Sabotaging Family Members

sashachilders18

Hi everyone! Just looking for some friends to help me keep motivated and keep me supported. I'm trying to lose the weight this time. For the past 3 years after my dad passed away my mother has sabotaged me every time I tried to lose weight. She's only supportive for so long before she begins buying me food (on her own will!!! not even asking for it) then complaining for me to eat it.
Hope if anyone out there has a family like this too that we can help support eachother!

Shalaurise

I moved 220 miles from my parents. You would be amazed how much more I love them from here.

sashachilders18

That's great, but right now I'm unable to go that route. Still looking for support, so anyone in a similar situation please add me.

geekishgirl

That's great, but right now I'm unable to go that route. Still looking for support, so anyone in a similar situation please add me.

Believe me I understand that! I don't live with my parents anymore but I do know how you feel. I would still be happy to support you!

TheStephil

I've learned that if you don't make a big deal about losing weight to the people that try to sabotage you, they are less likely to sabotage you. Learn to say "no thank you" when offered food you don't really want and treat yourself if its something you want and fit it in your calories. If you say "sorry I'm on a diet" they are more likely to keep pushing the issue. Just say no in a kindly way. You will eventually need to learn self control and moderation. You are going to be eating for the rest of your life, you need to learn how to eat a balance of different foods and not overindulge every time you see candy. It's not going to be easy and you won't learn moderation overnight but with practice, you can. My kitchen is stocked with ice cream, chocolate, chips, you name it. I eat them in moderation and fit them in my calories.

pipertargaryen

I understand what that's like. My mother had a ton of success on Weight Watchers when she was in her early 30s. She'd been thin her whole life before that, got a little chubby, lost the weight, whatever. Then she got pregnant at 34 with my brother, and learned that apparently your body doesn't bounce back from pregnancy as easily as it does in your 20s (when she had my sister and I). And she was like, "Oh, what's the point in wasting time worrying about your weight. When you get older you'll realize there's other things that matter more" - which, sure, she's right. But anyway, whenever I'd try to lose weight, I'd get exactly zero support. So, this time around, some **** went down (long story involving my mom wanting grandchildren more than wanting to have a brain in her head, and my younger sister being World's Biggest Moron), and I've been estranged from them on my own accord for 6 months. In that time, I've lost 51lbs and quit smoking - two things I never in a million years could have done around my family. Some people get all freaked out if they find out you don't get along with your family, but honestly, I've never been happier or healthier. I'm not saying you should cut ties with your family, but absolutely do not let them get away with trying to get in the way of becoming a better you.