Losing interest :-(

tashie1990

put on 2lb... Okay i totally went over my calorie goal nearly all week... Obv i cant do this, jst always gna be a fat failure.

aimeelynne756

No dont give up! So what you had a rough week. All you have to do is refocus and get back on track, If the issue is hunger maybe look at your food intake and add more veggies and fiber to your diet and that should do the trick. But whatever you do please dont give up it takes time but you can do it

kelsully

While I go down the road you are on right now about things (you know the fat failure comment) it never really helps. You had a bad week. Redetermine your goals Set a very reachable mini goal ie great week eating and working out and you get a pedicure...take it one day at a time and you can do it.

myrbg

impossible! what inspired you to do this in the beginning? family? a pair of cute jeans? health? constantly remind yourself why you are doing this and believe that you can. it's SO hard, we are going through it, so let's continue to encourage each other and never give up! =] feel free to add me for support or check out my blog.

josparkle

Come on - you don't mean it, well you do right now but that's cos it's raw.
You CAN do this and you want to - just have to find your groove again. Don't wait til tomorrow, start now and make good choices for the rest of the day, get out for a walk or take a class/video - and you can turn it around.
I've had another plateau-y week and I do sympathise but I cna remember why I'm doing this and bet that you can do.

Can you look back at the week and find the triggers for going over and maybe tweak the coming day, 48hrs, week to avoid them?

traceysturn

Oh gosh don't say that. Just jump back on - sit down, breathe & re-evaluate what you're doing & what you want. Remember slow & steady wins the race. Hang in there, it'll be OK

ProTFitness

DON'T GIVE UP!!!! You may need to adjust your food choices and exercise

JustAmy

Add in some exercise so you can have those extra calories!

nicjane113

2lbs is not the end of the world so don't worry, we've all been there.
You need to find something that works for you - food that is tasty but will help you keep within your calorie goals - that way it won't seem like a "diet"
Even foods that we love that aren't great for us can be eaten in moderation so don't feel like you have to stick to super healthy options all of the time to lose weight.
Good luck

2bFitNTrim

This is why most people fail. They call themselves a "fat failure"...it becomes a self fulfililng prophecy. So you had a bad week. Let it go and be forgiving of yourself. Start new, right now. You can do it!

tawny7

Hi there

No doubt this is hard work and we all have setbacks. You aren't alone!!!

Don't give up!!! Write down the reasons why you want to lose weight and be healthier and look at it everyday!! Every morning tell yourself you are worth it and you can do it!!! You may think you can't at the moment but you can!!

It takes time and energy, but it is worth it!!!

DebbieDuffy09

You can do it! You don't have to be fat! You can be healthy!! Don't give up!! Keep going!!

ShellyKay67

You are NOT a failure!! Everyone on here has had weeks like this! You don't give up, you just get more determined!
I used to let my "mess ups" be the excuse for not continuing on..."already screwed up, no point in continuing" BUT that has NOT been my mentality this time. I say, I'm human, I ate something I shouldn't have, or didn't exercise enough but I get right back on track!! I have lost 62# since Jan. 4th, 2010.
YOU CAN DO THIS and you are worth it! Don't give up!!
Good luck!

Brat3073

Aww that made me so sad to read. YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!!!! just frustrated. If we all gave up because we had a gain....MFP would be useless because non of us would be here! I finally hit 20 pounds lost and had a 3 pound gain.....i have been losing those same 3 stupid pounds for about 3 weeks now. I will break it, you can too. You can do this, and you know you can or you would not have asked for help. Thats why we are here for you! Just take a breather, re-evaluate your menu and exercise regime.

maliabrooklyn

Hey Tashie!

Its just a matter of food choices, not being a failure! I have the same problem sometimes because I don't realize how unhealthy some foods really are. I use two of these programs simultaneously. MFP is my favorite but when I am questioning a food choice I use caloriecount.about.com. It grades your choices and gives you a school grade such as "A", "B", "C", etc. I started to have Manwich sloppy joes for dinner this week and learned it was a D+ so I went online and got a healthier version until it brought my grade up! I still got to eat sloppy joes and I also got a good grade! Win, win! Also, sometimes when I am trying to eat healthy, I don't eat enough calories. That can be just as devastating in the 'ole weight loss department. So I am very conscious of eating my fruits and veggies to add more calories. Once you get the hang of it it gets easier. Hopefully you are also exercising, even if it is just getting outside to walk. Just the simple act of walking will drop off the pounds. In fact, my sister lost 70 by eating clean and walking every day for 30 minutes. The added benefit is it lifts your mood and makes you feel like a success instead of a failure! Don't give up girl! It is NEVER NEVER NEVER too late! Check out Tosca Reno's Eat Clean books. She didn't start eating clean until she was 40 years old and now she is 51 and her body is AMAZING!

MissMaija

In reference to your comment, where you reffered to yourself as a "fat failure"... I find that changing your state of mind helps. Try already thinking of yourself as slim... or at least with that state of mind. If that's where you want to be, you can already be that person in your mind... and soon your body will follow. If you know you're already over your calorie intake, invision that thinner person inside of you and don't give up. Set backs are normal & you'll get there...

SHBoss1673

I'm not sure how you expect us to respond to this. If this is truly how you feel, nothing we say is going to change your mind. Weight loss, like any personal improvement that you undertake, is an exercise that you have to want to do. If you joined MFP, somewhere deep down you want to become healthy. You need to tap that area and find the mental discipline to continue on, even through the bad weeks.

Weight loss and becoming healthy isn't something that people can do part time, it must be a prime focus in your life at the beginning, embrace the change, embrace the good aspects of health, eventually the pendulum will swing back and you'll find a healthy middle, but at the beginning you have to work hard. If you're not willing to put in the hard work, you can't expect the results to show. It becomes easy, simple even, to eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly, without it dominating your life, but only after months (and sometimes years) of hard work and breaking bad habits.

I hope you chose to continue and work hard, because we all deserve to be healthy, but that only means we CAN be, not that we MUST be.

-Banks

AllietheLOSER

Hi Tashie :-)

If I can do this, YOU can do this!! Believe me when I say, I have been the biggest diet failure and for the first time ever, I'm actually losing weight and loving it.
I did go on your profile and looked at your food diary--if you will allow, I would like to offer some advice.
1. You are not drinking enough water--you might be and just not logging it, but if you are only getting in1 glass of water a day, that could be a source of your problems. Not only do I feel healthier with all the water I drink, but it is also a filler. When I feel the munchies coming on, I'll drink water til they pass.
2. You need to add more protein to your breakfast.
3. Looks to me that you and I are a lot alike--both LOVE snacks--instead of pistachios, maybe try almonds or walnuts.?? Not sure if you have OAS, but snacking on fresh fruit would be better. I LOVE carbs--chips, crackers, breads and have found healthier alternatives.
Are you exercising?
One thing I noticed: You are eating an amazing amount of fish!--WTG!

PLEASE do not give up. Like stated in an earlier post, what was the inspiration behind you joining MFP and wanting to have a "lifestyle change"? I have been stuck at one weight all week, was honestly down about it. Woke up this morning and BAM! Lost a pound overnight. SWEET! :-)

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! :-)

Mamoonie

Hey,

nobody is a fat failure until they "decide" they are.
We don't want you to decide this for yourself. You're on here to be a skinny success! But you have to work for it. It just doesn't turn around without any effort.
If you can't stay within your calorie goal ( I can't... I admit), just do some exercise... or maybe some more exercise. This will help to raise the number of calories you're allowed that day.... and you can still eat what you eat now.
You only need to find the right balance of calories you burn vs calories you consume.... burn more calories that you eat, and the weight will go down!

Go for it! Give it another try! We're here for support!!!

MM

cutmd

Most importantly, you aren't even fat! Your bmi is only 24? Maybe you are losing interest because you don't feel losing those few pounds are important enough to deprive yourself of what you feel like eating. If that's the case, that's fine. As long as you exercise and make healthy food choices, your health will improve regardless of if the scale moves. Maybe take some time to eat at maintenance for a while and decide whether this is really something you want to do. If so, follow the advice above :flowerforyou:

Laura80111

I agree with what everyone else is saying, but let me add the question..."How badly do you want to lose the weight?" If you really want to you can.

I too am 4'11" and if you'd like to check out my profile and friend me you can.

Hoping you choose to stick with it:flowerforyou:

Laura

FitnFab17

I feel like that as well! Life is just so busy and I always let this part go when things get busy. We need to hold on and push through it!

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NMay50

Hi! Here's a thought. Kind of a role reversal. If a friend that you care a lot about came to you with the same feelings, asking for help... what would you say to him/her to inspire and motivate them? Maybe giving yourself the same heart felt pep talk.

Good luck!

gochickgo

can't say I haven't had those thoughts myself. I try to limit my negative self talk and refocus. I was having a day yesterday and got a great boost with a devotional I recieved and would like to pass it on. It reminded me that the most important things are the hard things in life. Here it is:
Looking back on our lives many of us will regret some things we did, but most of us witll regret the things we did not do. Live in such a way athat you won't look back and regret the things you didn't do.... Don't undertake a project unless it is distinctly and nearly impossible. Not doing more than average is what keeps the average down. Unless you attempt that which you have yet to master, you will never grow. To achieve all that is possible, we must attempt the impossible. Your vision determines your potential accomplishment. Learn to be comfortable with great dreams.

I posted this next to my desk to remind me daily that the 30 lbs I want to lose is nearly impossible or feels that way. But I will remind myself it is one day at a time journey that makes it more possible. Good luck.......

Geminieve24

Why do you feel that you can't do this? I look at it this way: the weight didn't come on overnight so it's not going to come off overnight. What are you eating and what are you doing for exercise? I know it can be hard. This is a test of your will and determination. You can do this, you just have to focus on why you want to lose the weight. How will you feel if you reach your goals? Think of those feelings of accomplishment. Whenever I feel kinda down I watch the biggest loser. Those contestants are busting their butt! All things are possible. You just have to want it bad enough.
Hang in there!

bspz

2 lbs and 1 bad week doesn't = failure. It's just a speed bump. Don't give up on yourself. If you were doing something for someone else and it didn't work out, I bet you woudln't give up. You are worth it!

Each day is a new opportunity. Forget about last week, keep focused on your future. Planning is everything for me. It's a pain in the neck but go food shopping for the week. If you know what you are going to eat each day, it may help in keeping you on track. If you eat something you shouldn't, excercise to work it off. If you do slip up, don't berate yourself. Self loathing can be the worst hurdle in weight loss. I don't want to push religion but, you were created by someone or something greater than yourself. I believe God and he doesn't make mistakes! So, work on focusing on all you can do, all your positives. Don't define yourself by the # on the scale- you are much much more than that! Keep that in mind as you face each day. Small steps in the right direction will get you there. Good luck!:flowerforyou:

dbanks80

First off you don't have a ton of weight to lose. There are people on here that have lost over 100lbs. If they were thinking the way you are thinking who knows what would have become of them, but they did it with hard work and DETERMINATION.

I was off and on MFP for 2 yrs. in August I made it up in my mind that I was going to get my mind right and just do it and stay committed. I threw away the scale for a month and decided I was going to stick with this for a month count my calories and exercise everyday. It was hard not to get on the scale but I didn't and I started seeing results at the end of the month!!!! That was encouraging for me to keep going.

You can do it!!! It's just a question of how bad do you want it!!!

Good Luck! :flowerforyou:

k8ieP

Look at all the support you have here. 2lbs is not a big deal at all. This happens even when you do everything right so you should be glad it didn't get any worse. No one can do this for you and all of the kind words here may not be enough to change your mind but know that if you give up today you will be on this journey again a month or even a year or two from now and regretting that you didn't stick with it. It is clear to me that you are not fully convinced to care for yourself yet. You have to love yourself to improve.


P.S. the scale is a B. Don't weigh yourself as often. It can be really distracting from your true goal which should be to gain health not get skinny

shortee75

tashie,

I think we can help each other with motivation and encouragement to keep going. I am 4'10" with the same Goal Weight as you and the amount we need to lose is very close (within 3 lbs).

If you are up for the challenge then send a friend invite

Whatever you do - DO NOT give up...there is plenty of support on this site.

dj_stevie_c

2lbs?

So what? That can be a day of water retention, that can be a bad afternoon.

Forget those 2lbs. Don't weigh yourself for a week, be good, track everything stay positive and see if things get better. Honestly if you feel like a failure after 2lbs. Get your head straight, all of us know it's not easy, all of us, we all go through dark times and fall down but it's how you pick yourself back up and get straight with yourself that defines who we are.

Don't give up on yourself yet.