funeral

darkrose20

So I have a funeral for a relative of my boyfriend who I have never met to go to on Thursday. I haven't been to a funeral since my adolescence. What do I wear? I welcome any sugesstions...preferably in link or pic form... Keep in mind I am in Florida and it is HOT and HUMID.

I was thinking something like

http://www.target.com/p/merona-women-s-cascade-ruffle-front-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14264695#prodSlot=medium_2_42&term=black+dress



Thanks

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

srsly?? wear something nice. If this person were a close relative, wear black.

SunofaBeach14

Wear something black and boring

gypsy_spirit

I may be totally off base - but the dress in the picture would not be appropriate for the family member's funeral. If it's in the church, probably not.

Color is not such an issue anymore, but something more conservative might be better. Is there another family member you can ask? Someone that might have been to funerals before in your area?

ilfaith

A simple dress in a darker color is always appropriate. My current profile pic was actually taken following a memorial service for the father of a friend of ours. It wasn't a graveside service, but rather held in a chapel a few weeks after he was cremated. I wore a dark blue dress with a small floral print. I did wear a cardigan over the sweater in the chapel...as much for air conditioning as modesty.

Alluminati

rebeccaisafish

Yeah that dress isn't appropiate.

Just wear something smart. Think about what you'd wear to a job interview for an office job and you'll probably do fine. If you would ear it to a party then it's probably not appropriate.

PikaKnight

ChristinaOrtiz23

the dress comes in black, so that would be a better color to pick!

Myhaloslipped

Something black and somewhat conservative.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

So I have a funeral for a relative of my boyfriend who I have never met to go to on Thursday. I haven't been to a funeral since my adolescence. What do I wear? I welcome any sugesstions...preferably in link or pic form... Keep in mind I am in Florida and it is HOT and HUMID.

I was thinking something like

http://www.target.com/p/merona-women-s-cascade-ruffle-front-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14264695#prodSlot=medium_2_42&term=black+dress



Thanks

Funeral aside, chesty girls should NEVER wear ruffles at the bust like that. And if you want to show off your hourglass, those ruffles at the midsection would make a lady look pregnant. Flush that dress.

In that same store, same section. this type is what you want:

http://www.target.com/p/mossimo-women-s-ponte-sleeveless-dress-w-zippered-pockets-assorted-colors/-/A-14588954#prodSlot=_1_7

FatFreeFrolicking

The dress you provided a link to is too casual.

Take a look at the following:

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=1004478&vid=1&pid=981385012

http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=1005910&vid=1&pid=554945012

http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=1005909&vid=1&pid=970552002

http://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=1005909&vid=1&pid=128830002

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=1009142&vid=1&pid=967412012

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=91340&vid=1&pid=954408042

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=91340&vid=1&pid=988598002

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=91340&vid=1&pid=967389012

http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=91340&vid=1&pid=967414012

fullersun35

I agree with those who said more conservative. Show less skin on the top half. I typically wear a business suit to funerals, but I'm not much of a dress person.

I do think it's a little weird that you're going to a funeral for someone you've never met. I would feel like I'm intruding on a private family moment.

jeanholly

SO funny, thanks...

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

http://www.target.com/p/ambar-women-s-ponte-w-mesh-dress-ebony/-/A-15104290#prodSlot=_1_60

TechNerd42

My vote would be for something more like this: http://www.target.com/p/merona-women-s-plus-size-sleeveless-color-block-maxi-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14929436#prodSlot=medium_1_34

My Mother in law passed away earlier this year. The majority of adults were dressed in business casual to business attire. (they were a religious family in the south though.)

Honestly, the most important people there, are the people who were most affected by the passing, and they will care less about what you're wearing, and more about the fact that you cared enough about them to pay your respects.

Heck, if you have a nice pair of slacks (not jeans) and a decent shirt you might be able to make it without buying anything.

Take a pack of tissues. Funeral homes have them everywhere, but always good to be prepared.

Oh - if there will be a gravesite service, don't wear heels. Flats are your friend. Be polite, be quiet, and don't be on your phone until/unless you see the immediate family pull theirs out, it's rude. (but it does happen.)

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Here's a link.

http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/womens-apparel/wa-suiting/two-piece-carlos-skirt-set

It's on sale for $99. The polka dots are borderline but I think it will still fly for a solemn occasion. You can use it for other occasions after the funeral. It's classy and would be money well spent.

Legs above the knee, shoulders, chest, and sleeveless arms should not be on display at a funeral, even in Florida.

Hun, she's looking at dresses in Target clearance, I don't think a hundred dollar dress is gonna work for a funeral for someone she never knew.

Sleeveless is always appropriate in summer. Spaghetti straps are not Ok, but sleeveless absolutely is.

deksgrl

Agree with more conservative. If it is above the knee then it should be not too much above it. And no low neckline. You don't want to be a distraction.... and depending on the people, some folks will fixate on anything to distract from grief.

Something like this might work, depending on your body type....

http://www.target.com/p/mossimo-women-s-colorblock-midi-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-15241196#prodSlot=large_2_20

deksgrl

A jacket like this might work over a some styles of sleeveless dress, inside the church anyway and then take it off after the service:

http://www.target.com/p/mossimo-women-s-draped-front-blazer-black/-/A-15029719#prodSlot=medium_1_12&

darkrose20

Thanks all. I have a better idea of what to wear. Now I can be sure I won't embarrass the family who is grieving for someone I've never met and be able to provide emotional support at the same time.

darkrose20

I agree with those who said more conservative. Show less skin on the top half. I typically wear a business suit to funerals, but I'm not much of a dress person.

I do think it's a little weird that you're going to a funeral for someone you've never met. I would feel like I'm intruding on a private family moment.

^^This. I'm only going, because he asked me to. It's going to be incredibly awkward.

darkrose20

Here's a link.

http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/womens-apparel/wa-suiting/two-piece-carlos-skirt-set

It's on sale for $99. The polka dots are borderline but I think it will still fly for a solemn occasion. You can use it for other occasions after the funeral. It's classy and would be money well spent.

Legs above the knee, shoulders, chest, and sleeveless arms should not be on display at a funeral, even in Florida.

Hun, she's looking at dresses in Target clearance, I don't think a hundred dollar dress is gonna work for a funeral for someone she never knew.

Sleeveless is always appropriate in summer. Spaghetti straps are not Ok, but sleeveless absolutely is.

Yeah I saw what she was looking at at Target. I know a hundred bucks is more than she wanted to spend initially and I don't know if it would be in her budget. But this outfit is versatile enough to be worn all year when she wants to dress to impress. I think it's fabulous. She'd probably look good in it and Larry Levine sells suits in sizes up to size 28 I think. Also, since it's a boyfriend's relative she never met, maybe he could pitch in for her outfit.

Personally I don't think sleeveless is okay for a funeral so I stand by my original statement. Long sleeves or elbow length sleeves would be a bit hot during summer in Florida but I think the short sleeved look featured in the link is the limit to how much arm flesh should be displayed at a funeral.

Gals, I was looking at Target clearance, because that's the first store that sprang to mind. I have bit of money to burn. I likely won't buy the $100 outfit, but more because it doesn't really fit my taste. I don't like suits and have no place to wear one, since I work in a hospital can't even make it a work outfit.

Thanks, though for the budget considerations.

Keepcalmanddontblink

So I have a funeral for a relative of my boyfriend who I have never met to go to on Thursday. I haven't been to a funeral since my adolescence. What do I wear? I welcome any sugesstions...preferably in link or pic form... Keep in mind I am in Florida and it is HOT and HUMID.

I was thinking something like

http://www.target.com/p/merona-women-s-cascade-ruffle-front-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14264695#prodSlot=medium_2_42&term=black+dress



Thanks

I think this one would be better: http://www.target.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/p/mossimo-women-s-ponte-sleeveless-dress-w-zippered-pockets-assorted-colors/-/A-14585696#prodSlot=medium_1_4&term=Womans+black+dress
Or this one:http://www.target.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/p/merona-women-s-knit-belted-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14936286#prodSlot=medium_1_29&term=Womans+black+dress

Both of these options are inexpensive, but really cute basic black dresses. I like the first one better, but here is the page with all their dresses in black and there are some great prices! I love Target!!
http://www.target.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/s?searchTerm=Womans+black+dress&category=0|All|matchallpartial|all+categories&lnk=snav_sbox_Womans+black+dress

skippygirlsmom

I agree with those who said more conservative. Show less skin on the top half. I typically wear a business suit to funerals, but I'm not much of a dress person.

I do think it's a little weird that you're going to a funeral for someone you've never met. I would feel like I'm intruding on a private family moment.

^^This. I'm only going, because he asked me to. It's going to be incredibly awkward.

I recently traveled to Texas with my SO to attend a funeral for a member of his family I never met. I went to support him and his parents. I never felt awkward and was very warmly welcomed by all this family.

ilfaith

Just wanted to clarify that the outfit in my NEW current profile, is not what i wore to the memorial service. This would be entirely inappropriate for a funeral...even here in Florida.

deksgrl

Here's a link.

http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/womens-apparel/wa-suiting/two-piece-carlos-skirt-set

It's on sale for $99. The polka dots are borderline but I think it will still fly for a solemn occasion. You can use it for other occasions after the funeral. It's classy and would be money well spent.

Legs above the knee, shoulders, chest, and sleeveless arms should not be on display at a funeral, even in Florida.

Hun, she's looking at dresses in Target clearance, I don't think a hundred dollar dress is gonna work for a funeral for someone she never knew.

Sleeveless is always appropriate in summer. Spaghetti straps are not Ok, but sleeveless absolutely is.

Yeah I saw what she was looking at at Target. I know a hundred bucks is more than she wanted to spend initially and I don't know if it would be in her budget. But this outfit is versatile enough to be worn all year when she wants to dress to impress. I think it's fabulous. She'd probably look good in it and Larry Levine sells suits in sizes up to size 28 I think. Also, since it's a boyfriend's relative she never met, maybe he could pitch in for her outfit.

Personally I don't think sleeveless is okay for a funeral so I stand by my original statement. Long sleeves or elbow length sleeves would be a bit hot during summer in Florida but I think the short sleeved look featured in the link is the limit to how much arm flesh should be displayed at a funeral.

Gals, I was looking at Target clearance, because that's the first store that sprang to mind. I have bit of money to burn. I likely won't buy the $100 outfit, but more because it doesn't really fit my taste. I don't like suits and have no place to wear one, since I work in a hospital can't even make it a work outfit.

Thanks, though for the budget considerations.

A basic black dress can be worn anywhere else though. Other funerals, weddings, holiday dinner with a little jacket, can be dressed up with accessories for a night out, etc etc. But I agree with not spending a lot because since you are on MFP, hopefully the dress won't fit you by the time the next "occasion" comes along!

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chivalryder

Jeremy Clarkson would be proud.

GDLAZ

Funerals today are not what they once were. Yes, some are still formal, others not so much. I went to one where the deceased was a big sports fan. It was requested that everyone wear their favorite team jersey. Others I've been to I've worn my biker leathers. Ask your boyfriend how he's dressing and wear something that appropriately matches his attire.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Skip the funeral and do something else? Funerals are depressing and the person in the box won't even miss you.

SwashBlogger

It's modern day, so no need to wear black. No jeans, trainers or loud patterns and cover your naughty bits. Be comfortable. It's not about you.