before they judge the rest of you. Taking pics of myself below the face selfies have helped me to see the bigger picture and when you are able to have visual progress...it's motivating. Store it in your cell...put it on your laptop...tape pics to your fridge, whatever works. Now, I don't hesitate to take full pics becasue there is so much more to me than just my weight and we all have so many other beautiful qualities that we need to embrace. The weight will come off in due time and we need to stop hiding indoors, behind frumpy clothing, stop being afraid to enjoy life and have fun in fear of what others think. The world will judge you no matter what...You will never impress everyone but learning to love yourself goes a long way. Thank you guys for the support & motivation...we are all struggling in different ways and I love the positive side of this Forum. Good luck

RoseyDgirl

I'm only now becoming used to having my picture taken. Before, I'd be the one offering to carry the camera - but, these days, as the inches are slowly coming off and I'm gaining a semi-figure, I don't mind the pictures as much.
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- I know that I'm a work in progress. the one in my profile (was at the beginning of the mpf journey) and someday, I may post a success photo.
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- I don't hate where I've been, it's just part of the journey; a chapter of my life that has made me stronger for what I'm facing now, or what I'll face tomorrow.
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- Don't lose hope, embrace the process and you will be the stronger for it.
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cstevenson86

ponycyndi wrote: »

You are a very beautiful woman. I know there is a skinny lady in there, and you will set her free!

I like how you worded that. I think that's how a lot of us feel! At least I know I do. I feel like this awesome, fun, vivacious skinny girl trapped in this obese body...I can't wait to break free!

yoovie

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR MOMENT! ON YOUR DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE!

thereverie

You look (and did look) absolutely beautiful! Congrats on your results, and your mentality shift! Keep on rockin' it girl!

uconnwinsnc1

mrsmuckster wrote: »

I have never understood why the person we see in the mirror is not the same person we see in pictures. I guess that is why I never wanted anyone to take a picture of me because I knew in my mind it wasn't the same. Though I'm only about a third to my goal, in almost three months, I've known it would take time. Over the years when I thought about "getting serious" I thought it was too overwhelming and would take too long. I wish I had realized then that had I took it serious at that time, I'd be done by now. Of course, I haven't reached goal yet either, being patient is half the battle for me.

I can give you a few legitimate answers to this.

1) The person you see in a mirror is a reversed image of the person you see in a photograph. For example, lets look at photo of Abraham Lincoln.



That is what we are used to seeing when we see a picture of him. He looks normal. Then, when we reverse the photo, we can actually see what Lincoln saw himself as when he looked in a mirror:



He looks like a slightly different person. So when our brain sees ourselves as we actually are compared to what we are used to seeing in a mirror all the time...we get slightly confused and feel a bit uncomfortable. It just isn't what appears natural to us.

Also, real life is 3D. Photographs have no depth in them they are only 2D. We see with two eyes (two lenses) to see depth. A lens in a camera is only a single lens.

Photos also come from angles we are not used to seeing ourselves at. We can only really see ourselves from the perception of our own eyes. We never get a chance to see what we actually look like directly from the side.

So it is really a combination of a few factors that makes us look so strange in photos compared to mirrors.

yoovie

same dude. i guess he never lost 100 pounds.

ems212

I can't even look in the mirror anymore. A few weeks ago, a friend of mine took a picture of me...and I was shocked. The person in the picture looked nothing like the person I see in the mirror every morning. I got home, and I took a long, hard look at myself...and I started to see the person in the picture.

51justdoit

All this encouragement is so touching - and what I needed to read. Just had a coworker earnestly suggest to me ways on losing weight. When I tried to changed the subject and even asked to drop it, they just kept going. They are a very good friend and knew they meant well, but my heart has been so, so heavy since conversation. You are doing GREAT after 1 month!! The smile in the one month pic says it all. Courage to change....