Honestly? I give up.

comona

I've lost a total of 65 lbs.
I'm happy with that.
I'd be happier with myself if I could lose these last 25 lbs, but honestly.. Who cares?
What's the point.
I was happy when I didn't have to tediously count calories every single day in fear that I'd go over and gain
all of my weight back.

So, I give up.
It's way too stressful. I don't like being cranky around those that I love because I'm hungry

I'd honestly prefer to be fat and fun to be around than losing weight and being a dent on everyone's day.

Don't mistake this post as a plea for pity or encouragement.
I just posted in this forum to see if anyone was going through the same thing?
If so, how are you dealing with it?

Thanks in advance.

hearthwood

Well Cory if you're well within your healthy BMI, I doubt anyone is going to give you any grief about losing an additional 25 pounds. But what is a little worrisome, is are you going to be able to keep that 65 pounds off without tracking your calories? That's the 65 pound question only you can answer.

Liftng4Lis

65 pounds is an amazing loss.
You're pretty young to "give up"; this is about making healthier choices, that will carry you through life.

OkamiLavande

You can do anything if you set your mind to it. Are you drinking enough water? Some people mistake thirst for hunger because they've never properly filled their body with water. Maybe you aren't eating the right foods. Are you eating a lot of vegetables? They are more satiating than junk and other stuff. If you give up you'll go back to a place where you are unhappy. Love your body and nourish it properly. Recalculate your calories and see if you're eating too low of calories for your body. Try upping your calories by a 100 a week until you don't feel hungry but weight loss continues.

comona

It's not about losing these last 25.
I probably should have stated that I've been eating worse lately. Apologies for not being more elaborate.
My issue is staying this way.
I don't like the tedious calorie counting anymore.
Been doing it for roughly over a year.
Plataue a few times here and there.
I just don't feel that it's a very important aspect in my life anymore.

editorgrrl

Set your goal to maintenance, and keep logging.

Once the crankiness wears off (and it will), set your goal to .5 lb. per week and lose the rest of the weight. (The smaller deficit will help you transition to maintenance.)

Do not go on a bender & ruin all your hard work!

Polishprinsezz

sorry to hear that. this is a lifestyle change. not some quick fix. it is worth it to me to be on top of my weight for the rest of my life if i want to look good and be healthy.

curlygirl513

If you feel you have gone far enough for you, I don't call that giving up. My only thought is about you maintaining your hard earned loss.

About counting calories, while I find I need to log the food I eat, the huge data base makes entering the portion and food really easy.

Personally,I would hate to have to count calories. I don't find that I am counting calories because the program does it for me when I enter the food and how much I ate. I have to keep track of what I eat, because if I don't I eat way too much. I needed a program just like this one to keep track because I over eat otherwise.

Also, about being hungry. I'm not that hungry at all. On this program, I do feel hunger for the first time in a long time, but that is a good thing because now I eat when I am hungry. I do eat throughout the day.

You may not be ready to lose more right now. Don't beat your self up. It is your program for you. You have to live it and it isn't my business or anyone elses what you do with your life or this program.

Snip8241

If you regain your weight will it be important to you then?

3dogsrunning

It's really your choice but a lot of people find success with taking diet breaks - still tracking but eating at a higher calorie level.

I also wonder what your calorie intake is at.

comona

I don't want anyone to mistake this post as a bashing post towards calorie counting, either.
Maybe I'm going through a phase, or maybe I'm just in a happy relationship with my partner and don't care.

Yeah. I'll blame her. :laugh:

But all joking aside, she does help me out alot with I'm truly grateful for. I'm also grateful for this website showing me
The healthy way to lose weight,

And the support all of you give is truly amazing
Just want everyone to know it doesn't go unnoticed .

BirdGirlFit

I'm sorry to hear you're discouraged

Weight loss is tough but you've done an awesome job and you can keep it off without counting calories everyday! The good news is you've formed some really great habits to get you down 65 lbs and you can use them to maintain and even lose more. I would look into "intuitive eating" to read more about this. It's about trusting your body and making healthy choices without needing to count calories. I would recommend the following if you are interested:

Read More-
http://www.intuitiveeating.com/

1. Reject the Diet Mentality
2. Honor Your Hunger
3. Make Peace with Food
4. Challenge the Food Police
5. Respect Your Fullness
6. Discover the Satisfaction Factor
7. Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food
8. Respect Your Body
9. Exercise
10 Honor Your Health


Two Blogs
http://www.healthytippingpoint.com/
http://runeatrepeat.com/weight-loss/intuitive-eating/

Hope that helps!

comona

I've had many switch ups with my calorie intake, one month I'd go by TDEE -%20, another month I'd use MFP presets, it was never really consistent.

comona

Set your goal to maintenance, and keep logging.

Once the crankiness wears off (and it will), set your goal to .5 lb. per week and lose the rest of the weight. (The smaller deficit will help you transition to maintenance.)

Do not go on a bender &
ruin all your hard work!

I didn't even think about doing that. I guess when I started, I was so excited to see that MFP had a 2LBS a week option and never changed that part up, until I did TDEE -20%

CipherZero

I've lost a total of 65 lbs.
I'd be happier with myself if I could lose these last 25 lbs, but honestly.. Who cares?
What's the point.

"On the plains of hesitation lie the blackened bones of countless millions who at the dawn of victory lay down to rest, and in resting died." - Adlai E. Stevenson

WBB55

Set your goal to maintenance, and keep logging.

Once the crankiness wears off (and it will), set your goal to .5 lb. per week and lose the rest of the weight. (The smaller deficit will help you transition to maintenance.)

Do not go on a bender & ruin all your hard work!

^^QFT!!

Take a break. Eat at maintenance for a while. Maybe even a month. But then come back. In maintenance, a cheat meal here or there (that you honestly log) isn't as big of a deal. And you don't need to log meticulously. Just log and be honest. It's worth it.

comona

I've lost a total of 65 lbs.
I'd be happier with myself if I could lose these last 25 lbs, but honestly.. Who cares?
What's the point.

"On the plains of hesitation lie the blackened bones of countless millions who at the dawn of victory lay down to rest, and in resting died." - Adlai E. Stevenson

Needed that. Much thanks.

Cerakoala

I agree it can get tedious and if you are feeling hungry all the time maybe you should relook at your goals? How much do you have it set to lose? Maybe just try 1/2 a lb a week and see if that helps with the hunger, its possible you have your goals set to high for your body right now Take if from someone who never wants to go back. As annoying as it gets to count calories everyday the truth is my life is worth it and so is yours. You are still young and now is the time to learn how to be healthy. There may come a day when you have it down and no longer have to count every single calorie but until then do this for you It honestly takes about a minute for each meal for me to log my food. Its not that much time. I understand being in a happy relationship and that is so wonderful Everyday doesnt have to be perfect foodwise. We all have those days when we want to go out to a special dinner with someone or not worry about what to eat. Well do it and then tomorrow get back on track. This is all about balance, find that happy balance for you and your life that will keep you happy and healthy Best of luck Corey

wixsie

Hello,
I can totally relate. I have lost 9 lbs and have 4 lbs to go. Problem is, my weight has not budged in 3 weeks! Totally frustrating. What keeps me entering every morsel into my iPhone is that I believe I am learning to be a healthier person. I am becoming the person who takes good care of herself--and I actually like and admire that person. I am developing healthy habits that will benefit me now and later. I mess up and I try to learn. I am hungry A Lot. But, I am learning how to be satisfied, with less junk and more fiber, whole foods, and protein. I am hoping my stomach or appetite is changing. Good news is I won't be fat in tight pants criticizing myself. In my mind, there is no turning back. I hope you are proud of all you've accomplished. Be well!

carliekitty

I only have 3 lbs to go for a healthy Body mass index. I'm cranky to very cranky. You gotta suck it up and push through or take a maintenance break. Don't waste your hard work.

gary241069

I think you should do it.
Put the weight back on.
You said you were happier being fat.
You will be reminded the reason
you dieted in the first place.

healthyeating555

I got into juicing and went as far as juice fasting because its the only way to move the scale. Calorie counting is fine but it takes loads of patience to lose weight and i dont have that kind of tolerance . I lost a few with this site but the scale never moved after that Maybe my calorie count was too high or i snuck in a few potato chips and pretzels and cake without documenting Who knows ? All i know is the stress of jotting down each and every piece of food you put in your mouth is time consuming and annoying and the exercise does very little to help if you go over your limit. If you can deal with losing 3lbs a month if your lucky or maybe not lose at all for more months just waiting for the scale to move , then MFP is for you

Michelle8683

It's not about losing these last 25.
I probably should have stated that I've been eating worse lately. Apologies for not being more elaborate.
My issue is staying this way.
I don't like the tedious calorie counting anymore.
Been doing it for roughly over a year.
Plataue a few times here and there.
I just don't feel that it's a very important aspect in my life anymore.

I understand what your saying if I lost about how much I wanted to loose I wouldn't want to keep counting calories. Just eat what you want just not a big amount of it and try to stay with water. If you find yourself gaining weight back take then start to count your calories again or try to eat a little healthier..

Ed98043

I think it's your choice to make. If you've decided that the cost of maintaining a smaller body size is not worth the reward, then who is anyone to tell you otherwise? I just hope that frustration and hunger aren't clouding your judgment. Maybe sit down and write out a list of the pros and cons of each (being bigger versus being smaller and all that each entails, because there are drawbacks and benefits to each). I recommend doing this when you aren't hungry and cranky.

aedreana

You made the right decision for you. No need to feel guilty or apologetic or mixed or second-guessing of yourself. There is nothing wrong with deciding that thinness isn't worth it. Thinness isn't for everyone. You need to feel at peace with your choice. Many folks choose this same option. They would prefer to enjoy their lives without feeling constantly hungry and deprived. No need to view it as "giving up." You completed the weight loss journey that led you to the point where you feel it is time to stop. You did not fail yourself. I personally am willing to face being hungry every single day for the rest of my life. I am vanity-driven. My vanity overrides my appetite. I would not be able to make the choice that you made-- you dieted down to a healthier weight but chose to retain some extra pounds for the sake of quality of life. I, on the other hand, would allow myself to become morbidly obese if I did not choose to be at the weight at which I think I look best. For me, quality of life means satisfying my vanity, not my hunger!

Snip8241

Take a break. Change your weight loss per week goals. Be proud of what you have done. Relax.
You may be cranky now but that will not last. If you don't want to loose the next 25 don't!

One thing I have done is go back to my old diaries if I just can't plan. Try that. The thinking is already done, and you will have done it.
I did that when I did weight watchers a few years back. I am on MFP because I stopped logging my food and gained all my weight back.
Good Luck. :flowerforyou:

Brianne333

I understand how you feel completely. This whole journey to fitness is about making changes and doing things that you can live with for the rest of your life. While other people may have no problem with the prospect of calorie counting for the rest of their lives - maybe that isn't going to work for you. And nothing anyone says here is going to change that just because THEY feel differently You have to find what works for you. Maybe calorie counting isn't going to be a good long term solution for you. Or maybe doing it off and on to help you keep on course but not as a constant means of watching what you eat will be a good solution. You'll have to decide what works for you and what doesn't. And you shouldn't feel bad about that.

65 pounds is a long way to come and a lot to lose, and you should feel great about accomplishing that. Now it's up to you to decide what measures you're willing to take and what you are willing to do for the rest of your life and no one else can make that choice for you. And no one else should make you feel badly about that either!

Dogwalkingirl

If you are hungry all the time you are not doing something right. I also think counting calories can be a pain in the *kitten* ...it works for me to keep on tract but if you have been doing it for a year you know probably very well how many cals are in a lot of things you eat.

Eat mindfully...you are not dumb...eat portions that are right for you, treat yourself once in awhile but not everyday, and get yourself moving. The more you move the more you will be able to eat and also the less cranky you will be! Endorphines and all that jazz! People make everything really complicated. If you dont want to log anymore don't. However watch what you eat and exercise and you will probably still see the scale go down.

gary241069

Congratulations to CarlieKitty in almost reaching her target.
Don't forget that if you have been exercising more than you were previously used to
then you will need to remember to keep in mind a couple of pound could be added
for muscle tone. So you may already have hit your target weight.
All you need to do now is keep it there.
Best Wishes

Railr0aderTony

I've lost a total of 65 lbs.
I'd be happier with myself if I could lose these last 25 lbs, but honestly.. Who cares?
What's the point.

"On the plains of hesitation lie the blackened bones of countless millions who at the dawn of victory lay down to rest, and in resting died." - Adlai E. Stevenson

going to borrow that quote, that is awesome.

BinaryPulsar

Set your goal to maintenance, and keep logging.

Once the crankiness wears off (and it will), set your goal to .5 lb. per week and lose the rest of the weight. (The smaller deficit will help you transition to maintenance.)

Do not go on a bender &
ruin all your hard work!

I didn't even think about doing that. I guess when I started, I was so excited to see that MFP had a 2LBS a week option and never changed that part up, until I did TDEE -20%

I really think you should take this advice. You could even stop logging for a week or two. Take a break, go on maintenance. And then start the new plan. You have lost a lot of weight. Things are very different now that you are closer to goal weight. You need a smaller defecit. Congratulations on your weight loss and great relationship!