Dieters shed two friends for every stone they drop?

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  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
    I've not experienced it, but even though I'm dieting, I kinda try to keep it secret. I always think there's nothing worse than going out for drinks with someone who isn't drinking, or going to dinner with someone who has a salad. My calorie counting is strictly for when I'm alone, and when I'm out it goes completely out the window. It suits me to have all these free passes, but it's making it a longer journey, and I don't think I'll ever be able to ignore a great menu and scan for the lowest calorie option. I think if I did, I might get fewer offers to come out :tongue:

    This is mainly what I do but I'm not really upset about it taking longer because I'd much rather be able to enjoy my life a little while I'm losing. I have been doing this for almost two years and I have at LEAST one more to go before I am happy with the way that I look and that's ok with me :)

    As for friends. ..I'm with everyone else, any friends who act like yours wouldn't be around me for long. I don't have time to deal with that drama.
  • Frood42
    Frood42 Posts: 245 Member
    Daily Wail/Fail :laugh:


    I have mates and I have friends, you're friend would probably make it as far as the "mates" category, real friends don't need a "fat" friend to make them feel better about themselves or to shore up their insecurities.
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  • pensierobello
    pensierobello Posts: 285 Member
    I'm not really talking to anyone about it. My flatmate knows I'm on the site, and I'm sure I'll tell my best friend, but generally I think that so long as I exercise to make up for eating out, I shouldn't really need to. If I keep dropping (fingers crossed) obviously it will come up at some point, but I think I'm just going to say I'm eating well and living well, and not get into the specifics. I'm definitely not talking to work people about it, as I had put on 1.5 stone since I started here partly down to the constant kitchen drop-offs of cake and crisps and all that!
  • Shropshire1959
    Shropshire1959 Posts: 982 Member
    It's hard to lose REAL friends.... the others? **** them :-p
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    I think as long as you stay humble and don't go around bragging/talking about it. This is one reason I love MFP. This is the one place you can "brag", discuss your trumphs and your frustrations, and everyone understands! I know my FB friends do not want to hear it on a daily basis!
  • Branstin
    Branstin Posts: 2,320 Member
    It's hard to lose REAL friends.... the others? **** them :-p

    +1
  • tycho_mx
    tycho_mx Posts: 426 Member
    Get better friends :)

    Seriously, though, maybe just a different circle. We had an overweight guy join us for some bike rides. He stuck to it despite starting at the back and really slow, has lost some weight, and has gained 20+ riding partners / "friends" in the process.

    So if your friend activities consist of funnel cake and nachos exclusively, I can see that the process of losing weight would interfere with those friendships.
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    Depends.

    This is a much bigger problem with women than it is for us guys.

    Also the nature of your friendships matter. Take me, for example. Almost none of my friends are, or were, overweight/fat/obese. I never built friendships around eating, dining out, food was never the center of any of my relationships. So losing weight has had literally zero impact on the nature and quality of the interactions with my friends.

    However if a person has friendships that are built around stuffing your faces together, excessive drinking, or being fat is a state that binds you to your friends, losing weight might definitely disrupt those friendships and could ultimately kill it. If sitting around eating, or complaining constantly about being fat, or even dieting together is a huge commonality, yet one of you succeeds and the other doesn't, well...

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