Gaining weight is so hard

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  • "Gaining weight is so hard" wish I could say the same :<
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    unfortunately due to a very fast metabolism that didnt work either, tried it in the past. i have literally tried to do everything people who have extra weight do and to no avail
    Lakilucid-
    What does your normal eating look like? I do believe that people have different metabolisms and respond differently to foods. Carbs and sugar put weight on me faster than anything, yet my ex lived on beer and sugar, and was very underweight when we met. After 6 months of me cooking full meals, with lots of protein, he had gained 10 lbs.
    As a bachelor, he didn't cook much, so he lived on fast food, sandwiches, spaggetti, mac and cheese, and tons of chips and snack cakes. All the foods that normally cause weight gain in people, yet it seemed to only fuel his already high metabolism.
    He was sorely lacking in proteins and produce.

    I see your profile says you are iron deficient anemic? Are you eating any red meat? Spinach? Other foods that are high in iron?
    Your diary isn't open, but if your protein and fats are low, and you eat mainly carbs, that might be your issue. Try increasing your protein and healthy fats.
  • emtjmac
    emtjmac Posts: 1,320 Member
    Have you had your thyroid function checked?
  • I am 71 and was diagnosed 3 months ago with colitis. I am struggling to gain weight (lost 10# early on) - 1600-1900 calories a day - but without success though for about 10 days I have held my weight.
    In addition to colitis I have GERD (no acidic foods) and am lactose intolerant (no dairy). Sirloin and bacon are too rich for me. Sugars and soy are No-No's as are most fruits and vegetables.
    I have been trying protein shakes; reading the labels is a challenge.
    Does anyone have colitis? How have you handled eating and gaining weight?
    Please advise. Thank you.
  • WLG1974
    WLG1974 Posts: 90
    No it's not.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    I have found that - sometimes - having an appetizer helps. A little rice cake. A couple berries. Sometimes, just reminding your stomach that it should work will kick-start an appetite. Not always, though. I wonder if that isn't where appetizers started, lol.

    Smelling something you might enjoy helps, too. Even if you won't enjoy it, sometimes just making it and smelling it helps.

    Doctors have meds that increase appetite, if you haven't looked into that.

    It's hard enough for me to eat a normal amount to lose. I can't imagine how hard it would be to gain on healthy food. Yikes.

    Good luck!
  • ScottDowell
    ScottDowell Posts: 95 Member
    Losing weight and gaining weight, both are tough process. Gaining weight doesn't meant to increase weight only by sleeping and eating unhealthy food. Keeping you fit while gaining weight should be your motto. I say, exercise is necessary for gaining weight. While you are doing exercise properly, you will feel more hungry and also eat more than normal days. It will help you to increase weight.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    if someone comes on a board- and says they are doing something- but what they are doing isn't working- of course we are going to ask questions.

    There are certain processes that do NOT make sense- trying to bulk low carb? it's illogical and counterproductive- can it be done? sure- but doing it voluntarily is just making life harder for yourself.

    Asking a question is not RUDE. It's so we can give the best advice. If there is a medical reason- it needs to be disclosed- and if not- then don't ask in the first place.

    We can't give advice if we don't have enough of the facts.

    Stop projecting whatever issues you have onto this situation- no one was rude- no one was belittling.
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    Your heart is probably in the right place. You probably feel like you are correcting some kind of perceived injustice. There is no injustice.

    This OP has received solid advice from people who have successfully bulked. Which is, I assume, the point of asking questions on an open forum.

    Of course, you can chose not follow good advice when you've asked for it. That's entirely the OP's prerogative. But then you would have learned nothing and got nowhere fast. And that would have been counterproductive, no?
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    if someone comes on a board- and says they are doing something- but what they are doing isn't working- of course we are going to ask questions.

    There are certain processes that do NOT make sense- trying to bulk low carb? it's illogical and counterproductive- can it be done? sure- but doing it voluntarily is just making life harder for yourself.

    Asking a question is not RUDE. It's so we can give the best advice. If there is a medical reason- it needs to be disclosed- and if not- then don't ask in the first place.

    We can't give advice if we don't have enough of the facts.

    Stop projecting whatever issues you have onto this situation- no one was rude- no one was belittling.
    No, her medical information does NOT need to be disclosed to you. You aren't her doctor and it's none of your business.

    You can't give advice based on medical conditions, you aren't qualified or licensed to do that. If you were, you couldn't do it over the Internet, anyway. That's what doctors are for.

    It is rude to pry into medical details people haven't chosen to share with you.

    This person didn't say anything about bulking, either. She just wants to gain some weight while eating healthy foods, which is hard for many people.
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    She just wants to gain some weight while eating healthy foods, which is hard for many people.

    Which is secret code for trying to gain weight in a calorie deficit. Either eat more food of the type you are already consuming or eat more calorie dense foods - those are the options.

    We have said all this earlier in the thread. It was mostly ignored.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    if someone comes on a board- and says they are doing something- but what they are doing isn't working- of course we are going to ask questions.

    There are certain processes that do NOT make sense- trying to bulk low carb? it's illogical and counterproductive- can it be done? sure- but doing it voluntarily is just making life harder for yourself.

    Asking a question is not RUDE. It's so we can give the best advice. If there is a medical reason- it needs to be disclosed- and if not- then don't ask in the first place.

    We can't give advice if we don't have enough of the facts.

    Stop projecting whatever issues you have onto this situation- no one was rude- no one was belittling.
    No, her medical information does NOT need to be disclosed to you. You aren't her doctor and it's none of your business.

    You can't give advice based on medical conditions, you aren't qualified or licensed to do that. If you were, you couldn't do it over the Internet, anyway. That's what doctors are for.

    It is rude to pry into medical details people haven't chosen to share with you.

    This person didn't say anything about bulking, either. She just wants to gain some weight while eating healthy foods, which is hard for many people.

    Seriously?
    Help I'm trying to gain weight?

    totally NOT going to get the same answers as

    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm allergic to nuts.
    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm a diabetic.


    If you are not comfortable sharing information required to help get answers- then don't ask questions on a public forum. Period.

    None of those things are incredibly personal- but they are going to get VASTLY different answers- and are going to be more applicable, and more helpful. So yeah- if there are limiting factors- like medical conditions- something needs to be said. We can't give advice on the least amount of information- that's like going to the doctor and saying "my arm hurts" and that's it.
    Or we get threads where someone has a question- and FIVE PAGES of "no but I can't"- the fact they have a medical condition comes out- and would have saved everyone 2 hours of misery by just telling everyone that in the first place.

    More accurate information up front helps get the original poster information to help them with their question. not rocket science.

    No one here is trying to give medical advice or implied we were going to. But if you're asking questions- and you expect answers you can use- you're best bet is to give as much pertinent information in advance.

    what do you think bulking is? It's gaining weight.

    Jimmer nailed it
    You gain weight by eating more of what you are eating- and or more calorie dense foods.
    It's only hard when people chose to try to do it eating 4000 calories of chicken breasts and kale.
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    It's only hard when people chose to try to do it eating 4000 calories of chicken breasts and kale.

    That must be an effing great mountain of kale!
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I don't know- I can't stand kale- I refuse to acknowledge it as food!!!
    - but I'm sure it's a boat load that most people aren't willing to eat LMAO.
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    incorporate resistance training into your workout. Don't not neglect the large muscle groups like quads, glutes and back.

    also, eating healthly doesn't mean you can't have fats. You seem to be eating low fat with some carbs. Try eating pecans, and other nuts with healthy fats. A handful of nuts has 300 calories. Pecans are in my daily nutrients to help keep the calorie count up. Throw in a weight gainer shake if you want. Those extra calories aren't going to hurt you if you feel your are underweight.

    Eating really is the key. You say you are 98 pounds and eating 1700 calories. I"m 200 pounds and if I eat anything less than 3200 calories I lose weight. When I am actually trying to gain I eat in the 5000 calories a day range and then I pretty much top out at 225 pounds at those calories. I can maintain 215 at around 4000 calories a day.

    Good luck!

    Anyone feel free to add me as a friend if you want to trade fitness tips.
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    .....
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    I don't know- I can't stand kale- I refuse to acknowledge it as food!!!
    - but I'm sure it's a boat load that most people aren't willing to eat LMAO.

    vitamix will liquify anything. :)
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I don't know- I can't stand kale- I refuse to acknowledge it as food!!!
    - but I'm sure it's a boat load that most people aren't willing to eat LMAO.

    vitamix will liquify anything. :)

    You can have the honors. I much prefer oreo's smashed in ice cream. it's just more delicious that way ;)
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    I don't know- I can't stand kale- I refuse to acknowledge it as food!!!
    - but I'm sure it's a boat load that most people aren't willing to eat LMAO.

    vitamix will liquify anything. :)

    You can have the honors. I much prefer oreo's smashed in ice cream. it's just more delicious that way ;)

    Hey don't knock it until you have a little Kale puree on your oreo sundae! ;)

    btw. I don't eat kale unless I am juicing it.
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    OP needs to read this.

    http://eatlocalgrown.com/article/13256-mainstream-nutrition-myths-proved-wrong.html

    Stay away from low fat. You are just keeping the needed calories from your system.
  • suejo34
    suejo34 Posts: 25 Member
    Drink protein shakes, eat more starch, or lift weight
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I don't know- I can't stand kale- I refuse to acknowledge it as food!!!
    - but I'm sure it's a boat load that most people aren't willing to eat LMAO.

    vitamix will liquify anything. :)

    You can have the honors. I much prefer oreo's smashed in ice cream. it's just more delicious that way ;)

    Hey don't knock it until you have a little Kale puree on your oreo sundae! ;)

    btw. I don't eat kale unless I am juicing it.

    LOL_ I have had it in a smoothie before- my old coworker got big on smoothies- and he would make me try them. It was like spinnach- although I WILL actually eat spinnach- not my favorite- but same same- much better when blended up!
  • Lib_B
    Lib_B Posts: 446 Member
    what about some MJ to stimulate the appetite? if it's legal in your area, that is. i wouldn't want to advocate breaking your local laws. i have a friend who is a chemo patient and uses it for nausea and to keep weight on.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    I doubt my doctor will say it's okay, but I'm going to ask about that. I wonder if it would help.

    I'm so not the pot smoking type! But that is an excellent suggestion! Thanks!

    I'm don't know why I never thought of it myself. :)
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    if someone comes on a board- and says they are doing something- but what they are doing isn't working- of course we are going to ask questions.

    There are certain processes that do NOT make sense- trying to bulk low carb? it's illogical and counterproductive- can it be done? sure- but doing it voluntarily is just making life harder for yourself.

    Asking a question is not RUDE. It's so we can give the best advice. If there is a medical reason- it needs to be disclosed- and if not- then don't ask in the first place.

    We can't give advice if we don't have enough of the facts.

    Stop projecting whatever issues you have onto this situation- no one was rude- no one was belittling.
    No, her medical information does NOT need to be disclosed to you. You aren't her doctor and it's none of your business.

    You can't give advice based on medical conditions, you aren't qualified or licensed to do that. If you were, you couldn't do it over the Internet, anyway. That's what doctors are for.

    It is rude to pry into medical details people haven't chosen to share with you.

    This person didn't say anything about bulking, either. She just wants to gain some weight while eating healthy foods, which is hard for many people.

    Seriously?
    Help I'm trying to gain weight?

    totally NOT going to get the same answers as

    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm allergic to nuts.
    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm a diabetic.


    If you are not comfortable sharing information required to help get answers- then don't ask questions on a public forum. Period.

    None of those things are incredibly personal- but they are going to get VASTLY different answers- and are going to be more applicable, and more helpful. So yeah- if there are limiting factors- like medical conditions- something needs to be said. We can't give advice on the least amount of information- that's like going to the doctor and saying "my arm hurts" and that's it.
    Or we get threads where someone has a question- and FIVE PAGES of "no but I can't"- the fact they have a medical condition comes out- and would have saved everyone 2 hours of misery by just telling everyone that in the first place.

    More accurate information up front helps get the original poster information to help them with their question. not rocket science.

    No one here is trying to give medical advice or implied we were going to. But if you're asking questions- and you expect answers you can use- you're best bet is to give as much pertinent information in advance.

    what do you think bulking is? It's gaining weight.

    Jimmer nailed it
    You gain weight by eating more of what you are eating- and or more calorie dense foods.
    It's only hard when people chose to try to do it eating 4000 calories of chicken breasts and kale.
    The reason not to do it is because it can cause people to feel pressured into revealing things they rather not, which is considered rude.

    Another reason is it can cause them to think of unpleasant things they had, for the moment, not been thinking too much about.

    Also, humility. Not telling you something is NOT the same as not telling a doctor something, lol.

    You will obviously continue to pester people, regardless of whether or not it could upset them and cannot be convinced that praying into a person's medical condition(s) is rude, so I give up.

    If people concentrated on answering the question that was asked, no time would be wasted.

    But I realize I'm wasting my time. I can only hope that you were raised better, are young and will ask your mother if it is appropriate to ask seniors about their medical problems so that you can tell them to do things they specifically said they didn't want to do.

    You can, of course, respond, but need not bother. I won't see it.
  • My husband had a temporary ostomy and then had it reversed and he had lost over 50 lbs and needed to gain it back! I started making him drink ensure 2-3 times per day along with his meals. He ate white bread, drank whole milk, white rice, just til he got to a decent weight gain for health reasons and then he ate healthier high calorie foods such as two helpings of everything and peanut butter toast ( 2 pieces on wheat bread can punch a lot of calories!) He has gained all but the 15 pounds he lost over about 2 years. It takes time but worth it to research healthy foods high in calories. Good luck to you!:wink: The Ensure was actually off brand EQUATE that we bought and even if you drink 1-2 per day it will help!
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    People cn be so rude, prying into your personal reasons for eating healthy food. Maybe you want to, maybe your doctor told you to, maybe someone you loved died and you've decided to improve your eating habits, maybe who knows what touchy subject they might be trying to make you not only remember, but disclose.

    It's none of their business. They shouldn't be prying.

    Do not feel compelled to answer rude questions. And people who make fun of your problem, belittling it as insignificant compared to their own? That's not just rude and insensitive, it's mean. Completely not worthy of a response. Geez.

    if someone comes on a board- and says they are doing something- but what they are doing isn't working- of course we are going to ask questions.

    There are certain processes that do NOT make sense- trying to bulk low carb? it's illogical and counterproductive- can it be done? sure- but doing it voluntarily is just making life harder for yourself.

    Asking a question is not RUDE. It's so we can give the best advice. If there is a medical reason- it needs to be disclosed- and if not- then don't ask in the first place.

    We can't give advice if we don't have enough of the facts.

    Stop projecting whatever issues you have onto this situation- no one was rude- no one was belittling.
    No, her medical information does NOT need to be disclosed to you. You aren't her doctor and it's none of your business.

    You can't give advice based on medical conditions, you aren't qualified or licensed to do that. If you were, you couldn't do it over the Internet, anyway. That's what doctors are for.

    It is rude to pry into medical details people haven't chosen to share with you.

    This person didn't say anything about bulking, either. She just wants to gain some weight while eating healthy foods, which is hard for many people.

    Seriously?
    Help I'm trying to gain weight?

    totally NOT going to get the same answers as

    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm allergic to nuts.
    Help I'm trying to gain weight but I'm a diabetic.


    If you are not comfortable sharing information required to help get answers- then don't ask questions on a public forum. Period.

    None of those things are incredibly personal- but they are going to get VASTLY different answers- and are going to be more applicable, and more helpful. So yeah- if there are limiting factors- like medical conditions- something needs to be said. We can't give advice on the least amount of information- that's like going to the doctor and saying "my arm hurts" and that's it.
    Or we get threads where someone has a question- and FIVE PAGES of "no but I can't"- the fact they have a medical condition comes out- and would have saved everyone 2 hours of misery by just telling everyone that in the first place.

    More accurate information up front helps get the original poster information to help them with their question. not rocket science.

    No one here is trying to give medical advice or implied we were going to. But if you're asking questions- and you expect answers you can use- you're best bet is to give as much pertinent information in advance.

    what do you think bulking is? It's gaining weight.

    Jimmer nailed it
    You gain weight by eating more of what you are eating- and or more calorie dense foods.
    It's only hard when people chose to try to do it eating 4000 calories of chicken breasts and kale.
    The reason not to do it is because it can cause people to feel pressured into revealing things they rather not, which is considered rude.

    Another reason is it can cause them to think of unpleasant things they had, for the moment, not been thinking too much about.

    Also, humility. Not telling you something is NOT the same as not telling a doctor something, lol.

    You will obviously continue to pester people, regardless of whether or not it could upset them and cannot be convinced that praying into a person's medical condition(s) is rude, so I give up.

    If people concentrated on answering the question that was asked, no time would be wasted.

    But I realize I'm wasting my time. I can only hope that you were raised better, are young and will ask your mother if it is appropriate to ask seniors about their medical problems so that you can tell them to do things they specifically said they didn't want to do.

    You can, of course, respond, but need not bother. I won't see it.

    Well, you consider lots of things rude, don't you?

    Apparently that includes helping total strangers for free with solid information. No good deed goes unpunished, eh?
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Jo- the unhumble- tacky and very cocky lass who is rude to all who ask for questions by daining to give as appropriate answers whenever possible.

    That was a lousy internet storm out though. I'm mildly disappointed with that one.
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    Jo- the unhumble- tacky and very cocky lass who is rude to all who ask for questions by daining to give as appropriate answers whenever possible.

    That was a lousy internet storm out though. I'm mildly disappointed with that one.

    Haven't you got another thread to be rude in?
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I'm sure I could figure out another thread to troll with my inappropriate rude-ness. I'll figure it out- I have the night off- but I usually do all my rude trolling at work.

    Plus Facebook's been in an unholy uproar because of the SCOTUS decision- been being rude there all day insisting my desire to have sex doesn't actually make me a *kitten*. It's shocking I know.