My weight still determines my day...

mnardi123

I am a devoted mother, loving wife, hard worker, good daughter and yet I still allow my weight to determine whether I will be having a good day...something is not right with that.

Meerataila

If you feel something isn't right with that maybe you're right. Might be time to switch to a weekly weigh in. And have someone hide your scale.

Llamapants86

If it bothers you so much, why weigh in. Take weekly measurements, pay attention to how your clothes fit, find other things to make sure you are still heading in the right direction. Or don't weigh everyday. Or try understanding that your weight is so much more than fat and an individual weigh in is pretty much meaning less.

Good luck, I hope you find something that works for you!

yopeeps025

Miight be time for your husband to break that scale. LOL

oedipa_maas

That's one of the biggest hurdles for me. Letting my mood fluctuate between "I'm good" and "I failed and I suck" based solely on the scale hasn't served me well. Self esteem has to be internalized rather than letting it swing back and forth depending on how much we weigh. It's good you see all your other qualities! For me, I try to train myself to not pin everything on my weight. It can be kind of hard.

aarnwine2013

The scale doesn't tell the whole story. Take measurements and record those. Look in the mirror and notice the differences. The scale gets me down sometimes but it doesn't determine my day. I shrug it off and remind myself that I'm making progress and the scale will catch up.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

So stop weighing yourself every day. Problem solved. :smokin:

SingRunTing

If you don't feel like you're good enough now, losing the weight won't help. I know that its a hard and emotional issue, but you need to confront it. You could have the perfect body and still hate yourself.

Reminds me of this:

mnardi123

I don't hate myself and I know I'm a great person...in fact...I'm AWSOME!!. But if that scale shifts in the wrong direction and over 3 lbs, I get pissed that I now have to double time it to get it off and keep at my maintenance weight.

pdank311

If you don't feel like you're good enough now, losing the weight won't help. I know that its a hard and emotional issue, but you need to confront it. You could have the perfect body and still hate yourself.

Reminds me of this:

Doesn't seem like that's the case to me.

OP. I do daily weigh ins and am in maintenance too. Maybe consider a 5-10 lb range for maintenance? I go up about 5 lbs maybe more every weekend and back down by Thursday. Accepting this and that no flat number can be maintained especially on a daily weigh in has helped me get past the mindset you have.

Now I look at it as a fun game every week.

SingRunTing

I don't hate myself and I know I'm a great person...in fact...I'm AWSOME!!. But if that scale shifts in the wrong direction and over 3 lbs, I get pissed that I now have to double time it to get it off and keep at my maintenance weight.

I'm not trying to imply that you hate yourself, more that your view of yourself shoudn't be tied to your weight. If a small shift in weight (3 lbs is a small shift and well within a normal daily shift) is enough to throw off your day, then you need to fix your head and not just your body.

I'm not trying to be a downer, I promise. Placing too much value on what the scale says will only make you miserable.



Edited to add (because apparently I can never complete a thought before I post):

I want to add that the scale is a tool and has its limitations just like any other tool out there. It's really not intended to measure success on a short term basis (daily). It's only accurate over the long term (monthly, yearly). Even weekly is questionable. That's because as human beings, our weight shifts so much that any true changes are lost in the "noise". You need to look at trend instead of each individual number.

mactaffy84

I get what the OP means. When you go to the doctor for your annual check up, they put you on the scale. They don't take measurements or ask you how your clothes are fitting. Weight may not be the only measurement tool, but it a BIG measurement tool. I think, if people are honest, most will admit to feeling this from time to time.

Unfortunately, I have no idea how to make it better all the time. Just that I get it.

Barbellarella_

I used to do that too. I knew it was time for a break. I took a seriously long one.

Now I practice not letting it affect my mood. It doesn't happen overnight. And weighing just 1x, sometimes 2x a week, is very helpful.

Also, if the scale goes up 1-2 lbs or whatever, I think to myself "Did I eat 3500-7000 calories over my TDEE?". I know the answer is always/usually NO, so I tend not to worry about it anymore. It always works itself out.

ninerbuff

I am a devoted mother, loving wife, hard worker, good daughter and yet I still allow my weight to determine whether I will be having a good day...something is not right with that.

Throw out the scale. Weight fluctuates by the hour, so relying on that as your "mood" controller isn't a good gauge.

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Chevy_Quest

The scale doesn't tell the whole story. Take measurements and record those. Look in the mirror and notice the differences. The scale gets me down sometimes but it doesn't determine my day. I shrug it off and remind myself that I'm making progress and the scale will catch up.

^^ this is really good.

Also.. I keep an excel spreadsheet of my weights (I weight every day) and do a 10 day average weight. Then I track that in MFP.. I only look at that.

Also I only consider weight to be one minor measurement.

My other things I track:

waist
other measurements
time to run a mile
How many pushups I can do
etc.etc.etc.

Good luck :flowerforyou: