Is this okay?

V0lver

i like this guy. I wish i was this confident. He didnt say anything creepy so i dont see any reason to be alarmed

melindafritz1976

Personally I wouldn't make too much of it. Maybe he was trying to offer you a bit of advice or maybe he simply wanted a reason to talk to you lol.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I've always thought it weird that people get stressed about social contacts. People seem to imagine these invisible walls around themselves and then get upset when someone walks right through them. If you want to be alone than don't go out in public. If you go out in public you are no longer alone.

I think it's weird that people get stressed about spiders in their house, or the fact that their husband brought them an ice cream sundae. *shrug*

_lyndseybrooke_

I personally don't see the big deal. I would've brushed it off - or taken his advice into consideration, either one.

azymth99

Out of line. He was probably just trying to hit on you, but how you lift is none of his business. If he really wanted to give you some advice he should have prefaced with: "Hi, can I offer a suggestion?" Where you would have the opportunity to say "no."

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Personally, OP, I'd be annoyed but not offended. I've had people offer me unsolicited advice before and generally if you just say thanks they go away.

That said, I lift at home now.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

I've always thought it weird that people get stressed about social contacts. People seem to imagine these invisible walls around themselves and then get upset when someone walks right through them. If you want to be alone than don't go out in public. If you go out in public you are no longer alone.

I think it's weird that people get stressed about spiders in their house, or the fact that their husband brought them an ice cream sundae. *shrug*

And when they ask if it's OK to feel that way, you'll render that opinion as we have here.

pucenavel

Out of line? meh, probably not

In the d---bag? Most Certainly

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I've always thought it weird that people get stressed about social contacts. People seem to imagine these invisible walls around themselves and then get upset when someone walks right through them. If you want to be alone than don't go out in public. If you go out in public you are no longer alone.

I think it's weird that people get stressed about spiders in their house, or the fact that their husband brought them an ice cream sundae. *shrug*

And when they ask if it's OK to feel that way, you'll render that opinion as we have here.

Yep.

The_GingerBeard_Man

We have a dude like that in my gym. He is huge, super vocal when he lifts, and goes over to offer advice to every girl, and a few guys in the gym. Surprisingly though, he actually gives good advice, and will help people with form trouble.

Like the others said he was likely trying to find an in to talk to you, but his advice might have still been solid. Too much elbow flare is a common issue on presses, and can lead to a shoulder injury.

lunglady

Thats not how this works, that not how any of this works ...........

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I LOVE that commercial!

RavenLibra

Advice is only helpful if it is asked for.
Advice says one thing..."BE more like me"

and that IS my philosophy when the dispensation of "A-D-V-I-C-E" is the subject of conversation.

MysteriousMerlin

Ignore, and keep doing what you were doing. If he says something next time, don't even bother glancing his way, and tell him to keep it down this time.

Kitten2629

I would just say thanks and move on.

JenAndSome

Thanks everyone. I think it would have been different if maybe I had bad form and he were trying to prevent injury and not just telling me I should do a different lift to hit a different muscle, I didn't have my ear-buds in, if I had ever seen him before anywhere, or if I had asked for his advice. I didn't take his advice, but I might do some research and possibly give it a try eventually if I feel it's necessary. I'm not a pro in the gym by any means and had just never experienced this before and wanted to see what others thought.

TX_Thundercat

Sounds kinda like a d-bag and he was trying to hit on you. Seems pretty harmless and I wouild not be offended. Unless, of course, he was looking at you like this...

DWBalboa

What he spoke directly to you? How dare him, off with his head!!! Both of them!!
I guess he could be a DB, was he all like “Night at the Roxbury” DB looking? If so run! But seriously, regardless of his motivation I wouldn’t let it bother you. Perhaps even give his advice a try, DB’s can be right too.
I personally, would not give someone unsolicited advice unless I saw them doing something that could prove detrimental to their health or mine but that’s just me.
Although I must admit, if a guy came up to me and said something about getting that sexy, straight V in the back I might be a little alarmed too.

JoRocka

If that was the VERY first interaction- I would have gladly said- oh you like the way this all looks? (points to self)

(usually it gets a smile or a nod)

And then I say- well thanks- I got here without you- what makes you think I need your input? but thanks anyway- enjoy your workout."

Walking up to a complete stranger without introducing yourself or ASKING if they would like some advice- esp if you aren't doing something extremely potentially damaging- is wrong- and insulting. I wouldn't be offended- just wildly annoyed.

Timshel_

Guys are fixers, even if you don't appreciate it. They will comment to just about anyone.

salembambi

unsolicited advice from creepy grunty man ...

eww