Family not being encouraging!

amaysngrace

I never said a word to my family about my weight loss journey, I just started to do it by myself and once they seen me drop 20 pounds, then they started inquiring about what I was doing. Eventually, just leading by example, will get people to start supporting you and wanting to know what it is you are doing. My bf decided that he wanted to start logging what he eats daily just by watching me do it every morning. So, things like that tend to inspire people, more so than you just speaking to them about what your plans are.

JoRocka

I( can't believe it took over half the page-

You can't make anyone do anything.

You can shame them and hope it helps - most likely they'll just resent you.

Just stick to your guns and tell them you're a grown *kitten* adult who can do what you want- and what you put in your mouth is your business.

PinkyFett

You don't? Lol, I don't know.

My mom keeps buying me cookies and junk food even though I keep asking her not to. I lost my mind the last time and she got offended, but I think I got my point across.

I'm not letting them get to me anymore because I'm doing this for me and I don't care what others think. I am not being unhealthy or harming myself, so I'm doing my thing.

I run into this a lot too, maybe not always cookies but whatever they buy for me they get offended if I say I can't eat it. And on the other side, they(well, mostly my dad)get mad if I ask them not to eat something I've bought specifically for me. Oh and they used to get pissed if we went to BK and I said I wasn't eating it...until I blew up at my mom and laid it all out for her.

Sometimes that's what it takes!! My mom also doesn't understand that I have stopped drinking even diet soda and gets upset that she has to "drink a whole 12 pack herself." Well... I'm serious this time. She made fun of my lunch a bit today. I had two slices of cheese and rolled up turkey and mustard inside and had an apple. Apparently without bread, I'm not eating. :grumble:

tuckeychicken

Good for you for sticking to your guns on this one. I have the same problem with my family and I know it's because they are not ready to do the same. Some people don't mean harm, but can't help but want to have support and join them in not trying. I have had people try to tell me what won't hurt me and I tell them This is what I'm doing and I don't agree I'm trying to remain strong here and I don't need anyone to help me to sabatoge my hard work.

Stay strong you are doing the right thing for you. Remind them that you haven't expected them to make chang and they shouldn't expect you not to, because if they don't want to make the same healthy choices that's their perogative, however it is your perogative to do what you have been doing. You know what one more bite will do to you more than they do and you should make sure they know that you know they don't mean any harm, but you know when enough is enough for you and you see no reason to over stuff.

I wish all the best and thank you for your inspiration.

PunkyRachel

you don't, I say *kitten*'em! My family has never been supportive, but sadly due to financial struggles my husband and I share a house with my parents. My mom is a third generation baker, and there is always cookies, brownies, cake, pie, etc in the house. I do eat a little bit of, but my mom is saying stuff like, "Oh there's plenty more in the kitchen" it just get annoying. My dad is retired military and has always been fit and healthy. So he used to tell me to be more active, before I started my journey. Then after I started loosing weight, he'd tell I wasn't loosing fast enough. Now I weigh less than both my parents and I get told to knock it off I'm making them look bad and that I can't weigh less than them. So I'm just like whatever, ignore them the best I can and go about my business.