I want to move on!

Hassiri
Hassiri Posts: 35
in Motivation and Support
Hello everybody!

I'm back after being away from all fitness related stuff from about 6 months. I was in a really destructive relationship with somebody and unfortunately I started losing sight of my personal goals in life.
It was until we broke up that I realized what kind of jerk he was and how not worthy of my time and love he really is.
So I decided to go back to being healthy physically and mentally as well.
I'm still really depressed and I truly regret the time I wasted, has anybody here been in the same boat?
Going back to my usual workout routine and diet is surely helping, I already lost some of the weight I gained but lets just say I have my good days and my bad days. I tried talking to friends and family who went through bad break ups, but some of them are still depressed after 2 years? That's surely scary, I want to reclaim my inner peace, to not think about him anymore.
I want to find the light at the end of the tunnel, is there any?


I would appreciate your words,
H

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  • cholepapi
    cholepapi Posts: 79
    My view is, that we live to learn from past relationships and use those experience to make the next one better. The light at the end of the tunnel has always been there, you just need to walk into it.:D
  • Hassiri
    Hassiri Posts: 35
    Thank you very much for answering my post :)
  • askeates
    askeates Posts: 1,490 Member
    To me it sounds as if you are already half way to healing! You are doing a great job recognizing the destructive behaviors, and putting them to rest and getting yourself back on track. A bad relationship/break-up is never easy.... but getting back up and being determined to be a better you is a great way to get over him! WTG :drinker:
  • Hassiri
    Hassiri Posts: 35
    Thanks a lot for your reply Askeates! I was having a really though day today and reading your point of view really helped seeing things from another perspective.
    Everyday that passes I feel a little bit better. I really regret letting go of my priorities, but I guess I just keep living one day at a time.



    Thanks again!
  • skippygirlsmom
    skippygirlsmom Posts: 4,433 Member
    I think your key to getting past this relationship is written right in your post, that it was abusive. You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship, we all do. Finding the inner peace you want will come when you realize, truly realize that you a worthy of all things good. Keep looking towards the goals you have set for yourself and take care of yourself and someone who is deserving of YOU will come along when you least expect it. Don't regret this relationship, but learn from it, and don't repeat it.

    Keep putting one foot in front of the other.
  • Hassiri
    Hassiri Posts: 35
    Yes, you are right Skippygirlmo! I realize that it wasn't doing me any good at the end (middle and beginning for that matter). I read somewhere that it's better to let someone walk away from you than to let him walk all over you!
    Thanks for taking the time to reply ! :)

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