Eating my sorrows away

Vicxie86

On May 14, i lost my grandma and i seriously felt like a part of my soul died. She raised me and i always felt like she was immortal. Her death was sudden and completely broke me. I started eating 24/7 so that i wouldnt have to think about it and since 3weeks ago, i have been struggling to break myself away from that.

I'll have 1 good day followed by 3 bad days and another good day followed by 4 bad days....no idea how to pull myself out of this funk. I do not want my emotions controlling my diet but i find that that is exactly what i have been doing. I wonder if anyone has ever fallen victim to the "i'll eat my sorrows away" bug and how it was dealt with. With only 7-12lbs to go, i want to achieve what i set out to do but my heart isn't catching up with my head. I've kept junk outta the house but i'm still overeating.

Advice appreciated

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blastbeat78

Don’t beat yourself up. I really feel for you as I’ve been in exactly the same boat. One of my closest friends died last month and my way of dealing with it was to binge eat and drink! I normally consume 1,700 calories a day but during this time there were days when I was eating up to 5,000 calories (getting through 3 packs of biscuits in one sitting!). As a result I put on 10 pounds. The more I ate and drank the worse I felt (physically and mentally) which is a vicious circle.

It’s only in the past 10 days that I’ve started to feel more like myself and I’m getting back on track with my diet and I feel mentally stronger for it. I had a lapse on Saturday and ate 3 packs of biscuits but I won’t let that slip up set me back. You need to keep reassuring yourself that you won’t feel like this forever. As time progresses you will start waking up and feeling a little better each day and you will find new ways to cope. Good luck!

MaggieLoo79

I'm very sorry for your loss.

My stepson passed away in early March and I gained 15 pounds in the two weeks we were off work after that. It was a very emotional time and people were stopping in and bring food. I was shoveling it in. I had to go see my doctor and get back on an antidepressant. I also started seeing a counselor. It has been very difficult to regain control. I'm still on an emotional roller coaster, but I've finally gotten my eating back under control. It will take time.

RodaRose

I am sorry to hear about your grandma's passing. Maybe try to do this for your memory of her. She would want you to feel good about yourself.

Mariachicat

I think people turn to food after grief to feel fulfilled. A good show that tackles this from time to time is "Supersize vs. Superskinny". Watching others do this has made me guard against doing it myself. I also saw my mother do this. It's really no way to live.

healthygreek

Your story really touched me.
Just as you loved your grandma very much, she loved you.
Since she raised you- it's as if you lost your mother.
Grandmas and moms feed us in so many different ways!
They feed us emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and the list goes on!
Of course, they also feed us with their amazing food too-and no one cooks like grandma!
Now you must feed your self and in your grief you are using only food.
This is so natural. Be as loving, kind and gentle with yourself as your grandma would be.
It will pass and your loving memories of your beautiful grandma will always be inside you.
You will carry grandma with you always.

galprincess

Hi I totally understand where you are coming from my dad is dying from cancer and I binged terribly but she wouldn't want that for you she would want you to be happy and healthy. Im so sorry for your loss feel free to add me if you could use support. Im an emotional eater and its so easy to go down that slope but when I find myself grabbing the junk I say no im worth more than that

Vicxie86

Thanks for all the advice. I will be trying harder to get my head back into the game

ninerbuff

Look for support from community groups that deal with loss from death of a loved one. My aunt did it when my uncle died and it turned out really well for her. That's just from my conversation with her of course, but maybe something you might look into.

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kimothy38

Don't be so hard on yourself. Allow yourself to grieve but try not to eat to block out the pain, you need to just it be. Things will get better and 1 good day will eventually turn into 2, then 3. In the meantime, be kind to yourself and do what makes you happy (hopefully it's not eating) but seriously, do whatever works for you at the moment.