can I please just vent a lil? not even weight-loss related

Claudia007

So I have been unhappy at my current job for several months. I have been here for 14 years, when 6 months ago the company was sold. My co-worker who used to be 1/4 owner is now just antoher employee began his transition to brown-noser of the year to the new owner. I mean he's not even a little embarassed by how obvious (and disgusting) it is. Needless to say this has caused 'riffs' between us as he's taken it upon himself to tell me how to speak to other employees (wtf?). So we just keep it professional, and move on. I'm fine with this as he's a complete moron anyway and I'm not exagerating. The only reason he owned a 1/4 of the company is because the company belonged to his now ex father-in-law, otherwise he'd still be just a machine operator. So, like I said I"ve been her 14 years, and everyone here (as it's a small company) is fairly close and can even call it a sort of 'family'. Until I was just totally embarassed today. The copy guy, a guy who works on our copy machines, a guy who isn't even employed here asks me if I was going to the halloween party tonight. My response: "what party?" Apparently, this co-woker has invited everyone to his party except me. Not that i would go anyway, but WOW, talk about embarassing. I'm so humilated I want to cry, and I don't cry. I know it's stupid but it still hurts. Im sorry for doing this here, but I didn't know who/where else to turn to and I just had to tell someone. sorry.

elainegsd

What a bu++head!

Bottom line: There are probably only two people who know that you weren't invited... you and the jerk. This reflects on his jerktitude, not on you. Anybody else who figures out you weren't invited will see this as a reflection on him, and it isn't a good reflection either.

SHEESH! Some people!

groucherella

May a thousand fleas bestow them and may their arms be too short to scratch the spots that itch.

tater8589

What a Jerk!! Well you have 2 options, now that you know... 1) go to the party anyway and have a good time, and ignore the jerk. 2) On Monday when every one asks where you were tell them he didn't invite you. BTW if he is as bad as you said he may not last long there under new ownership, and if you have to go to your supervisor about his treatment of you. People can be such jerks, I have always been the one who didn't get invited or tried to have a party and nobody showed up. I can understand how you feel. If you don't go to the party, then find something totally awesome to do that same night, and brag about how much fun you had

poodlepaws

makes you wonder just how trustworthy the other employees are if they didn't tell you about the party.

As far as brown noser goes, Not worth wasting your time and energy on the slime ball. Sorry about what happened so here are some flowers for you:flowerforyou:

teasdino

Well I am sorry that he seems to foget he is no longer in HIGH SCHOOL anymore! yeesh! And I think the other poster had it right. Yeh..you can come and vent on my shoulder ;-] No worries. Better vent about it than to 'eat' about it..ya know?
jac

xarrium

I feel ya! Sometimes people can be so catty (if I can use that phrase in reference to men) without realizing that a) it's just mean, and b) it winds up making you look like a jerk to a *lot* of other people who are now aware that jerk-face is... well... a jerk. I know it sucks being in that position (especially afterwards when everyone talks about the event *even when you're in the room!!!*), but try and keep your chin up! Hopefully everyone else in the company sees this guy for what he is and reacts accordingly.

And don't be sorry--we're here for you, even if "real world" people aren't. :flowerforyou:

Andre_Demers

I am so sorry for you you can not believe. I have been throu this and it does hurt. The only solution I found was to cut off everything with the office and I am lucky to have a super wife. Talk to someone near you, writing on this site or anyother site does not count. You need a personal touch.

All the best to you,

Andre xox

JillTwiss

What a royal @$$! I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this!

laurenbausch

I LOVE the flea comment!!! One word. . .KARMA! It ALL comes back. . .No worries. Come up with an even better Halloween plan! Even if it's watching your favorite scary movies at home with your dog, tell everyone you had a crazy-wild weekend! Nobody has to know! If this guy is a jerk to other coworkers, his party might be a major bust anyway. . .(I hope it is!!!!)

Dencrossgirl

What a loser, I agree with Elaine, the whole situation just magnifies how much of a jerk he is to everyone around him. Doesn't deserve another thought, some people are just thoughtless and stupid and we can't change it.

Neliel

May a thousand fleas bestow them and may their arms be too short to scratch the spots that itch.

Pretty much says it all.

He should have been shot up his mother's *kitten*. Or been a stain on his father's sheets. Or his mother should have swallowed him.

mlh612

Some people are so determined to scratch, claw, bite their way to the top... So not worth it!! Screw him! You have fun and if anybody wonders why you weren't at the party, just so sweetly inform them that you weren't invited plus you had plans anyway.. Kill him with kindness and karma will bite his A@@ later!!
Feel free to vent any time, we all need a good vent!!:flowerforyou:

mlh612

May a thousand fleas bestow them and may their arms be too short to scratch the spots that itch.

Love it!!!!

savannahgur

Unfortunately most ppl do not grow out of the @$$hole stage of their lives..don't let it bother you. I'm pretty sure you know that you are 100% better than that d-bag and anyone that would associate themselves with him..think of it as him doing you a favor because if he's as bad as you say he is would you really have had fun anyways?

Enjoy your Halloween with ppl that care about you AND your feelings!!

PanicAtTheBuffet

Maybe it was a SURPRISE PARTY........ for you? :embarassed:

AGirlandHerFrenchie

I think we have all at some point in time felt the way you do. I am also the one who usually doesn't get invited or who throws a party and no one shows up. I used to let it bother me because I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me but now I know that it isn't worth it. The only thing that matters are the people who truly care about you for you - so don't let this jerk ruin your night because he isn't worth it.

carrie145

May a thousand fleas bestow them and may their arms be too short to scratch the spots that itch.

Pretty much says it all.

He should have been shot up his mother's *kitten*. Or been a stain on his father's sheets. Or his mother should have swallowed him.

OMG!! LMAO!!!

lilRicki

Oh yeah he should have been a blow job...I also question why none of the other employees mentioned the party...did the invitation say "don't tell anyone"...I'd go anyways just to make him super uncomfortable...suck in your esteem and let it burst forth the minute you walk through the doors...and if he says "you weren't invited" look around the room and say "why ever not? I work here too!" That's some HR that the new boss needs to deal with...that guy's a bad apple that's going to destroy your entire group.

RoadDog

Forget about it. Don't let it bother you. I wouldn't want to go to a party that made me uncomfortable.

deshaine

Oh yeah he should have been a blow job...I also question why none of the other employees mentioned the party...did the invitation say "don't tell anyone"...I'd go anyways just to make him super uncomfortable...suck in your esteem and let it burst forth the minute you walk through the doors...and if he says "you weren't invited" look around the room and say "why ever not? I work here too!" That's some HR that the new boss needs to deal with...that guy's a bad apple that's going to destroy your entire group.

I agree with this... hold your head high when you walk in, too!