I may be the only one (Friend loss on MFP)

MissDesiAmaris
MissDesiAmaris Posts: 70 Member
So I never thought that I would feel like this but, I felt like I made a super good friends with someone here on MFP. We communicated from time to time and gave each other support. We were also around the same age so I felt that I connected well with her. Well today I just saw that she deactivated her account... There were no signs as to why either. Believe it or not, it makes me kinda sad. I didn't even know her same or anything so I know that I will never see or hear from her again. Its kinda silly, yes. Has anyone else lost a friend on MFP and become kinda sad about it? Like I said, it might just be me.
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Nah, this topic shows up every other week.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Everytime I lose a friend, I pour some out. It's the only way to get through it.
  • I don't know if I'm being trolled but you're taking it a bit... hard
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
    Real life takes priority over online life sometimes. Weird but true - don't feel bad OP :flowerforyou:
  • RunnerStephe
    RunnerStephe Posts: 2,195
    There are other people here looking for friends. I always wonder if I did something wrong.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    It takes me a while but I have noticed friends come and go. Meh. The Internet is flakey.
  • SapiensPisces
    SapiensPisces Posts: 992 Member
    Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you. She might have had something happen or feel that she needed to step away for a while for personal reasons. Don't take it personally.
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    I share a birthday with someone who was on this site, and he actually deactivated on our birthday because people were being so rude to him. :ohwell: It really bugged me then and it still does from time to time.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
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  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I was totally sad when somebody I was fond of deactivated awhile ago.

    He came back though.

    So, you know, chin up buttercup. Your friend may come back.
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    I've only lost one on here that I really missed a lot and her deactivation had nothing to do with me. You can't take it personally.
  • Bun_Ya
    Bun_Ya Posts: 174
    Yes the same thing happened to me even though i've only been here six weeks or so. We got on well and talked about wonderful things but she left suddenly and I was quite upset.


    Thankfully she came back a little while ago! Yay! :drinker:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Yes. Sometimes they return, and sometimes they don't. As others said, it's not personal.
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
    It happens to all of us. You'll also encounter lots of people who present themselves one way but turn out to be different. It's the Internet so you can only give the relationships but so much credit.
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
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  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    there are plenty of fish in the sea. find a new friend.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    there are plenty of fish in the sea. find a new friend.


    This. There are thousands upon thousands of people here. You'll find a new buddy (and then she'll probably leave too, but that's alright, there are even more out there, just waiting for you!)
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    there are plenty of fish in the sea. find a new friend.

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  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I miss my MFP bestie. He deactivated last week. Except he told me in advance. Sorry.
  • Jennvandemark
    Jennvandemark Posts: 179 Member
    Happen to me a few months ago and I was very sad over it but a few weeks later they found me again and explained what happen. Sure did miss them but glad they found me again.
  • Simone_King
    Simone_King Posts: 467 Member
    I never had a friend leave from mpf but in other places on the net I have lost friends and gained even more. Don't take it personally. Not everyone is here to lose weight op.

    She might have meant her goal. Who knows.

    Though to say that there are more fish in the sea is wrong. I am one of these people who can make friends but I like to keep them. Online and irl.
  • dkapplejacks1
    dkapplejacks1 Posts: 59 Member
    I've never lost a friend on mfp, but I haven't really connected closely with anyone (yet) either.
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I hate when people rage quit
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I hate when people rage quit

    I rage log out sometimes. :wink:
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    Thats why always ask for KIK
  • HerkMeOff
    HerkMeOff Posts: 1,002 Member
    I hate when people rage quit

    I rage log out sometimes. :wink:

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  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    Since yesterday 17 people have deleted me. 5 of them had not logged in months!!!!
  • spirytwynd
    spirytwynd Posts: 141 Member
    No, you are not alone. Your friend could have deactivated their account for any number of reasons. Maybe they have too much on their plate right now. Maybe they need a break. Maybe the trolls who occasionally get in were being harassing and the easiest way to make it stop was to drop the account. There are a lot of maybes, mights and could bes. Perhaps they will return later. Might even reactivate the same account. However, as several other people have mentioned, don't take it personally. Keep adding to your friends and continue to build your support group. We are all here for each other. Yes, sometimes folks get grumpy, defensive or otherwise prickly. For the most part, the folks on this site are eager to support others as they move forward to improve their lives. Smile, stand tall, move forward. And, hopefully, at some point, your friend will return. It has happened before. When your friend is ready.
  • Will_Thrust_For_Candy
    Will_Thrust_For_Candy Posts: 6,109 Member
    I hate when people rage quit

    I rage log out sometimes. :wink:

    Sometimes I rage change tabs.

    It's serious when that happens.
  • tami101
    tami101 Posts: 617 Member
    Yes, I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend that joined around the same time as me. We had a lot of things in common and she was a great support for me and I hope I was for her. She was having some medical issues and had stopped logging as frequently, but it did make me kind of sad when I saw that she had deactivated her account. Although I do have a lot of wonderful supportive friends on here, there are just some that I have connected with more than others.