I "diet" and husband gets compliments.. wait, what??

laurahadenough

Ok.. just a quick whinge here.. bear with me.. I started this weight loss journey 8 weeks ago and have lost 25 pounds. I feel better and my pants are starting to fall off so I know it is visible. We went to visit my parents yesterday and my Dad, after having greeted me, looked at my husband and said "gee you have lost weight!!"..

Granted he has lost one kilo eating my healthy new food.. ONE . KILO. !!!

So.. what's with that??

PS ate so much over the weekend now feeling quite ashamed :sad:

OhhNiff

Guys lose weight differently than women, and sadly it takes others a bit more to notice. Just be proud of what you've accomplished thus far and sooner rather than later people will start to take notice.

Look at this weekend as an enjoyable one and get back to eating your more healthy new food tomorrow.

vegwrangler

You're not alone :-). I lose 30+ pounds, nothing. Husband puts on a dark shirt and sucks it in a bit and people start coming out of the woodwork "Hey, you lost weight!"

Um, nope.

Over here folks...

RodaRose

It's not a contest. Be proud of him and happy that your family likes him.

flumi_f

Might be easier for people to comment a man's weight than a woman's....that's dangerous territory

Well done on your own loss!

1LadyKate

LOL I know what you mean. My husband has lots 10 lbs almost 11 and I have lost 4. He looks different and other than my arms I look the same. I just have to remind myself that I am losing weight for me not for others to notice me.

Quasita

I had to lose nearly 80 pounds before my mother said anything without a prompt. Our parents don't look at us the same way as they do our partners and friends.

TavistockToad

It's not a contest. Be proud of him and happy that your family likes him.

this!

wellingtontinker

last year i lost 34lbs , my husband never lost a single 1lb and yet everyone complimented him it didn't do my confidence any good . I suffered anxiety panic in Nov-Dec put it all back on and people are calling me fat lol .

I started again last week and lost 1lb big wow

TonyPillz

Have you lost weight can be interrupted 2 ways?

You looked like a whale before

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You looked like a whale before

In my opinion you cant win with women in regards to compliments during weight loss , every women i complimented on weightloss said to me , so you thought i was fat before?

wellingtontinker

My parents tell me i am overweight all the time and hardly ever notice when i lose weight .

curlygirl513

Have you lost weight can be interrupted 2 ways?

You looked like a whale before

&

You looked like a whale before

In my opinion you cant win with women in regards to compliments during weight loss , every women i complimented on weightloss said to me , so you thought i was fat before?

You are funny. But I agree with you some women are so reactive to nearly anything said about them. I went to Starbucks at some horrid hour like 4:30 am and the barrista said she was tired. I said I am too, and I can see you are tired. She went beserk and kept saying, "So you think I look tired?!!!!!" How dare I have said something like that. I realized how that was a sore point for her, even if she said she was tired, I was tired and looked it and it was 4:30 in the morning.

Ya gotta say some women got issues.

peacheswi

I wish my parents were still alive so they could "not notice" my weight loss.
Consider yourself lucky you still have your parents around.

I agree with the other posters - commenting on a woman's weight loss is a landmine for men.
Even as a woman, I struggle with what to say to another woman who has lost weight.
People are different - some will take it as a compliment that you noticed, others will be offended that you really mean they were fat before.

Just keep going, and keep a smile on your face.
Lose weight for you - regardless of what others think or say (or don't say).

bridgew24

Don't take it personally, people don't tend to notice weight changes in people they see frequently because it's gradual. Just like you don't notice the little wrinkles and what not appearing on your partner over time until they're huge

I.e: I lost 5 kilos while my parents lived in the country = they didn't notice.
I lost 2 kilos in the 3 months they were overseas = They noticed as soon as they got back!

47Jacqueline

I have a very overweight friend who tends to belittle a lot of my accomplishments. I recently lost 3 pounds, three inches, and reached 19.6% body fat. Her response was I don't see any difference. My response was no, you probably don't. I notice. That's what's important.

People have theIr own issues. I wouldn't want hers. :-)

soidade

The reason that women get defensive when you mention weight loss is because society tells us that we're worthless unless we're attractive. If we have any "issues," it's a lifetime of being valued (or devalued) on the basis of our looks.

Biglkd

well done on losing so much weight. Nothing beats the accomplishment of clothes fitting you better and just generally feeling good about yourself.

People don't tend to notice if they see you all the time or sometimes its just a case of wearing different clothes. A size smaller and something to show off your new found shape works well.

As for your other half he's probably eating health with you so take his accomplishments as another sign of your hard work.

Take care

LKD :happy:

katewright699

I have the same exact problem, I'm dieting and my husband is diabetic and has lost some weight recently through it, they walk straight past me to tell him how well he looks and to keep up the good work lmfao !!! How annoying

lisalsd1

You also have to consider what kind of relationship you and your dad have...and had in the past. Maybe he's learned not to mention your weight, b/c maybe it was a sensitive topic.