Insults AFTER losing weight.

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  • jdhcm2006
    jdhcm2006 Posts: 2,254 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.
    It really is though. I'm a woman in a male-dominated industry. I hear all the same things all the time. Trust me, you can stop caring. It's called growing a thick skin. Mine is several feet thick now. :laugh:

    Maybe it's because I don't have patience for other's bs.
  • techgal128
    techgal128 Posts: 719 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.

    This. Most people don't have the ability to just "stop caring". Deep inside it always hurts. The trick is to come back with something clever or snarky so your self esteem goes right back up again. :p
  • sweetcurlz67
    sweetcurlz67 Posts: 1,168 Member
    eff them!

    my comments came from ppl that said I was 'obsessed' with losing weight. Others said I am going to 'blow away' & I needed to stop losing weight. ummmm... I still have about 40 pounds to go! But I don't see those ppl much anymore due to a new job. I just had to learn to keep my mouth shut and ignore them. do what I do and keep going. I know my body and my goals, they don't. yes it gets old when you hear it often. some ppl I could ask not to say anything but others I couldn't.

    it is what it is...
  • spara0038
    spara0038 Posts: 226 Member
    WOW. Glad I don't work with many women! But yeah, I've heard some of that. Most of it involving the word "twig". Not much of it though, luckily.

    I mean, the thing is... they're just jealous and that's how you have to see it. If you were a billionaire, I'm sure you'd hear the phrase "money can't buy you happiness" over and over. It's some miserable people's nature to take you down a peg so you feel as miserable as everyone else, so you don't stand out as the shining star.

    Honestly, I'd relish it- run with the "compliment" and turn it around on them. They're saying it to bring you down a notch. If you don't let them, it'll stop. You may have to sound cocky for a while, but once you get on THEIR nerves about it, they'll stop. Don't be afraid to be a little awkward! lol

    Examples:

    Them: "You're not going to eat that, are you?!"
    You: "Yes, and I'm going to damn well enjoy it!" (even if you're not)

    Them: "You can hide back there now that you're slim!"
    You: "I know, right? I'm in the running for hide and seek world champ!"

    Play with it a little. You may have to be a sarcastic *kitten* but trust me, it'll get them to shut up. Getting upset about it like you are now is only giving them what they want.
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.
    It really is though. I'm a woman in a male-dominated industry. I hear all the same things all the time. Trust me, you can stop caring. It's called growing a thick skin. Mine is several feet thick now. :laugh:

    Maybe it's because I don't have patience for other's bs.
    Give it time. You will. Especially if your career depends on it. I used to fight everything too. It was too much work though. Now I just blow it off, and I'm a much happier person. As an added benefit, people don't give me near as much crap as they used to because they don't get a fun reaction out of me. :wink:
  • spud_chick
    spud_chick Posts: 2,640 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.
    It really is though. I'm a woman in a male-dominated industry. I hear all the same things all the time. Trust me, you can stop caring. It's called growing a thick skin. Mine is several feet thick now. :laugh:

    Maybe it's because I don't have patience for other's bs.

    Right on. I'd rather change my environment, either by relocating or changing the way people behave towards me, even if that is a little more work.
  • Grumpsandwich
    Grumpsandwich Posts: 368 Member
    Well most of my family is over weight, I been told im getting too skinny, you've gotten chicken legs, you anorexic? You get any skinnier it will be disgusting. I have been accused of being a BARFER because apparently I been losing the weight too fast? ( 11 months ) I get my skin on my jawline and under arms pointed out like im not allowed to be proud of losing half a person and need to suffer.

    Guess who doesnt talk to her family anymore :(

    It sucks when the people who are support to lift you up are the ones constantly tearing you down

    Even harsher since Ive quit talking to them I have been happier and have had the most mental peace and clarity that ive had in YEARS I didnt realize how cynical/bitter and hateful i had become until I started to remove stresses from my life
  • jdhcm2006
    jdhcm2006 Posts: 2,254 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.
    It really is though. I'm a woman in a male-dominated industry. I hear all the same things all the time. Trust me, you can stop caring. It's called growing a thick skin. Mine is several feet thick now. :laugh:

    Maybe it's because I don't have patience for other's bs.
    Give it time. You will. Especially if your career depends on it. I used to fight everything too. It was too much work though. Now I just blow it off, and I'm a much happier person. As an added benefit, people don't give me near as much crap as they used to because they don't get a fun reaction out of me. :wink:

    I'm not someone who blows up, but after you saying the same thing to me 3 or 4 times, I will politely ask you to correct your behavior. If I did something that repeatedly offended someone, I would expect someone to tell me it's bothering them. Sometimes people don't know what they are doing is wrong.
  • daliyanin
    daliyanin Posts: 93 Member
    I would have exploded by now... I do get comments from one person in particular at work. Not surprising, she has MAJOR issues with food and body image, but It is extremely hard to be polite and keep my mouth shut. I can't imagine getting it from multiple people at work. After all, you spend the majority of your time there.

    Sorry! I don't have any advice but to tell them to F off and mind their own... Good luck!!
  • GreenIceFloes
    GreenIceFloes Posts: 1,491 Member
    I will never fully understand women...

    I am a woman and don't fully understand women...

    Maybe my mature age and life's tough times has made a bit tough.
    I'm a woman and I understand neither women nor men.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Hmm. No body ever says anything about how I look at work. We pretty much come in all shapes and sizes here.

    Oh wait! - I was programing the microwave for lunch and a woman coworker said 'Holy Jurassic Park, you've got some big arms!' Should I feel insulted, oh wise MFPers??
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Hearing something day in and day out can wear on anyone's nerves. It's not as simple as not caring. Hearing it once and you can shurg it off. Hear it 4-5 times a day and it gets old quick.

    This. Most people don't have the ability to just "stop caring". Deep inside it always hurts. The trick is to come back with something clever or snarky so your self esteem goes right back up again. :p

    Meh - that just means you have sunk to their level. Truly if someone is really overly sensitive it might be as a result of low self-esteem. If you feel good about yourself, what other people think doesn't matter so much.

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