Not everyone sees your sucsess

kspenglermoore

Food for thought ; A few days ago my hubby and I went to a party at a friends house..... while talking to my friends mom I was stating how proud I was about my hubby loosing 35 lbs and making his weight loss goal. Another lady overheard this, looked at me and said: "So when are you going to start?"...... My jaw just dropped. It took me only few seconds to recover and answer: "I have already started and lost over 40lbs"...... The lady just starred at me and her discomfort was visible to everyone watching....... My comeback felt pretty good, but it also reminded me that my success is not visible to everybody and that I still have a long way to go....... It reminded me also that I am not doing this for anybody but me!!!!.... yes, it will be nice not to be the fat chick with the good looking skinny guy (my hubby), but my health and quality of life is really why I am doing this and not so other people can be envious of me!!!..... also my success in weight loss will not solve what other problems I have!

Joyfulkneves23

Congrats on your weight loss. I would not focus on that lady’s ignorance and shame on her for even asking, that is just rude.

Keep up the good work

Asherah29

I can't get past the rudeness of even asking someone you simply over hear in a conversation when they are going to start working out! But phooey on her! 40 pounds is fantastic!

Briaboo4

I love your great attitude! Way to put that rude woman in her place!

Insomniac8

I cannot forget the day I went to a party about 2 months ago, thinking how family's reaction would be as I had lost about 8/9 kg. So I stepped in and just after half an hour a cousin came to me and asked if I gained weight. You cannot imagine my face!!! After that I learned that I cannot expect everyone notices what I see. Plus, this time is my second time on a diet and last time I went down to a weight where all family and friends were applauding and told me how good I looked. So I stopped dieting and I regret it too much as it was not still my ideal weight. This time with all the experience I exactly know what I want, it makes me happy when people admire my body and determination but neither their admiration nor their ignorance will affect my goal.
Cheers to us!

dancer2u

Honey I hear you! Some people are just really rude, & don't think before they speak. I have lost almost 20 pounds, & haven't had one person say I look any different other than my husband. When they do ask how much I have lost, I can see the look on their face like "you sure don't look like you lost any too me". I am doing this for myself though & nobody else & have went down a size already. I feel better & will continue to work on myself, & just ignore the haters.

Edit: I do have a story though. I had someone tell me that I looked skinner, but they said it's because the outfit I had on made me look thinner, & would on almost anyone. Some people don't need to speak, lol.

Cruz2Fit

Honey I hear you! Some people are just really rude, & don't think before they speak. I have lost almost 20 pounds, & haven't had one person say I look any different other than my husband. When they do ask how much I have lost, I can see the look on their face like "you sure don't look like you lost any too me". I am doing this for myself though & nobody else & have went down a size already. I feel better & will continue to work on myself, & just ignore the haters.

Edit: I do have a story though. I had someone tell me that I looked skinner, but they said it's because the outfit I had on made me look thinner, & would on almost anyone. Some people don't need to speak, lol.

OMG on you Edit!!! WHY WOULD ANYONE SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT??? Is that person so dissatisfied with his/her life that they have to bring other people down that way? Or is it a complete lack of social skills and relating to other human beings? Congratulations on your weight-loss! Keep looking forward! Surround yourself with people who are positive and support you!
I support you!

bmskid

Definitely a great attitude!
Rule of Thumb with weight loss: People suck. Sometimes they're jealous, sometimes they're just buttholes. I like to pretend other people's opinions don't exist and that mine is the only one that matters.

amandaschaller28

What an ugly person. I hate people like that. Haters gonna hate! Seems like you shrugged it off quite nice!

trinacrick

Congrats on your successes! Honestly, she probably saw it and is just one of those mean people. I used to let people like that get under my skin, I would have spent the next two days thinking of about a hundred things I wished I would have said to her. Now I don't let people get away with it. I look them straight in the eye and say "what an incredibly rude thing to say!" It is my hope that it saves the next person the hurt because maybe, just maybe, they will actually think twice before they are so thoughtless again.

Good luck on your continued goals!

aliwhalen

I used to nanny for a woman who was overweight, and I would watch her daughter while she ran with her sister every morning. One day, a neighbor stopped her to say, "Oh, I didn't know you were a runner!" she replied, "Yeah! Five miles a day!", the neighbor replied, "You'd think you'd be skinnier!"

WOW. I wanted to punch neighbor-lady in the teeth. People like to talk without thinking first!

My PIL still haven't noticed I've lost about 15 pounds, or they don't want to mention it? I went from a size 12 to a size 8 in two months, so I'm a little miffed about it :P

walk757

Congrats on your successes! Honestly, she probably saw it and is just one of those mean people. I used to let people like that get under my skin, I would have spent the next two days thinking of about a hundred things I wished I would have said to her. Now I don't let people get away with it. I look them straight in the eye and say "what an incredibly rude thing to say!" It is my hope that it saves the next person the hurt because maybe, just maybe, they will actually think twice before they are so thoughtless again.

Good luck on your continued goals!

Love it, I am going to remember your comeback!

MissJay75

My PIL still haven't noticed I've lost about 15 pounds, or they don't want to mention it? I went from a size 12 to a size 8 in two months, so I'm a little miffed about it :P

I've lost 20 pounds this spring (from 174 to 154) and none of my family or friends have said anything. On the other hand they had the good grace not to say anything over the past 2 years when I gained 40 pounds, so not complaining.

Mariachicat

There's something I saw on Pinterest where it takes approximately a couple of weeks for you to start seeing changes in yourself, about a month for family and friends, and two to three months for everyone else. That's probably not completely accurate time wise, but your story reminds me that while it's tempting to seek immediate validation in others' approval, willpower and persistence in the absence of encouragement or validation is a wiser investment. Keep up the good work!

kspenglermoore

Thanks for all the kudos...... .the story was meant as encouragement to on going even if those around you are not recognizing your success.... and as a topic for others to share their frustrations with nobody noticing their accomplishments ..... and yes there will always be those rude people out there, but they really do not count!.....

And yes, I get frustrated on some days about the slow progress or on some days reversal of progress (I have a water retention issue my kidney doc and I are working on), but on most days I am fine with "people" not noticing my losses. It is enough that I know!

Sawieger88

I have just hit the 40 lb mark and I have been stalling a little bit there. At first no one believed I had lost that much weight and no people won't shut up about it. I think it takes some time for people to notice it and your body to shrink up the skin and tighten up. There has only been a 2 lb difference From one coworker saying they can't tell to asking me all my "skinny secrets"! I think it just takes the right outfit or circumstance. And fat shaming is the worst. Most fat people know they are fat and that it is unhealthy. It's like telling a smoker they will get cancer. They know. Leave them alone unless they are a close loved one you are actually concerned about.

My point is celebrate your triumphs in being a healthier you and not a cold hearted **** that likes to rain on parades. Just sayin!

slimbettie

When I lost 15kg a "friend" of mine told me I have no wrinkles because my fat stretches them out. So now that I have lost almost 30kg, I guess she is going to tell me she can see wrinkles! I will see her in December. But am already bracing myself for the rude remarks, all born out of pure jealousy!!!!

motivatedmartha

My PIL still haven't noticed I've lost about 15 pounds, or they don't want to mention it? I went from a size 12 to a size 8 in two months, so I'm a little miffed about it :P

I've lost 20 pounds this spring (from 174 to 154) and none of my family or friends have said anything. On the other hand they had the good grace not to say anything over the past 2 years when I gained 40 pounds, so not complaining.

You make a good point - my family have never commented on my weight increase so I shouldn't expect them to comment on my weight loss

mary659497

You can't change stupid people. Congratulations on losing 40 pounds.

sabified

Congrats on your weight loss. I would not focus on that lady’s ignorance and shame on her for even asking, that is just rude.

Keep up the good work

I love when the very first reply says just what I want to

That lady was a jerk- glad she felt it.

KaelaLee88

Congratulations on your weight-loss!

I have lost just under 50lbs since January and most people are very complimentary (after 30lbs or so, it becomes evident on my body that there's been a change) but some people don't notice at all.

At the end of the day, it is my body. I don't really want or need the kind of attention that comes from only having a beautiful body (whatever shape or size it might be). I would much rather be praised on having a beautiful mind or personality - these are things that cannot be changed and mean more that how you once-looked as time goes by.

The people that find themselves passing judgement on others for how much they weigh or what clothes size they wear are just that, Judgemental. An opinionated person can have opinions on every little thing that happens in the world but that doesn't mean to say that they are right.

Kaela x