Hate rude people

joann
joann Posts: 624 Member
in Motivation and Support
Ok. so I have been feeling so good about myself and my dedication to trying to eat healthy. I have lost 28 lbs in a little over 3 months..So yesterday at work an old man I mean old 92 is checking out in my line and he looks at me and says I wouldnt want you your to fat...I know Im fat I dont need someone to tell me...I so wanted to say and yeah your &*&^%(&(&(*&B+ old...Just had to rant...It made me pissed off the rest of the day arggggggggggggggggggggggggg
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  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    WTF? Like, out of nowhere he says that you're too fat and he wouldn't want you?! That's just weird.
    Sorry he said that to you. I prolly would have told him off.
    I am not above yelling at an old man. Lolz.
  • notamoment
    notamoment Posts: 190 Member
    Sounds like ramblings from a senile old man, i really would have just laughed this off and asked him where his caretaker went.
  • _Resolve_
    _Resolve_ Posts: 735 Member
    dont worry.. he will likely die soon.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Old people have dementia.

    ETA: Sometimes. Sometimes old people have dementia. They might say things that are off the wall and cannot be taken serious when they are not lucid.
  • PaytraB
    PaytraB Posts: 2,360 Member
    You are doing great! You lost 28 lbs! That's a wonderful achievement. Focus on that.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    He' s probably miserable and wants others to feel the same way. Don't let that get to you...
  • 33Freya
    33Freya Posts: 468 Member
    Ack that was rude! I might have told him that it's for the best because no one wants an old ugly rude man either... but really try not to take stuff like that personally- obviously it was his problem, and his comment was a reflection of the muck in his sad, sad, soul. Mean people are only mean because they are hurting or very very damaged inside...
  • mommyrunning
    mommyrunning Posts: 495 Member
    Older people sometimes don't have a filter. My husband's grandmother (bless her heart) told me I was "still fat" after I'd lost most of the baby weight with my first daughter. She loves me but just said what she felt I guess.
  • fooninie
    fooninie Posts: 291 Member
    I kind of like that old people can randomly insult people and fart loudly in public. When I do those things, it doesn't fly. :noway:

    More to the point: CONGRATS on your success!!

    In closing: Fallout Boy says it best "I don't care what you think as long as it's about me..." he noticed you... just saying...
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    This is why I don't like people. (sarcasm, btw) My dog makes me feel appreciated everyday. Sometimes he's so happy to see me and loves me so much, he pees a little. I say, get yourself a doggie.

    Congrats on the weight loss!!!!!! :flowerforyou:
  • fooninie
    fooninie Posts: 291 Member
    Older people sometimes don't have a filter. My husband's grandmother (bless her heart) told me I was "still fat" after I'd lost most of the baby weight with my first daughter. She loves me but just said what she felt I guess.

    LOL!! OMGosh! My hubby's grandmother (RIP) told me I was getting fat. I was 6 month pregnant. :grumble:
  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    You should give the elderly and children a pass. Non compost mentos. (please no one correct my very deliberate spelling)
  • notamoment
    notamoment Posts: 190 Member
    Older people sometimes don't have a filter. My husband's grandmother (bless her heart) told me I was "still fat" after I'd lost most of the baby weight with my first daughter. She loves me but just said what she felt I guess.

    Hahahahahaha i think its more of an older generation thing, back in their day saying that stuff wasnt exactly frowned upon they were straight up honest.
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    Old people be trippin'.
    Saw an old man at the library asking the clerk to look up a book in the system, after not even 2 seconds the old man yelled "Hurry up before I go into rigor mortis"
  • tycho_mx
    tycho_mx Posts: 426 Member
    Some *kitten*-hats everywhere.

    I'm normally mindful of my own business, but have a sharp tongue. "I've lost 28 lbs. in the last 3 months. Too bad it doesn't seem you'll make it to see me lose the next 28".

    Yes, I can be a jerk. And yes, sometimes I feel bad about it afterwards.
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,904 Member
    I'd rather be fat than that old and possibly demented. That's written out of a sense of sympathy, rather than derision. It sucks getting old.
  • missiontofitness
    missiontofitness Posts: 4,059 Member
    I had an elderly family member (mid 90s) who had dementia and other ailments. He often spoke without a filter, and he did once tell me to "not get as fat as that lady" while we were in a waiting room. Right in front of the woman, who was quite heavy.
    In his youth, he would never speak that way. But as his mind started to go, so did his filter, and he often said things without realizing the consequences (and would forget he had said it soon after).

    As rude as it is, try not to take it to heart! It's possible that was the case, and it in no way reflects you, or your progress so far!
  • ChristinaOrtiz23
    ChristinaOrtiz23 Posts: 1,546 Member
    even though he was old and probably has dementia, it still hurts. BUT you look great and he didn't see your 28 lbs weight loss. So, tell him to go find his caretaker while you get healthier and lose even more weight. :bigsmile:
  • jigsawxyouth
    jigsawxyouth Posts: 308 Member
    dont worry.. he will likely die soon.
    First thing I thought!
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I am betting he had lost his filter and really doesn't even realize what he said was mean. My mom died last year at 84 and she used to say all sorts of things that she never would have said when she was younger. I had the choice of feeling insulted or laughing. I chose to laugh.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I don't know what is about some old people, but they seem to think being old negates the need for common courtesy. It's okay to say random hurtful things, fart or belch in public. I hope I am that old some day, but I hope I don't lose my manners.
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    All I got out of this was "he was like 92"... old people are nuts. If he was like 32, I would have been upset. Dude was probably crapping his pants as he was talking to you.
  • CindyMarcuzAdams
    CindyMarcuzAdams Posts: 4,007 Member
    I am sorry you had your feelings hurt. Even tho he may have been old and had alzheimers the comments can still cut like a razor. Especially when you have had a wonderful weight loss previous to it.
    Hang in there and know there are unlimited friends and supporters on mfp here for you.

    Cindy
  • mblair1968
    mblair1968 Posts: 323 Member
    Many old people are like children. they don't have a filter. What he said was rude. You just have to realize, 1. you already know you are overweight, and are doing something about it.(so he was technically correct). 2. Do you care that a 92 yo man doesn't "want you". As the song says, Let it Go. Not worth letting a grumpy, rude,old man ruin your day, or your life. Lose the rest of the weight you want to lose, and if he is still alive, and he comes through your line, and complements you, and says "I would take you!" Politely tell him something like you really want him too, but too bad he is rude.
  • vdolmstead
    vdolmstead Posts: 17 Member
    Hey, joann
    Please turn that around, like we used to say as kids -- "I'm rubber you're glue! Everything you say bounce off me and sticks to you!" Another way of looking at it is a quote from the late Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make a fool of your without your consent." There's an unlimited substitution for the "fool" word. Try "Fatty," for example. You're not fat. You just carry more weight now than you intend to carry in the future.

    I'm not Stupid. My errors don't define me! I do, on occasion, do stupid things. Those things are temporary. They are not me. Please don't let others define you. Especially not stupid old men. Oooops. Old men who do stupid things, is what I meant.

    Don't accept that baggage, even though it may trigger some guilty feelings over not being perfect right at the moment. You're not perfect, I'm willing to bet that. I'm also willing to bet you're pretty damn good!
  • msmonsi
    msmonsi Posts: 13 Member
    A senior man once called me "challenged" for struggling during an outdoor activity. It was so rude and ridiculous that I actually laughed and then he backtracked realizing he crossed the line. Don't take it personally...people will think what they want and all you can do is own who you currently are and who you are working towards becoming. 28 lbs is fabulous and you should be proud of your efforts! :)
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    I would've said, "Yeah, well that's okay. You're way too old for me anyway. I mean...WAY too old. Ew."

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  • kbolton322
    kbolton322 Posts: 358 Member
    one of the supervisors at my job who I dont deal with asked me on friday when my due date was.. I havent been prego in almost 5 years... hes very lucky I like my job cuz I could of hit him..
  • frangrann
    frangrann Posts: 219 Member
    Some older people have no filter!!!! (some young ones too)

    Just ignore and move on! You're doing great!
  • JustAnotherGirlSuzanne
    JustAnotherGirlSuzanne Posts: 932 Member
    He probably has dementia or Alzheimer's... which basically means he has no filter.

    My grandma has Alzheimer's and it's downright awkward the things she says to people sometimes. She'll ask two people who are obviously the same age if one of them is the mother of the other one. It also messes up the way the brain perceives things like people's size, age, etc.

    Congratulations on your weight loss! Please don't let what someone else says bring you down. You rock! :flowerforyou:

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