Caught red handed

MaaKeMeThinn3r

So I've had a hunch for about a week now that my boyfriend was cheating on me..and I just found out tonight for sure that he is..but I haven't brought it up I've been playing cool trying to get him to admitted it..So how do I bring it up and just get it over with?

silencioesoro

"So... what were you thinking doing so-and-so?" Then kick him out.

MaaKeMeThinn3r

Ahh that's a killer line..except!! I'm the one who's gotta leave!! I should probably just kick him outta his house :laugh:

SnuggleSmacks

I wouldn't even bother. I would just tell him it's over and when he asks why, just say "You know why" and attempt to leave it at that. If he insists on furthering the conversation, I would calmly repeat, "I don't date cheaters" a few times and then "This conversation is over." And then one of us would leave.

I don't like having my time wasted. Having a long, drawn-out conversation about this would be a waste of my time.

silencioesoro

I had to do something similiar, but luckily it was my house. I told him point blank: "I'm looking for a real relationship, we are not 13 year olds. You are moving out today because you decided to cheat."

Like SnuggleSmacks says, don't let him waste your time.

MaaKeMeThinn3r

Thankkks ladies..but!! Is there a way I can say all that without busting into sobs?!! I'm trying to act as heartless as him and act like I don't even care

kinkyslinky16

I wouldn't even bother. I would just tell him it's over and when he asks why, just say "You know why" and attempt to leave it at that. If he insists on furthering the conversation, I would calmly repeat, "I don't date cheaters" a few times and then "This conversation is over." And then one of us would leave.

I don't like having my time wasted. Having a long, drawn-out conversation about this would be a waste of my time.

Agreed. Don't waste your time.

JenAndSome

Hi. Nice to meet you. It nearly always sucks when you are right about something like this. Don't prolong it. If you are the one who has to go, hopefully you can find a friend to crash with and leave. No one deserves to be cheated on and a cheater doesn't deserve your time. No explanation or argument is needed.

suiteblooms

deep breaths before hand. Do it in person - it's more final than a text. Cry if you must. The jerk should know that he hurt you. If he has any soul, this will make him feel bad. Don't take him back. This is behavior that will (almost) always repeat itself. Also, think about what you want to tell him. write it down if necessary. Then tell him. You don't want to look back and wish you'd said "..." or not said "...". Remember that you deserve loyalty. You deserve respect. You deserve love. You have dignity, and he can't rob you of it.

silencioesoro

It's okay to cry, he has to see it. I bawled my eyes out in front of him one time, and only one time, the rest of the time, I went to my friends. Talk with your friends, they will be your support system.

Do not take him back, like Suiteblooms said.

MissNicxx

He is a cheater, you shouldn't want to be as heartless as him. If you end up crying, so what? It just shows him that his actions have really hurt you. If you have to tell him you know what he did through sobs then that's fine as long as you stay strong and don't let him weasel his way back into your life. This is a **** **** situation and what he is putting you through isn't fair. I hope you have a place to stay and supportive friends and/or family around.

SnuggleSmacks

If you were the one who did something wrong, I would say that you needed to put your big girl panties on and be respectful enough to have the conversation in person. However, that is not the case. You did nothing wrong. Pack some stuff, go to a friend's, and leave him a note. Tell him that you'll be back as soon as possible for the rest of your things, and you would appreciate it if he would respect your desire to be left alone in the mean time.

MaaKeMeThinn3r

If you were the one who did something wrong, I would say that you needed to put your big girl panties on and be respectful enough to have the conversation in person. However, that is not the case. You did nothing wrong. Pack some stuff, go to a friend's, and leave him a note. Tell him that you'll be back as soon as possible for the rest of your things, and you would appreciate it if he would respect your desire to be left alone in the mean time.

I think that's how I'm gonna handle it..I was raised in the kind of family that if you cried you're the ***** of the situation..and I can't even think about it withot crying..He's sleeping right now so I think I'm just gonna leave..

jennifer_417

Thankkks ladies..but!! Is there a way I can say all that without busting into sobs?!! I'm trying to act as heartless as him and act like I don't even care

Don't even worry about it. It's totally ok to be hurt, and to let him know he hurt you. I know, pride and all that, but it won't help you do what you need to do.

msbunnie68

Just pack and leave.

It should not be up to you to have the conversation. He has done wrong by you and you do not deserve that.

He does not deserve for you to initiate anything that will let him off the hook to be the one to come to you.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Thankkks ladies..but!! Is there a way I can say all that without busting into sobs?!! I'm trying to act as heartless as him and act like I don't even care

Best thing to do in that case, is pack your things while he's out and just be gone when he gets back home. Maybe leave a note, maybe don't. Don't answer his calls, don't respond to his texts, and make sure you go somewhere where he won't think to find you. He is not worth a confrontation, just calmly get you *kitten* and go. Just be done with him.

Chieflrg

As mentioned previous, just leave when he isn't around. He deserves no explanation...