Loss of Appetite / No Motivation

VaporeonSugar

As of Monday evening, I have pretty much given up on everything - weight loss and otherwise. My fiance just told me he wants to break it off and now I'm so depressed I have to beg myself to take a bite of something. I've been drinking a lot, which is making up most of my daily calories and I'm thinking about just quitting on eating and I'll just start drinking all day long. I only ate breakfast this morning because he bought it for me, but then he made it clear he isn't trying to make up, so I went back to being upset after eating. I don't exercise because I have a horrible body image. He stopped giving me compliments about two weeks ago and now I know why, but it's been making me hate how I look. I normally get annoyed with myself every now and then, but now I just feel like a disgusting ugly blob with no decent traits. I know if I keep on this, I'm not going to lose anything, but I don't know how to mentally get out of this.

Anyone else having similar issues? Any advice? I know a lot of people eat when depressed, but I'm opposite. I just kind of shut down.

notamoment

Im so sorry this has happened to you . Your grieving the loss of your relationship and honestly i workout more when i am depressed, it keeps my mind off of whatever is bothering me and allows me to free my mind in a sense. Not eating isnt going to help your situation especially if your trying to find comfort at the bottom of a bottle.

I suggest you talk about it, to friends, family, even a therapist could help you through this. However destroying yourself mentally and physically will not help you feel better about the situation at hand. I suggest allowing yourself to grieve, have a good cry maybe if you truly feel like your "disgusting" work those emotions out on a bag i always box when im pissed and it melts away the stress but everyone is different. I would stop drinking and start allowing yourself to handle the situation mentally for what it is.

He is leaving, and that sucks again im so sorry for you, but is it not the end of the world and it doesnt have to be the end of your happiness. Happiness is a decision we make everyday, do not let him kill you or bring you down so much that you drown in your own grief. Allow yourself to cry and accept what is happening but dont poison yourself with alcohol and dont poison yourself by looking in the mirror and telling yourself your disgusting.

Your beautiful and no man will change that, that strength and confidence is within you and you can find it again if you allow yourself to look for it . You can be more then what you have been convincing yourself you are, goodluck.