Just need to vent

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  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    I use MFP for support, encouragement, inspiration and feedback and reserve Facebook posts for the other fun stuff going on in my life.

    While I agree that other people, especially family members, SHOULD be happy for you and proud of your efforts, often they're not. People have a lot of shame, guilt, judgment, insecurity and other irrational feelings tied up in weight.
  • ChoiceNotChance
    ChoiceNotChance Posts: 644 Member
    Stand up! Be proud of your accomplishments. You earned the right to post those pics with every drop of sweat. If I was your Mom, I would be cheering you on!!!:drinker:
  • psych101
    psych101 Posts: 1,842 Member
    Aargh, it honestly f*cks me right off when people say oh it's not as easy for everyone as it is for you....it's not easy.

    But if you know that you're not pushing things onto people then keep posting, you never know who you might be inspiring.

    Honestly, your sisters issue is with herself, not you. :flowerforyou:
  • raindawg
    raindawg Posts: 348 Member
    You shouldn't feel guilty about what you post on face book highlighting your progress and accomplishments. You are not responsible for how others take it.

    I think where things can be tricky is if during social interactions there is unsolicited advice, suggestions going on constantly. People have the right to choose to be healthy and exercise and eat right, etc. But people also have the right to choose not to do those things. I think for people who choose to not put as high a priority on that it can come across just like someone pushing their religion on to you every time they see you.

    I'm definitely not saying you are doing that, but I can see others perspectives who get annoyed at unsolicited health advice. It's not always jealousy.
  • MissJay75
    MissJay75 Posts: 768 Member
    My family has no idea how difficult some things in my life are that they think are 'easy' because I am doing it well. So when people tell me "it's easy for you", I translate that in my head as "you make it look easy" and take it as a compliment.

    I encourage you to be sensitive to you sister, but true to yourself.
  • navygrrl
    navygrrl Posts: 517 Member
    I started my own facebook group for me and whichever of my friends wanted to join to talk about health and weight loss. Maybe that could be an idea for you. I'm of the opinion that it's your facebook page and you should be able to post whatever you want, and she can hide your posts if it bothers you, but that may not work for you.

    As for your mother - don't take on her burden. She's your mother and you love her, but her shame or guilt is not your fault. Just keep on giving her support and be her inspiration. Remind her that you love her no matter what. :heart:

    Congrats on doing such a good job on getting healthy. :smile:
  • lseed87
    lseed87 Posts: 1,105 Member
    That is sad :( I don't really like posting that kind of stuff on there anyways but if people were saying stuff like that it would get to me esp since they probably only see me as a fat girl or something. Glad that you inspire people but don't understand why they have to say negative things either. I only really post stuff on here and my tumblr about fitness. The app PumpUp is also good place to do it. Has custom workouts and what not. Kind of like twitter meets instagram with the statuses you can do and include pictures all about fitness.

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