Weight loss or family

simuesh60

I am a mother of a beautiful 3 year old girl and want to expand my family. I am 26 and 5 ft 6 in tall and have been overweight since my teenage. After my daughter i got obese and went upto 104kg I felt pathetic at that weight This is the first time i have been able to lose so much. Since feburary 2014 i have lost almost 15kg (32lbs). I have atleast 15kg more to go.

Well the actual story is that my daughter was underweight (2kg) when she was born (full term). I blame my obesity for the situation. Now that she is 3 years old i want her to have siblings. But i am so much confused because i still weigh my pre-pregnancy weight (89kg). I donot want to get to 104kg or even in 90s again. But mean while I also feel strongly that its time for next baby because i am free and donot have any career obligations right now. and whether i start my pregnancy now or 10kg lighter i will still have to lose pregnancy weight. But i donot know how much motivated i will be to lose weight after my pregnancy. Any suggestion that can hit my mind would be appreciated.

BunBun85

You can have both!

I think because of your previous pregnancy that you should talk to your doctor about this to see how safe it would be for you to carry and be pregnant if it was indeed your weight that caused some sort of growth restriction to your first child.

My own experience is that I was working towards better health & fitness but I was obese when I got pregnant last year in July, I'm 5'2 and was 211lbs. I continued to work with my doctor and nutritionist throughout pregnancy and lost weight to 199lbs until around 21 weeks when I began to gain. I delivered a healthy 2895gram baby at 211lbs. It's been a couple months now and I'm at 188lbs. So, you can still lose weight, or have things even out during pregnancy with doctor supervision. I think that working closely with my team of professionals and not having to just stop has really kept me going post pregnancy. Bring it up with your doctor, they like when their patients want to be healthy!

Best of luck to you!

YearsWorthOfFAT

You can't ask others what's most important, that's something only you can decide for yourself.
But why is it impossible to try and not gain an excessive amount of weight during pregnancy?
You can ask someone like your doctor how much weight you'll gain and how many extra calories you need to consume.

My mom and my aunt never got fat after having kids and my sister only gained a little bit of weight after having 3 kids.

breesie11

Once I recovered from my second baby's birth I was ready to start working out. It was good to get out of the house in the evenings to do something for me. There is never a perfect time to have a baby, so if you want to go for it, then do it. Keep up the exercise during the pregnancy and keeping eating healthy

mockchoc

There is no real reason you will gain weight just because you are pregnant. I was overweight with my first and with my second one I refused to let myself get fat again. I walked every day and ate very healthfully. You can decide to do the same.

Spruce92

Congratulations on your recent weight loss. As you know weight loss can be very hard with the obligations of motherhood.

Like you, I was overweight throughout my teen years. I lost a lot of weight before my marriage and first child. After my first child, I never lost the baby weight. I did not gain as much with my next two children. My children (and their father) are the most important aspects of my life today. They are my motivation to be healthy and happy. I've waited 6 years (my baby just turned 6) to be in the right place to be motivated to better health.

Pregnancy does not have to mean weight gain. I've seen others manage their health while pregnant and actually lose weight.

If you truly want a larger family go for it. Reading your post, however, I wonder if you feel you are ready for another child. Children without siblings can be very happy in life too.

lilmisfit1987

You won't have to worry about if you'll be motivated after the pregnancy if you just keep yourself motivated through out the whole pregnancy. You can still watch what you eat and lose weight for the first part, and you can keep your weight gain minimal for the last part if talking to your doctor about it.