Ever feel you are too old to start living?

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  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
    I want to add that nobody should feel whole only when together with someone else. I do not believe in the idea that there is an "other half", but if you are miserable as a single, you will have the same problems when in a relationship. A partner is someone sharing everyday life with you, but that's all, they don't "complete" you, you should be complete as an individual. Quiet confidence in oneself is a good thing for you and it will be attractive to the ladies you might wish to date, as well.

    Do I have days when everything sucks? Of course. Do I feel lonely at times? Naturally. Do I recognise when I'm wallowing in misery? Yes and I do something fun to snap out of it. If you have a depression, see a doctor, but otherwise just break the circle, nobody will do that for you. Good luck.
  • CAC10456
    CAC10456 Posts: 117 Member
    36 is not old. Life begins in your 40's.

    Or 50's . . . Or 60's . . . Or whenever you decide to start living for you
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    Oh hon, I could talk your ear off about how I basically threw away my teens and 20s and most of my 30s running around with the wrong people, dating the wrong guys, and doing all the wrong things. I'm now 42 and I STILL don't have it figured out.

    But I could sit around here feeling sorry for myself and, as it's often been told, you *kitten* in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.

    The choices we make are ours. So own it. And don't ever look at someone else's life and think that they have it all together, because you're only looking from the outside. And besides that, we all eventually end up in the same place anyway, so don't worry about it and live your life the best you can.
  • goldfinger88
    goldfinger88 Posts: 686 Member
    I'd like to say have have sympathy for you but I'm 70 years old. To me, you're a kid. Now, if you asked that question to someone my age, you might get a positive reply. Maybe. But not from someone like me. You have more than enough time to get your life together and you have to live and enjoy life while you're losing weight. A good weight, in and of itself, won't bring happiness. You need to be happy in your own skin wherever you are on your journey.

    I'm sure many people feel as you do. But you'll have to fight that feeling. I have no kids and no family. I know the feeling all too well. But life must be lived while we have it. It flees too soon.
  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
    Oh hon, I could talk your ear off about how I basically threw away my teens and 20s and most of my 30s running around with the wrong people, dating the wrong guys, and doing all the wrong things. I'm now 42 and I STILL don't have it figured out.

    But I could sit around here feeling sorry for myself and, as it's often been told, you *kitten* in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.

    The choices we make are ours. So own it. And don't ever look at someone else's life and think that they have it all together, because you're only looking from the outside. And besides that, we all eventually end up in the same place anyway, so don't worry about it and live your life the best you can.
    This.

    I recently went to a highschool reunion and my former classmates were refreshingly honest and down-to-earth. Everyone struggles with something and none of us is perfect. We all have ups and downs, but some make extra special efforts each day to live in the moment, cherish life's small gifts.

    You have a beautiful little relative and she looks like sunshine! Just start by paying attention to the small stuff, that's what I'd rather remember on my death bed anyway.

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