I am sad

sharimarie

My little brother (he is 21) has been sentenced to 2 - 8 years in maximum security prison. I totally understand that he has done this to himself and he has to pay for his mistakes. I have been so upset all day, I have hardley eaten at all.

sharimarie

My little brother (he is 21) has been sentenced to 2 - 8 years in maximum security prison. I totally understand that he has done this to himself and he has to pay for his mistakes. I have been so upset all day, I have hardley eaten at all.

strongmom

I am so sorry to hear that. Please focus on your kids, your health etc and stay positive!

MontanaGirl

I am so sorry!! We don't always understand how our choices affect other people in our lives!! It's difficult to be a family member of someone who has made bad choices. You are in my thoughts and prayers - be easy on yourself. Cry if you need to, in a couple of days the worst of the ache will be past and you will begin to get back to normal. Remember, It's o.k. to grieve the loss of relationship you are facing. Is he going to be far away?

sharimarie

I am so sorry to hear that. Please focus on your kids, your health etc and stay positive!

Need to remember the focus part!

sharimarie

I am so sorry!! We don't always understand how our choices affect other people in our lives!! It's difficult to be a family member of someone who has made bad choices. You are in my thoughts and prayers - be easy on yourself. Cry if you need to, in a couple of days the worst of the ache will be past and you will begin to get back to normal. Remember, It's o.k. to grieve the loss of relationship you are facing. Is he going to be far away?

Thank you for your kind words! He is in Vegas, I am in Utah, so not too far, but far enough that I can't visit.

MontanaGirl

That's too bad that you won't be able to visit him. I hope you take care of yourself!! Remember, we are here for you!! Blessings - Kim

mkeithley

I don't know how it is in Nevada, but in MO if you are a first time offender(state offenses) you typically only have to serve 15% of your sentence(depending on the severity of the crime/charge, etc). 15% of 2 years is about 3 1/2 months, plus if he did any county jail time prior to his conviction he will most likely get time served and it will be taken off the time he has to serve. For example, if he is sentenced to 2 years(24 months) and he has 2 months county jail time then he only has to serve 22 months, then if he is eligible for 15% or 40% or whatever they usually take it off that. Like I said, it depends on the crime, etc. Keeping n contact is more important than actual visits, 90% families/friends of inmates serving a sentence of 3 years or longer cease communication after 18 months. I have a friend who is a caseworker for the prison systems in MO and she assures me that it is not like HBO's "OZ".
I'm sure the state of Nevada's Dept. of Corrections has a website that has info for friends and families of inmates. Knowledge is power, it might make you feel better to check out what you can so your mind what get the best of you and have a runaway imagination. hang in there, I'm not overly religious, but I do know God does not give us anymore than we can handle:flowerforyou:

Helawat

I am so sorry!! We don't always understand how our choices affect other people in our lives!! It's difficult to be a family member of someone who has made bad choices. You are in my thoughts and prayers - be easy on yourself. Cry if you need to, in a couple of days the worst of the ache will be past and you will begin to get back to normal. Remember, It's o.k. to grieve the loss of relationship you are facing. Is he going to be far away?

Thank you for your kind words! He is in Vegas, I am in Utah, so not too far, but far enough that I can't visit.

There's a maximum security prison in Vegas? I thought that was in Ely?

paulee24

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sharimarie

There's a maximum security prison in Vegas? I thought that was in Ely?

From what my mom was told he is in Maximum Security, it is called High Desert. Low Desert is out there too and that is Minimum Security. She could have been told wrong. Not sure.

sharimarie

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I was logged in under my husbands log in! OOPS!

neome90

I am so sorry!! We don't always understand how our choices affect other people in our lives!! It's difficult to be a family member of someone who has made bad choices. You are in my thoughts and prayers - be easy on yourself. Cry if you need to, in a couple of days the worst of the ache will be past and you will begin to get back to normal. Remember, It's o.k. to grieve the loss of relationship you are facing. Is he going to be far away?

. :flowerforyou: Ditto. So very well said. In my prayers also. :flowerforyou:

Helawat

Now I'm tracking, that's in Indian Springs...about 50 minutes Northwest of Las Vegas.

I'm sorry to hear your brother got in trouble but I hear that High Desert has fabulous education programs to help your brother when he may need it most. I'm not going to lie, it's going to be rough and as Neome90 said, "in a couple of days the worst of the ache will be past" and hopefully you'll feel better about the situation.

Just keep doing what you're doing keep your mind on the prize and on your brother, it'll make him happy to see the changes you're undergoing on the outside of High Desert as he's making changes in the inside walls.

ali106

big hugs and prayers for you and your family....I can only imagine how hard this is for you all!

I hope you all find some type of peace....and even if you can't visit you can write him a lot...sometimes it takes things like this to get people to open thier minds and realize its time to make changes, and him seeing all you're doing will be a great inspiration.

hugs!!!!:flowerforyou:
Ali

TamTastic

Stay strong girl! I know this is a hard time but I will pray for you and your family to get through this. Let's hope this will the be turning point in his life and from now on can live a DIFFERENT life!! Best of luck to all!

One Day at a time!

Take one day at a time and stay positive! I will keep you and your family in my prayers...

GinaB30

My little brother (he is 21) has been sentenced to 2 - 8 years in maximum security prison. I totally understand that he has done this to himself and he has to pay for his mistakes. I have been so upset all day, I have hardley eaten at all.

I'm so sorry to hear that...(((HUGS)))
Stay strong and pray that his time in prison will be well spent learning, growing, and changing and when he comes out he'll be a changed person with goals and dreams to live out. =o)

Mireille

My thoughts are with you and your family. :flowerforyou:

gabi_ele

A lot of times when hard times come we don't understand why , or how something like this could have happend to us , but when we look back we see that there was a reason. We learn from the experience, grow closer to family, have more compassion for others in similar situations.....I think it makes us better people.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family and I will put in a couple special ones for your brother.

GTOgirl1969

You have my sympathy and support. I can speak from experience when I say how bad it sucks to have a family member imprisoned....my little brother did 5 years in FL state prison :frown: I know it was because he made terrible choices, but....it was still hard. Our mom passed away while he was in there, and he wasn't even allowed to talk to us on the phone.:frown:
Just write to him as often as you can, and send him family pictures, so he won't feel like he is missing everything. That's what I did

sharimarie

thank you all for all of your support and kind words, I am doing much better now! It was a rough week, but made it through!

I get daily scripture in my e-mail and I have decided that I am going to print it every day and once a week mail it to him!

angievan26

I am so sorry for this, but maybe he will change his life and come out a better and wiser person. YOu take care of yourself that is most important.