Any other brides-to-be?

jesdailey

Hi! My name is Jessica, and I'm new here. I've been struggling with weight loss my whole life. A couple years ago, I entered a local weight loss challenge with my mom, and I actually won! I lost about 45 pounds in 3-4 months. Which was quite an accomplishment for me. I was doing great until I met my fiance. That sounds bad, but I promise I'm not putting the blame on anyone but myself! Usually when I meet a new guy, I'm self-conscious, nervous, and afraid to eat in front of him. Can you tell I have anxiety issues? Well, that was not the case with Scott.
I've never felt more comfortable with another person. So I didn't feel bad about eating. And we went out A LOT. Things moved along ridiculously fast and after knowing each other for only 3 months, we were engaged! My best friend(who is also on MFP) and I went dress shopping right away and found the perfect dress! So I was fitted on the spot and decided to order one size smaller since I was losing weight and felt really committed to a new lifestyle. WELL....
That was last May. And I've gained back all that weight I worked so hard to get rid of! The date for the wedding is May 30th, 2015. So I need to hop on the motivation train! Hell, I'd just like to find the motivation train. I don't even know where the station is anymore. I've been eating healthier and trying to exercise, but it's so hard when you're doing it on your own.
Believe it or not, I don't want to be 'skinny'; I enjoy being thick and curvy. I just don't want my curves to have curves. And right now, they DO. I would love to get down to 12/14; right now I'm probably a 22/24. I ordered my dress to be a 20, I believe. Which, in the wedding world, the dress size is usually one to two sizes SMALLER than your average dress size. So I probably have a size 16/18 dress waiting for me and I'm absolutely terrified to go try it on!!
Anyone interested in being friends and working towards some healthy goals together?

sherambler

Feel free to add me! I was always chubby, but when I met my boyfriend (fiance) I felt the same as you. At first, I wouldn't eat around him at all. But as I got more comfortable around him I did start eating in front of him. And then we snacked all the time together, so we gained weight together. ALOT of weight. Now we're both overweight. We're planning to get married in October 2016. I know, pretty far away, but we did that on purpose so I'd have plenty of time to lose weight and save up some money.

I bought a couple of dresses from Macy's that probably won't actually be my wedding dress, but I bought them in an excrutiatingly small size for motivation. It cost like $50 total, so it's not that bad. I hang them on the front of the bedroom door facing the livingroom so I remember to work out. It's funny because I want so badly to lose weight for this wedding. I'd finally like some pictures of myself that I don't try to hide. But the financials of a wedding, the logistics, and weight loss in general cause me to stress out which doesn't help in the weight loss department.

fruitsalad15

Hello!

Congratulations on finding the man of your dreams! And well done on your previous weight loss! You can do it, you have done it before!

I am also a bride to be, my wedding is 8 weeks away so my deadline is a little tighter than yours!

I went to choose my dress, found it, looked great (although the one in the shop didn't do up!)

The ladies took my measurements and asked if I wanted to lose weight. I said yes - of course, I wanted to lose about 2 stone. They replied 'you'll never do that' Well, that really got my back up! I lost 1 stone before my fitting so the dress fitted, I couldn't breath but it did do up - relief!

OK, so we are now 5 weeks since that fitting and all I have done is EAT EAT and EAT some more!! I can not seem to stop. What is that about?! Anyway, I know if I don't do something in the next 5 weeks I will have to have my dress let out AND I don't even like that its the size it is!

I am not huge but for the big day I really wanted to be smaller than I am. Caught sight of myself in a mirror at some shops yesterday and couldn't believe it was me, not what I wanted to see at all.

OK, so where am I now - I have 5 weeks to get back to the weight I was at the fitting. Probably about 5-10lbs so that I can breath and sit down in my dress on the day. It will be a push but I know I can do it with some help! Help me please!!! Friend me!

What did you do to motivate yourself for your previous weight loss?

Here are some of the things I used before (I lost about 1st 7 before I had my little boy)

Think about how I will feel after I eat that thing I just can't seem to resist - will I feel like it was worth it or all bloated, guilty and heavy?
Try to imagine Jillian Michaels is sitting next to me - what would she say if she say me eating that pizza/doughnut/cookie/ice cream etc?
Set myself daily goals and rewards - although I found it hard to think of rewards that weren't food!
Beat boredom!

Good luck to you! :-)