I weigh more than I look
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Same here! People are always shocked. But I think it's mostly because I'm 6'2" with long limbs, short torso, and i cary most of my weight in my lower body. It's like an optical illusion lol0
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I have the same problem, when I started out I weighed 256 (I'm 5'6"), and now I'm down to 207. I keep telling people I want to lose another 50-ish lbs and they say 'no way, there'll be nothing left of you', but I know what I weigh!
There's a test you can do to assess your true build. Put your thumb and forefinger around your opposite wrist:
If they overlap - small build
If they meet - average build
If there's a gap - large build
This works becuase the wirsit is non-fatty area, so even if you're very overweight you will still be able to tell your build type from this test. I didn't make it up, it's from the initial 'true body weight test' from the Dukan Diet! The Dukan diet said my true weight is 168 so that's my first goal to get to, but it still sounds a little heavy so I'd still like to get to 160 at least (ideally 156 so I can Ive lost 100 lbs!).
Sorry, but I DO NOT AGREE with this. :laugh: All you are measuring is finger length.0 -
last week my husband said I was too skinny and my chest caving in.....WTF!!!, I am 5-5 and weight 130! I told him I am fine! and he needs to check him self before he wrecks him self !0
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This thread is really interesting because I can relate to the scale not matching what I see in the mirror. I am about 5'6', 5'7'' with good posture and weigh currently about 135. Perfect, right? Nope. I'm still about a size 8/10 pants, and have this weird tire of fat around my stomach, and loose arms. I weigh LESS than what I look like. I feel like in order for me to lose my mid section (I can literally grab the fat on my stomach and swing it back and forth with my hand, I would have to lose at least 15-20 pounds..... but the thought of being 115-120 pounds at my height seems really low.
I am currently doing cardio to get the fat off, but am definitely doing weights and yoga to build up muscle. I am realizing (especially when I do strengthening yoga moves) that I really have no muscle. I am weak as $**t! (pardon my language). But to the folks who weigh more and look less, you probably have more of the muscle I am longing for and less of the fat I am trying to rid. Every body and everybody is different!0 -
Body composition. On any given day you could line up 5 women who are same height and weight but they will look different sizes and wear different sizes or who wear same size, but be diff weights - however you want to look at it.
Moral of story: BMI charts are a guide. Starting point. Body composition cannot be taken into consideration with a simple height/ weight chart.
setting a goal simply using bodyweight isn't THE way to determine a healthy weight and body composition for you. When we weigh it's not just fat we are weighing - it's bone, muscle, fat, organs, water, and other body " stuffs". strong bones are dense and are heavier. That's good! Having a higher percentage of fat free mass than fat = VERY GOOD. obesity is the condition of having more fat than fat free mass. So! If one has more fat free mass than fat and weighs higher on the scale, other biometrics and general health are good AND you look and feel fabulous = EXCELLENT.
me? I have more LBM than fat, have dense bones ( which is important for all of us as we age) , wear an easy size 8 , excellent general health.and am energetic and feel awesome. HowEVAH! If I went by the BMI chart alone, I'd need to lose a lower limb to fit into Average category. best of all? I'm able to maintain pretty effortlessly @ this body comp.
So! use other parameters and goals to guide you : not just scale weight.
Rock on !0 -
Agreed, this is why I am paying more attention to body fat than I am to scale weight, and I do lift so I know that can make a difference. I figured why not use the strength and muscles I always had to my advantage, it is working very well.The wrist test isn't very good.
What gives someone a larger build (therefore more lean body mass than average for your height) is having wider shoulders, a larger rib cage and a wider pelvis. This usually goes with having larger joints, but not always.
also, most sites that explain how to measure the wrist joint do it wrong. You measure the size of the actual joint, not the fleshy part at the front of your forearm. But even if you do it this way, some people store fat on their wrists, and that completely confounds the measurement, as you're measuring the size of the joint, i.e. where the bones meet. Extra fat there =/= a larger frame size. If there's fat on your wrist joint the test will be meaningless.
It's better to go by body fat percentage. That's the best way to tell if you really do have a large frame or if you're carrying too much fat. Also look in the mirror. Bones are solid, muscle is firm when you flex, but fat is soft and jiggly.
Basing your goal weight on body fat percentage is important, because while the majority of the population will be in the "healthy" BMI range when their body fat percentage is, BMI doesn't tell you where within that range you should be. Small framed people should be in the low end of the range (with a few outliers even in the underweight range while still being totally healthy) medium framed people should be in the middle of the BMI range while large framed people should be in the higher end of the range... and some large framed people who do a lot of strength training, manual labour or other activity that results in gaining lean mass may be above the healthy BMI range while their body fat percentage is still in the healthy range.0 -
It didn't just happen once, it has happened to me over and over my whole life, since I was a child. You seem awfully invested in being right. Frame size and muscle mass have a lot to do with how "fat" a person is perceived as being. If somebody said, oh you don't look fat, and you use that as an excuse, then you used that as an excuse. Sometimes friends say things like that not realizing they do more harm than good, or it is clouded by their perception. For example, I witnessed one obese friend tell another obese friend she was not fat once, but the fact is both of them were obese, but the more obese one thought the less obese one was not fat.
Not in my case, I had many medical professionals either say that to me, or they would weigh me, look at the scale, look back at me, check the scale, repeat that, shake their head and write it down. In high school I weighed 120, everybody thought I weighed about 100, I was the same size as other girls who did weigh 100.I wonder how many people who are overweight have been told that they look like they weight less then they really do? I feel like it is a common occurrence that people do , and the same thing with age too. Oh your 34, you don't look a day over 26. Oh your 300lbs, you look like you are 260.
In my case I know what it is, I am more muscular than average, and muscle is more dense and takes up less space, so you weigh more but are not bigger. It is not going to make a stupendous difference, in my case it is 20 lbs., but you have to take it into consideration when setting weight goals, it would be fine if I decided to go back down to my high school weight, it would not be healthy if i wanted to go down to 100.
You know you have no way of knowing this right? Just because your doctor didn't think you weighed as much as you did, doesn't mean somebody at some point lied to you about what they thought you weighed. That, and I don't really think you fit into the examples I gave.0 -
Bones could be part of it for me too, I have very strong bones, have never broken or sprained one.Body composition. On any given day you could line up 5 women who are same height and weight but they will look different sizes and wear different sizes or who wear same size, but be diff weights - however you want to look at it.
Moral of story: BMI charts are a guide. Starting point. Body composition cannot be taken into consideration with a simple height/ weight chart.
setting a goal simply using bodyweight isn't THE way to determine a healthy weight and body composition for you. When we weigh it's not just fat we are weighing - it's bone, muscle, fat, organs, water, and other body " stuffs". strong bones are dense and are heavier. That's good! Having a higher percentage of fat free mass than fat = VERY GOOD. obesity is the condition of having more fat than fat free mass. So! If one has more fat free mass than fat and weighs higher on the scale, other biometrics and general health are good AND you look and feel fabulous = EXCELLENT.
me? I have more LBM than fat, have dense bones ( which is important for all of us as we age) , wear an easy size 8 , excellent general health.and am energetic and feel awesome. HowEVAH! If I went by the BMI chart alone, I'd need to lose a lower limb to fit into Average category. best of all? I'm able to maintain pretty effortlessly @ this body comp.
So! use other parameters and goals to guide you : not just scale weight.
Rock on !0 -
Everyone's different and you have to find a place within the healthy weight range that works for you. OP, you and I are the same height and I'm almost at my goal weight of 135, which is a lot higher than would work for some women our height. In my case, I've always been muscular--I just used to be muscular with a lot of fat over it--so even at my heaviest I was relatively compact. I'd still love to lose a few stubborn bits of fat, but the rest of me looks good and my face is getting almost too thin. (At my age, that means more wrinkles, and being slender and wrinkly is no fun either.) So I'm leaning toward recomping rather than desperately trying to lose much more.
FWIW, I'm not "big-boned" by the wrist test, but I'm hourglass-shaped, with a narrow waist, wide hip bones and decent-sized shoulders. That bone structure isn't going anywhere, and I think it works better when those hip bones aren't jutting out.0 -
OP, I'm 5'5" too. Was 166.2 when I started, but I have very skinny legs, so could often disguise my big belly. Nobody knew I weighed that much and I almost had myself fooled as well.
My initial goal was to get below 150 - so 149. Once I got there I could see that I needed to lose still more, so 145 became the new goal. Now I can see where the excess weight is and I believe that 138 would be pretty decent weight for me. I think 130 might look great, but at my age it's probably not realistic to think I could a) get there or b) maintain that. That said, I think you will know where you should be as you get closer to it. Good luck! 0 -
You are supposed to use a tape measure to do it. I had it done for me by a diet place with a tape measure, but I didn't agree with them because I don't have a large frame, it was fat because now my wrist measures for a medium frame, which is what I am.I have the same problem, when I started out I weighed 256 (I'm 5'6"), and now I'm down to 207. I keep telling people I want to lose another 50-ish lbs and they say 'no way, there'll be nothing left of you', but I know what I weigh!
There's a test you can do to assess your true build. Put your thumb and forefinger around your opposite wrist:
If they overlap - small build
If they meet - average build
If there's a gap - large build
This works becuase the wirsit is non-fatty area, so even if you're very overweight you will still be able to tell your build type from this test. I didn't make it up, it's from the initial 'true body weight test' from the Dukan Diet! The Dukan diet said my true weight is 168 so that's my first goal to get to, but it still sounds a little heavy so I'd still like to get to 160 at least (ideally 156 so I can Ive lost 100 lbs!).
Sorry, but I DO NOT AGREE with this. :laugh: All you are measuring is finger length.0 -
we sound similar im 5ft 5 and weigh 153lbs but don't look it my goal was 130lbs too but I think im looking more around 145lbs0
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I think you are limiting yourself to say because of age you can't get there. I am 52 and lifting weights and getting there.OP, I'm 5'5" too. Was 166.2 when I started, but I have very skinny legs, so could often disguise my big belly. Nobody knew I weighed that much and I almost had myself fooled as well. My initial goal was to get below 150 - so 149. Once I got there I could see that I needed to lose still more, so 145 became the new goal. Now I can see where the excess weight is and I believe that 138 would be pretty decent weight for me. I think 130 might look great, but at my age it's probably not realistic to think I could a) get there or b) maintain that. That said, I think you will know where you should be as you get closer to it. Good luck!0 -
I have a BMI of 25.1 and yet body fat measured using calipers comes out at ~14 to 16%. So go figure0
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im also 5'5 and 142lbs people always think i weigh a lot less0
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I look more than I weigh!:laugh:0
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I am 5'5 and 149lbs. At my heaviest I was 170lbs. People are always surprised when I told them my weight. I have family members that weigh less than me but wear bigger size then I. Is there really a such thing as being "big boned"? Even when I was pregnant with my son I went the first 6 months without people noticing I was pregnant. I remember going to the ER at 7 months and the doctor thinking I was 7 weeks instead. Anyway, I just think it's weird how people that weigh the same can look so different and it's making me rethink my goal weight . 130 sounds good but I think If I lost another 20lbs I'd look sickly.
You'd be surprised how evenly your body can lose weight in a healthy weight range(disclaimer: speaking from my experience, not anyone else's). I've had a 20-lb. swing in weight without ever changing clothing size. I'm about 5' 7", low weight was 130 lbs. and high weight was 154 lbs. I didn't change clothing sizes even after an almost 25-lb swing in weight. Friends were shocked when I told them my weight and just dismissed it as "you work out a lot and you must have a lot of muscle." (Not 25 extra pounds worth of it, I assure you...)
I'm trying to convince myself not to obsess about it too much since I'm in a healthy weight range, despite weighing more than I used to. I'm still trying to lose weight, but I'm trying to work more on building healthy lifestyle changes than I was before.0 -
i weigh more than my friends and I do look much heavier too. I used to convince myself that I am "big boned" but the fact is that I am just fat.0
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I understand. I weighed 130 and so did my friend. We are the same height. She always looked chubby when I looked very trim. She did not achieve the same "thinness" as me until she weighed 115 even though we wore the same size clothes. I think it has to do with muscle mass. I was an athlete and she was not. You have to go by how you look and feel, not by the scale.0
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Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"0 -
You are supposed to use a tape measure to do it. I had it done for me by a diet place with a tape measure, but I didn't agree with them because I don't have a large frame, it was fat because now my wrist measures for a medium frame, which is what I am.I have the same problem, when I started out I weighed 256 (I'm 5'6"), and now I'm down to 207. I keep telling people I want to lose another 50-ish lbs and they say 'no way, there'll be nothing left of you', but I know what I weigh!
There's a test you can do to assess your true build. Put your thumb and forefinger around your opposite wrist:
If they overlap - small build
If they meet - average build
If there's a gap - large build
This works becuase the wirsit is non-fatty area, so even if you're very overweight you will still be able to tell your build type from this test. I didn't make it up, it's from the initial 'true body weight test' from the Dukan Diet! The Dukan diet said my true weight is 168 so that's my first goal to get to, but it still sounds a little heavy so I'd still like to get to 160 at least (ideally 156 so I can Ive lost 100 lbs!).
Sorry, but I DO NOT AGREE with this. :laugh: All you are measuring is finger length.
most people don't measure in the right place. even the picture on the website linked to earlier in the thread about how to measure frame size, the tape measure is in the wrong place.0 -
Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"
We don't talk about weight at work...there was this guy who is kinda a jerk...once actually asked me how much I weigh...I didn't know how to repsond...0 -
Overall scale weight compared to how you 'look' has to do with LBM and BF%. High LBM and a lower BF% can make you look smaller than what the scale tells. I have that same issue. I am 5'7" I weigh 168-170 right now and my brothers pegged me at 140. I wear a loose size 10, size 10 shoe, 7 in wrists. I believe I have a high LBM weight, mostly because I spent several years in my late teens heavy lifting. I think I am always going to be on the heavier side of my 'healthy weight range' and I am okay with that, because I will always 'look' lighter....
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Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"
We don't talk about weight at work...there was this guy who is kinda a jerk...once actually asked me how much I weigh...I didn't know how to repsond...
Your response could be, "You know, you could get fired for asking me that question!"0 -
Without a true body comp analysis, there's no way to know for sure. I've had one and according to the stats that came back my "ideal" weight is around 165 or so. I'd like to be even less (during cycling / running season).
I suggest OP do this. Cost varies, but I paid ~$45.0 -
Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"
We don't talk about weight at work...there was this guy who is kinda a jerk...once actually asked me how much I weigh...I didn't know how to repsond...
Your response could be, "You know, you could get fired for asking me that question!"
LOL I think he already got enough trouble on his plate....0 -
It didn't just happen once, it has happened to me over and over my whole life, since I was a child. You seem awfully invested in being right. Frame size and muscle mass have a lot to do with how "fat" a person is perceived as being. If somebody said, oh you don't look fat, and you use that as an excuse, then you used that as an excuse. Sometimes friends say things like that not realizing they do more harm than good, or it is clouded by their perception. For example, I witnessed one obese friend tell another obese friend she was not fat once, but the fact is both of them were obese, but the more obese one thought the less obese one was not fat.
Not in my case, I had many medical professionals either say that to me, or they would weigh me, look at the scale, look back at me, check the scale, repeat that, shake their head and write it down. In high school I weighed 120, everybody thought I weighed about 100, I was the same size as other girls who did weigh 100.I wonder how many people who are overweight have been told that they look like they weight less then they really do? I feel like it is a common occurrence that people do , and the same thing with age too. Oh your 34, you don't look a day over 26. Oh your 300lbs, you look like you are 260.
In my case I know what it is, I am more muscular than average, and muscle is more dense and takes up less space, so you weigh more but are not bigger. It is not going to make a stupendous difference, in my case it is 20 lbs., but you have to take it into consideration when setting weight goals, it would be fine if I decided to go back down to my high school weight, it would not be healthy if i wanted to go down to 100.
You know you have no way of knowing this right? Just because your doctor didn't think you weighed as much as you did, doesn't mean somebody at some point lied to you about what they thought you weighed. That, and I don't really think you fit into the examples I gave.
It has nothing to do with me being right, or muscle mass, frame size or anything else you just wrote, I have no doubt that there are a lot of people out there that weigh more than they look like they weigh. You are taking it all wrong. I'm just saying you have no idea if people are lying to you or telling you the truth when they are telling you this, especially if you had a lot of people saying it, that just means there is more of a chance that somebody was lying to you.0 -
I think it often does have to do with your body shape.
I am 5'-3" and weigh in the 141 range right now. I am a perfect hourglass and am rather chesty. I wear a size 4/small...sometimes even XS. I know plenty of people my height who weight less or around what I weigh and wear 8/10 in the same clothing.0 -
Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"
We don't talk about weight at work...there was this guy who is kinda a jerk...once actually asked me how much I weigh...I didn't know how to repsond...
Your response could be, "You know, you could get fired for asking me that question!"
love it lol
weight and age thing.. its complimentary to suggest people are younger than they look and lighter than they weigh.. these people are usally sweet talking you for something in return AND its bad manners to ask a lady her age or weight
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Has anyone noticed that EVERYONE says they weigh more than people think??
Perhaps this just means that either
1. We have a distorted image of what is a normal weight. And/Or
2. People are just being nice.
I have never heard anyone say, "people think I weigh more than I really do"
I guess you missed my post completely! I definitely weigh much less than I look! I basically know the reason, too. I have zero muscle, but have soft fat sloshing around. Charming, right?0
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