Are any of you as frustrated about online dating as I am?

HeidiCooksSupper

Okay, I hunted for Mr. Right for 42 years! Age 12 to age 54. Seriously. 42 years. I tried every method -- through friends, school, churches, work, bars, dating services, singles nights at a supermarket, various activity clubs (including the nudists), and online. All led me to meet and date a wide variety of nice guys, friends, toads and creeps. I found my Bill online. We knew the day we met we had found each other. Doing it online, we were able to cut out a lot of the preliminary mismatches by specifying politics, religion, eduction, etc. I thank my lucky stars every day that we were on the same site at the same time. Kismet. My profile pick is on our wedding day in 2005.

serafinelaveaux

I got into online dating because at the time, living in the excruciatingly small town that I did, single guys with stable jobs and no nasty habits might as well have been unicorns. When a married one got a divorce, the single women pulled out all the stops to land them. Gave a whole new meaning to Friday Night Hoe Downs.

Anyhoo...

Lot of playas, losers, and married guys pretending to be single, but in the end I found an amazing guy and we've been married for 5 years now. Or maybe 6. I'm awful with dates. Found him on Match.com. He's awesome, totally accepts me exactly like I am, married me at my absolute fattest and is my biggest cheerleader in everything I do.

wolfie640

Charlee, i have been single for 7 years, the people i have met online have all turned out to be perverts or jerks. dont feel bad, only old men or creepy ones message me too! and i dont think you look any different than anyone else.

Thanks for putting us 'old men' in with the creepy guys!

From a male perspective , I've tried the online dating sites since my divorce 10 yrs ago and in that time I've had a Cpl of 'long term' relationships. They ultimately failed but we still remain good friends so I'm thankful for that at least. But one thing I will say is you need to have thick skin....its so much easier for someone to reject you (and visa versa) from the comfort of your home!

p.s. both my relationships from online dating were with women older than me ! (just saying)

Debbjones

I'm not a big fan of online dating but I met the man of my life on OkCupid in January. You might like this TED talk from a girl who was also frustrated with online dating : https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_webb_how_i_hacked_online_dating

You were so right to suggest this website and video. Seriously, I am the kind of person who seldom takes the time to watch these videos and I instantly closed the page; but, the other positive comments from others in our community sent me back for a second time. The video, which I thought was going to be so long and boring was just the opposite, it was witty, insightful and lasted just long enough to keep me interested!

Thanks so much for the suggestion, now I am off to take another look at my on-line dating profile!

sugarstrawberries

People don't interact with me (resting queenb!tchface maybe, also I am oblivious). I don't know any other way to go about dating and never have. My experiences have been progressively worse as I've gotten older. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I've had a profile at OkCupid on and off for about six years, and it seems that people don't want to put forth the effort to read a profile or take the time to fill out an actual message or to actually date. When I first started, I met some very nice people and had good conversation through messages, met a long term boyfriend there, but now I can count the actual conversations I've had on one hand. 90% of the messages I get say either, "Hey wuz up" or "Your beutiflu!" and the only really good ones have been from women. Men are gross.

Debbjones

I really must say this has been an enlightening read for me. I thought it was just me who attracted losers and guys looking to simply "Hook-up"!

One thing I have noticed of late the guys in my age bracket... who went through a break-up not so long ago... well they start looking for connections that are outside their preference. In the last year two fellows wanted to meet me for coffee, we arranged to meet and I come to find out later they prefer women of the Asian culture. I am Irish American, there is nothing about me that would fit an Asian mold... why waste my time and theirs if from the get go the physical attraction is not there!

Moving on... :-)

QuietBloom

1. Only use the free sites. They work just as well (or as badly) as paid ones.
2. Have reasonable expectations.
3. It's going to take awhile. Feel free to deactivate when you need a break.

I met my husband through Plenty Of Fish, but I had to kiss a heck of a lot of toads before him. Also, dating sites have many more men than women, so if you are a man, it will be even more difficult to get a woman to respond, because she is getting inundated. :laugh:

tedrickp

so if you are a man, it will be even more difficult to get a woman to respond, because she is getting inundated. :laugh:

:laugh: So true.

I told a friend about Tinder and like 15 minutes later she responded "WTF I already have 93 messages". I just sat back with the :grumble: face.

Beautiful_disaster40

Not online but dating in general, think I'll be single for a long time and learn how to cook or something

tristan299

never done online dating so, no. lol

yopeeps025

Done it once. She interesting

Deipneus

I've been married so long there was no online dating back then. But I''m an Internet marketer by trade so if I were dating today, I'd build a website www.datesouthcarolinaguy.com, buy some ads from Google and also promote myself on Twitter and Facebook. They should know what they would be getting into. You think guys who talk about sex are bad. I talk about WordPress, Joomla, Drupal and website analytics.