Psychological block at 63 kgs :(

hellosay

Ugh, since last week I haven't lost even a bit. In fact, I was 63.1 kg last week and I am 63.4 today!
Ugh, I hate myself for falling off the wagon. I go to the gym regularly though and on the days I missed I go for an atleast 30-40 min walk. (I skipped Sunday.)

I think my issue is that everytime I try to lose weight, once I hit 63, I find my clothes fitting much better and I get too complacent. I still log everything but I tend to go over in my calories.
The problem is that I kind of gave away my pre-pregnancy clothes so I don't have size 6 clothes to motivate me. And I worked late all this week(I was so busy I didn't have time to snack) so when I go home I am too hungry and gorge on everything is sight.

Did any of you face the same problem and how do you overcome it?

I am seriously considering going for a walk again today, but with job and a toddler, I can't usually workout more than an hour in the morning.

I am seriously not looking for any sympathy, guys, I know I have a long way to go to get to my goal weight, I just am having a hard time waging this psychological battle.

KLangleydoula

Hi! I have definitely been there! My name is Kim and my weight loss journey began two years ago. I was at my heaviest (225) and things were not good. I couldn't keep up with my kids, I was tired all the time, and my doctor told me that my cholesterol was on the rise! I decided something needed to change. I started walking, and eventually doing some weight training. I am down over 70 pounds! I feel so much better, and I love supporting and encouraging people to do the same. I would be happy to be an accountability partner with you. I still have some weight to lose, so we can work at it together! Getting your nutrition under control is a big key to losing weight. I can share what has worked for me if you are interested. If you work hard, I know you can reach your goal! So what do ya say? Are you in? Also, One thing that has really helped me is being a part of a facebook challenge group. I had plateaued and just couldn't seem to lose when I joined the group. The support and encouragement that I found there is incredible! The accountability is great too! We have weekly challenges that you can choose to participate in, and sometimes there are prizes! It is so motivating! If you are interested, I can get you added!

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Siannah

Exactly the same issue, at exactly the same weight, how freaky!
I have been down to 60 kilos, even a little below that, and it was great, it really was. Clothes fit like a dream, felt light and fit.

This was three years ago and slowly the weight has gone back up. I just keep gaining and losing the same pesky pounds, it is as if my body does not want to let go of this number 63.

I know numbers don't mean everything but at this number, I'm between clothes sizes, which is so annoying. I just want to get back to the 60 kilos. Simple as. It's a nice round number too :laugh:

I'll send you a friend request.

oedipa_maas

I'm dealing with the same exact issue this week. For me, I realized it wasn't complacently as much as it was self-sabotage. I felt really good last week because I was finally below 200 lbs (barely--just 199). Psychologically I felt a boost, happy and even more attractive (even though I have a long way to go). Then this week I fell into a really bad struggle. I gritted my teeth and stuck to my health goals, but then I lost it and binged. I felt so incredibly bad.

But instead of punishing myself or indulging in bad self-talk, I sat down with myself and said: Let's examine this. It wasn't too long before I understood exactly what was going on. First, I had restricted too much for some weeks. Second, I brought some food in the house that I simply cannot handle. But it was the last revelation that proved the most helpful. I realized that in the past, every time I hit a personal goal, something inside me would react in fear and I would sabotage myself and regain all the weight I lost. I thought hard about the psychological part of it. I think I'm afraid to succeed (failure is more familiar), I'm afraid to sustain my efforts (why bother?) and I have all or nothing thinking that is super helpful (not).

I can't fully suss out my fears around losing weight, but I still have to move forward. Now that I have this awareness, I'm hoping I can dismantle my psychological blocks and just keep going. I think writing this out helps me too. Thanks for posting this, and I wish you good things

maroonmango211

I had the exact same thing happen to me when I hit 150 lbs, which is where I was 2 years ago ish when I found out I was pregnant again. For some reason I just couldn't get past it the way I was going this time around and I truly think it was psychological whether worrying that some how I would end up gaining again or simply because it had been so long since I was any smaller or like you my clothes were fitting so much better already I have no idea. I went out to a second hand store and bought some smaller clothes that "fit" but not well (kind of like my other clothes had months before) and I started making mini goals for myself that had nothing to do with weight, but fitness instead (like being able to do 5 push ups from my toes, or last a minute of jumping jacks).

Once I started concentrating on something other than what the scale said the weight started to come off again with relatively little changed diet wise. I still work out at home during the week with my preschooler (she is now 4 and demanded she get her own weights) while my toddler is napping and my oldest is at school, I still home prepare almost everything that we eat for meals and I still definitely indulge in treats if they fit in my day including candy and alcohol (we make home made wine!) I think changing how I saw getting healthy as a whole, and as a long lifelong process kicked my butt into gear.

Be proud of yourself for what you have done, and use little things to motivate you to continue, getting over the plateau will happen.

hellosay

Wow, thanks for the great tips, guys. Glad to know that I'm not alone!
I didn't weigh myself for a couple of days and today the scale says 62.7, so I am def calling it a win.

Who knew not weighing daily actually helps.

hellosay

I'm dealing with the same exact issue this week. For me, I realized it wasn't complacently as much as it was self-sabotage. I felt really good last week because I was finally below 200 lbs (barely--just 199). Psychologically I felt a boost, happy and even more attractive (even though I have a long way to go). Then this week I fell into a really bad struggle. I gritted my teeth and stuck to my health goals, but then I lost it and binged. I felt so incredibly bad.

But instead of punishing myself or indulging in bad self-talk, I sat down with myself and said: Let's examine this. It wasn't too long before I understood exactly what was going on. First, I had restricted too much for some weeks. Second, I brought some food in the house that I simply cannot handle. But it was the last revelation that proved the most helpful. I realized that in the past, every time I hit a personal goal, something inside me would react in fear and I would sabotage myself and regain all the weight I lost. I thought hard about the psychological part of it. I think I'm afraid to succeed (failure is more familiar), I'm afraid to sustain my efforts (why bother?) and I have all or nothing thinking that is super helpful (not).

I can't fully suss out my fears around losing weight, but I still have to move forward. Now that I have this awareness, I'm hoping I can dismantle my psychological blocks and just keep going. I think writing this out helps me too. Thanks for posting this, and I wish you good things

Very well said!

hellosay

Hi! I have definitely been there! My name is Kim and my weight loss journey began two years ago. I was at my heaviest (225) and things were not good. I couldn't keep up with my kids, I was tired all the time, and my doctor told me that my cholesterol was on the rise! I decided something needed to change. I started walking, and eventually doing some weight training. I am down over 70 pounds! I feel so much better, and I love supporting and encouraging people to do the same. I would be happy to be an accountability partner with you. I still have some weight to lose, so we can work at it together! Getting your nutrition under control is a big key to losing weight. I can share what has worked for me if you are interested. If you work hard, I know you can reach your goal! So what do ya say? Are you in? Also, One thing that has really helped me is being a part of a facebook challenge group. I had plateaued and just couldn't seem to lose when I joined the group. The support and encouragement that I found there is incredible! The accountability is great too! We have weekly challenges that you can choose to participate in, and sometimes there are prizes! It is so motivating! If you are interested, I can get you added!

Yes please add me! I will friend you.