Just sayin'

Summer2k14
Summer2k14 Posts: 31 Member
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To the person who said I was "controlling my boyfriend" on the last thread before my other topic got deleted, I just wanted you to know:

--->I am NOT trying to control my boyfriend, I am trying to domesticate his bad habits so we can change together, because I don't want him getting hurt in the long run.
--->Since when it is it a bad thing to try to look for recipes for the people you love?
--->You do NOT know all of the story so why are you judging me?? I only tell you what I feel is important, not so you can bash.

Okay, thank you
This is to the person that tried to say I was controlling my boyfriend. :)

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  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I read that previous thread that got referred to.

    I think you are just a teenager and have some kind of "teen speak" going on.

    I think there is a huge misunderstanding of how you phrase things that your friends/peers your age probably understand.

    I did read what that lady wrote to you and calling your concern crap wasn't really nice. But also she prefaced the whole thing by saying "I'm gonna try not to be rude," which pretty much guarantees there will be rudeness.

    As for your diabetic b/f. You won't be able to monitor everything he eats and he will learn to make the changes on his own. For now his mother is responsible for him and if the foods she is cooking for him are not good for him Dr. visits or changes in his condition will show her that.

    In the meantime the best you can do is show up with different recipes that ARE good for him when you go see him. It might take a few before you find what he likes but just have a stiff upper lip and if he doesn't like one oh well, try another. Eventually you will find a few he likes and even if his mom never asks for the recipe to make them herself you can always keep making them for him.

    A second benefit is that she will likely notice your concern for him and that might be some common ground you can work from for his betterment.

    :flowerforyou:
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
    To the person who said I was "controlling my boyfriend" on the last thread before my other topic got deleted, I just wanted you to know:

    --->I am NOT trying to control my boyfriend, I am trying to domesticate his bad habits so we can change together, because I don't want him getting hurt in the long run.
    --->Since when it is it a bad thing to try to look for recipes for the people you love?
    --->You do NOT know all of the story so why are you judging me?? I only tell you what I feel is important, not so you can bash.

    Okay, thank you
    This is to the person that tried to say I was controlling my boyfriend. :)

    Honestly who cares if some random person on the MFP forums thinks you're controlling?

    I understood why you posted the original topic you did. The person that responded did so thinking that the situation was two adults, so her advice was perhaps harsher than if she had known your boyfriend was 16.

    Anyway, if you're going to hang around here, you can't sweat the small s*it.

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