Stiffed a Gift

mnardi123
mnardi123 Posts: 59 Member
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Just looking for unbiased opinion....Someone gave each of my twins a check and according to the bank they are "not able to cash or deposit the check and cannot give the reason". What do you do? Tell the giver of the checks? Send them back to the giver? Try to cash them in a couple of weeks?

I don't feel comfortable calling or emailing the person (not my side of the family). Yet the hubby doesn't want to either. He said it was my fault that I invited them in the first place. He would have been happy if they were never invited (It's a long story but I was trying to reciprocate an invite they sent us). Any USEFUL advise welcomed.

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  • NS81
    NS81 Posts: 192 Member
    I would personally tear up the checks. The thought was there, and that's what matters. If they find out they were never cashed, and feel the need, they will contact you to ask why you never cashed them...

    Just my thoughts :smile:
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    I'd try cashing it again in a couple weeks and if it still couldn't happen, I'd just rip them up and throw them away. I'd be nervous about looking stingy or ungrateful if I mentioned it to them. (I'm also the dummy who never tells waitstaff when my order is messed up either, though. I rarely speak up, so my advice probably sucks). :bigsmile:
  • NS81
    NS81 Posts: 192 Member
    I'd try cashing it again in a couple weeks and if it still couldn't happen, I'd just rip them up and throw them away. I'd be nervous about looking stingy or ungrateful if I mentioned it to them. (I'm also the dummy who never tells waitstaff when my order is messed up either, though. I rarely speak up, so my advice probably sucks). :bigsmile:

    Lol - I never speak up about orders being wrong etc either ... so maybe both of our opinions suck! haha!
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    I'd try cashing it again in a couple weeks and if it still couldn't happen, I'd just rip them up and throw them away. I'd be nervous about looking stingy or ungrateful if I mentioned it to them. (I'm also the dummy who never tells waitstaff when my order is messed up either, though. I rarely speak up, so my advice probably sucks). :bigsmile:

    Lol - I never speak up about orders being wrong etc either ... so maybe both of our opinions suck! haha!

    It wouldn't surprise me. lol.
  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    How old are your twins?

    I would make sure that they got their money, even from my own purse, especially if they are not old enough to understand the whole banking/checks/why didn't this go through issue. I would not go back to that person...I only do that if it was a business type transaction and I had completed work for them. And then, probably not invite that person again. JMO though.

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