Body Type on Dating Sites

kmyers4545
kmyers4545 Posts: 41 Member
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So, I'm 5'6" and 181 lbs as of today. My body is curvy (full chest, small waist, round hips, and big booty). On dating websites, I usually check "curvy" as my body type because that's what I see when I look in the mirror (and I like it!). But there seems to be a stigma when checking off "curvy, " or, "a few extra pounds." Basically, I hear that men think it's code for being fat. And while I do have about 30 lbs to lose, I def consider myself a pretty fit curvy girl. What do y'all think? I try my best to post recent full body pics (like my MFP profile pic), but still, is checking off curvy a deterrent?

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  • embrace_the_darkside
    embrace_the_darkside Posts: 60
    Curvy = euphamism for fat on dating sites
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    i have 20/30 pounds i want to lose still and I just put mine as "average"
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    oh & this reminds me of a brilliant quote about online dating

    "Women are scared of being raped or murdered & Men are scared of meeting someone fat"

    something like that and so damn true
  • Train4Foodz
    Train4Foodz Posts: 4,298 Member
    Hah I have no idea what I'd put mine as!
  • cakebatter07
    cakebatter07 Posts: 814 Member
    I'd say curvy.
  • jlmdc29
    jlmdc29 Posts: 26 Member
    I'd say average but only if you're sure to include a current full length picture. Curvy is online code for heavy. The reason is, when they search you'll get excluded but if that's a recent picture on your profile here, your not heavy!

    Let's be real here, I haven't met a guy yet, from online, that posted a recent picture. The closest I got was 2 years old (and after you pass 40 those two years make a difference!).
  • ksmithnh
    ksmithnh Posts: 68 Member
    oh & this reminds me of a brilliant quote about online dating

    "Women are scared of being raped or murdered & Men are scared of meeting someone fat"

    something like that and so damn true

    That's brilliant :)
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    *makes note to never go on a dating site*
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    oh & this reminds me of a brilliant quote about online dating

    "Women are scared of being raped or murdered & Men are scared of meeting someone fat"

    something like that and so damn true


    I know a few men who fear being raped also....just saying.
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    That's the great thing about MFP. You know that people are who they say they are. Hands down, the best dating site on the net. *nods* true story
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Is there a blank space where you can put that you feel you have 30 lbs to lose?

    Are there spaces to put your picture?
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    I just check the "Awesome" body type.

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  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    What I've learned on dating sites is...

    Athletic, curvy, average, "little extra" etc are all euphemisms for "fat"
    Women with kids love to pass off pre-baby pics as current
    Women with kids also like to say "my kids come first no matter what so if you can't deal with that blah blah" GMAFB
    99% of women are "spiritual, but not religious" i.e., they like to sleep in on Sunday but tell their parents they are active members
    If she is holding booze in all of her pics, she's trouble
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Basically any reasonable description is usually co-opted by those that desperately need the description to make themselves feel better.
    The OP meets the old definition of "curvy", but that description is now used(for better or worse) by people shaped like Melissa McCarthy.
    A more extreme example, my thin wife hates it that in department stores "women" means heavy.
  • kmyers4545
    kmyers4545 Posts: 41 Member
    I just check the "Awesome" body type.

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    Hilarious!!
  • kmyers4545
    kmyers4545 Posts: 41 Member
    Well, while I could be disappointed that I'm excluded from searches based on on my "body type", I don't wanna deal with those dudes anyways. It's cool. I guess all one can do is post real pictures of themselves. I'm pretty sure guys can figure it out for themselves. IMHO, my body is pretty fly, yo! :)

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