Love Advice

splashtree2

So me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year now. And he's my first "real boyfriend" but he had 2 serious ones before and they both ended in the girls cheating on him. And now..he's with me and the entire time we've been dating he's been accusing me of cheating on him..no matter what I do I can't get him to believe that I am a faithful girlfriend..I hid nothing..I tell him everything and I hardly ever leave the house but he still thinks I'm unfaithful..now last July he stopped talking to me and I found out a week later he was with another girl and didn't feel the need to tell me because he said "I was the one losing feelings for him and he didn't wanna get hurt"....I'm not looking for sympathy and I really don't wanna be told to leave him because I reallly think we can make it work..But things have been getting worse these last couple of days..I just need help on what I can do to make him believe me,,

He's nut...that's it!!! And not self confident so he let you pay everything he 's not sure about, have more time for you he must earn you!!

SwashBlogger

Well, I was going to add my 2 cents of old lady wisdom. But after reading the thoughtful and smart responses upstream, I just second everything already said.

janetay01

Well, I was going to add my 2 cents of old lady wisdom. But after reading the thoughtful and smart responses upstream, I just second everything already said.

This. And the poster who talked about first love and last love - they are rarely the same love and you have to go through first love (and often quite a few more) before you find your last one. And believe me, you will know it when you find it. Walk away, remember him and the relationship with fondness if you can - and don't settle. When you meet 'the one' you will know - and you won't have to convince him of anything - your actions and time together will mean that you both 'just know'. You deserve and can find better

LC458

If he accuses you of cheating and your not, guess what, he's cheating! Been there before and I highly doubt you're going to listen to anyone here on the forum so go be with a man who IS cheating but conveniently has accused you of cheating. I' have no advice on how to "convince" your boyfriend on anything but regardless if you want to hear it or not you should run from this guy. But hey I'm just some random person on a random forum so what do I know?

Colli78

Well...... you have two options: stay or leave. You can't change him, that's not your responsibility and you can't even if you wanted to. SOOOOO if you cannot follow through on the probably right, but difficult decision to move on, as suggested above, then I guess your remaining option is to stay with him and deal with the consequences. Sad

FYI, two things- This is going to turn out badly for YOU so don't say you weren't warned.. Second, it won't kill you to move on. You'll survive, trust me... Many before you have

....oh and the right decisions are often the hardest... But making them builds character which you need, so you have the inner fortitude in the future not to put up with this business you are posting about

Come on, do all young women everywhere proud and do the right thing!!!! Did your mom not tell you this stuff???

Good luck

My mom died when I was 6 actually...

OP - did you not post on the thread "My mom told me I look anorexic" this comment?

"My mom is just like that!! They mean well but don't know how to say it..just remember she is you mom and she wants nothing more then for you to be happpy! Keep up the work love!! Take comments like that like a grain of sand"

Ummmm.... something isn't adding up.

JoelleAnn78

Well...... you have two options: stay or leave. You can't change him, that's not your responsibility and you can't even if you wanted to. SOOOOO if you cannot follow through on the probably right, but difficult decision to move on, as suggested above, then I guess your remaining option is to stay with him and deal with the consequences. Sad

FYI, two things- This is going to turn out badly for YOU so don't say you weren't warned.. Second, it won't kill you to move on. You'll survive, trust me... Many before you have

....oh and the right decisions are often the hardest... But making them builds character which you need, so you have the inner fortitude in the future not to put up with this business you are posting about

Come on, do all young women everywhere proud and do the right thing!!!! Did your mom not tell you this stuff???

Good luck

My mom died when I was 6 actually...

I guess this must be another person, you consider your mom:

"My mom is just like that!! They mean well but don't know how to say it..just remember she is you mom and she wants nothing more then for you to be happpy! Keep up the work love!! Take comments like that like a grain of sand"

Glad you were able to find another woman in your life after you lost your mom at the age of six. So, did the woman above, that you referenced, never tell you this stuff?

JoelleAnn78

Well...... you have two options: stay or leave. You can't change him, that's not your responsibility and you can't even if you wanted to. SOOOOO if you cannot follow through on the probably right, but difficult decision to move on, as suggested above, then I guess your remaining option is to stay with him and deal with the consequences. Sad

FYI, two things- This is going to turn out badly for YOU so don't say you weren't warned.. Second, it won't kill you to move on. You'll survive, trust me... Many before you have

....oh and the right decisions are often the hardest... But making them builds character which you need, so you have the inner fortitude in the future not to put up with this business you are posting about

Come on, do all young women everywhere proud and do the right thing!!!! Did your mom not tell you this stuff???

Good luck

My mom died when I was 6 actually...

OP - did you not post on the thread "My mom told me I look anorexic" this comment?

"My mom is just like that!! They mean well but don't know how to say it..just remember she is you mom and she wants nothing more then for you to be happpy! Keep up the work love!! Take comments like that like a grain of sand"

Ummmm.... something isn't adding up.

Ah... see, I knew I wasn't the only one who noticed that. Jinx! :drinker:

Colli78

Well...... you have two options: stay or leave. You can't change him, that's not your responsibility and you can't even if you wanted to. SOOOOO if you cannot follow through on the probably right, but difficult decision to move on, as suggested above, then I guess your remaining option is to stay with him and deal with the consequences. Sad

FYI, two things- This is going to turn out badly for YOU so don't say you weren't warned.. Second, it won't kill you to move on. You'll survive, trust me... Many before you have

....oh and the right decisions are often the hardest... But making them builds character which you need, so you have the inner fortitude in the future not to put up with this business you are posting about

Come on, do all young women everywhere proud and do the right thing!!!! Did your mom not tell you this stuff???

Good luck

My mom died when I was 6 actually...

OP - did you not post on the thread "My mom told me I look anorexic" this comment?

"My mom is just like that!! They mean well but don't know how to say it..just remember she is you mom and she wants nothing more then for you to be happpy! Keep up the work love!! Take comments like that like a grain of sand"

Ummmm.... something isn't adding up.

Ah... see, I knew I wasn't the only one who noticed that. Jinx! :drinker:

Ha! Now I don't feel like an insensitive witch for pointing that out. Thanks! :flowerforyou:

JoelleAnn78

Hmmmmm.... **crickets** :yawn:

Colli78

Hmmmmm.... **crickets** :yawn:

The suspense is killing me! This is more interesting than the original thread! :laugh:

sc003ro

when someone is accusing they are usuaully the one running around.....