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yopeeps025
yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
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Is having a preference for what you like being shallow?

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  • kirkor
    kirkor Posts: 2,530 Member
    No it's human nature
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,251 Member
    Absolutely not. What's the point in denying what you like or trying to force yourself to like something you don't? It's illogical.
  • 6ftamazon
    6ftamazon Posts: 340 Member
    Nope. And this is coming from a fat girl lol. Shallow is treating someone like crap because of their appearance. You shouldn't be ashamed or have to justify what you like.
  • JenniTheVeggie
    JenniTheVeggie Posts: 2,474 Member
    Nope.
  • KatieMcCakes
    KatieMcCakes Posts: 294 Member
    Depends on what you like, and therefore have a preference for...
  • inneedofanap
    inneedofanap Posts: 63 Member
    Nope. But I'm just guessing here, is there more to the story?
  • ScarletFyre
    ScarletFyre Posts: 754 Member
    No, definitely, not - we all have different preferences as far as physical attraction, and personality etc. You are attracted/prefer the type of people you prefer that is human nature and who you are - who we all are.
  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    No!

    While I really don't have a physical type, I prefer to go for character traits - but even with that said there are some types that I would never be able to have any real interest in and yes it's shallow but I believe as long as you recognize it for what it - it is okay.

    I would much rather know that the person interested in me is also attracted to me beyond my shining personality :blushing:
  • therealthurgasi
    therealthurgasi Posts: 12 Member
    No, its innate. You can't help what you like and what you don't like.
  • km2790
    km2790 Posts: 15 Member
    Nope. And this is coming from a fat girl lol. Shallow is treating someone like crap because of their appearance. You shouldn't be ashamed or have to justify what you like.

    Yes, I agree! It's normal to have certain characteristics you look for in a partner. The only time it becomes extreme is if you expect perfection.
  • errollmaclean
    errollmaclean Posts: 562 Member
    Nope. And this is coming from a fat girl lol. Shallow is treating someone like crap because of their appearance. You shouldn't be ashamed or have to justify what you like.

    Worded perfectly! (Except for the girl part, cause I'm a boy)
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    No.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    No
  • Erin_goBrahScience
    Erin_goBrahScience Posts: 1,215 Member
    Nope. We don't control our attraction.

    However if your only basis for relationships (both romantic and platonic) is determined by superficial factors regardless of the persons other traits and qualities, I'd say that was shallow.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    No


    *waits for plot twist*
  • pds06
    pds06 Posts: 299 Member
    If you have to ask the question then probably yes.
  • Youngcris
    Youngcris Posts: 34 Member
    I agree but want to add I think its realistic for someone to have the same expectations in you. If you want perfection you better be perfect too.
  • Youngcris
    Youngcris Posts: 34 Member
    Or have money! Just kidding
  • SuperSexyDork
    SuperSexyDork Posts: 1,669 Member
    OP, if someone called you shallow, they were either upset that you weren't attracted to them or they were probably right.
  • SomberG
    SomberG Posts: 36
    Depends on what that preference is I'd suppose.

    Very vague question...
  • BITEME_GRRR
    BITEME_GRRR Posts: 150 Member
    Depends on your definition of Shallow.
    I have a long laundry list of stuff I want in a Mate ...Some are more critical than others, but the 'shallow' stuff is still on there. I do prefer someone with an athletic build and that has the same (active) interests I do....With that said my boyfriend is skinny and hates the gym ha ha.
  • SnuggleSmacks
    SnuggleSmacks Posts: 3,731 Member
    Is having a preference for what you like being shallow?

    Technically, yes. Shallow means "of little depth." Having a preference based on appearance hardly has a deep philosophical stimulus, does it? But that being said, so what? We are attracted to people based on a mixture of biology (nature) and cultural influence (nurture) and it's nearly impossible to change your preference even if you want to.

    I do think it is a sign of being less shallow and more enlightened when we are attracted to a broader range of forms...not just the ideal .7 waist/hip ration and perfectly symmetrical and uniform features with perfect teeth. But that's my personal opinion.
  • BITEME_GRRR
    BITEME_GRRR Posts: 150 Member
    Is having a preference for what you like being shallow?

    Technically, yes. Shallow means "of little depth." Having a preference based on appearance hardly has a deep philosophical stimulus, does it? But that being said, so what? We are attracted to people based on a mixture of biology (nature) and cultural influence (nurture) and it's nearly impossible to change your preference even if you want to.

    I do think it is a sign of being less shallow and more enlightened when we are attracted to a broader range of forms...not just the ideal .7 waist/hip ration and perfectly symmetrical and uniform features with perfect teeth. But that's my personal opinion.

    Smugglesmacks - just curious - why is your weight ticker background a garlic??? lol.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Well would you exclude people outside of that preference even every other aspect of them was appealing? Would you STOP loving someone whom you once loved, whom once fit that preference because he/she no longer does fit that preference? How narrow is your range of preference?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It's not an either or. A person can have preferences, and still find others outside of that to be attractive. A person can be equally attracted to someone for physical and intelligence/personality. That's what chemistry is.
  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    Nope. And this is coming from a fat girl lol. Shallow is treating someone like crap because of their appearance. You shouldn't be ashamed or have to justify what you like.

    This.

    And it isn't shallow to spend the time to go above and beyond a basic level of fitness to look the way you would like to look, either. In fact, to me it would sting a lot less to be rejected by someone based on my appearance if he was a walking advertisement for lifting heavy. rather than a walking advertisement for doughnuts.
  • SnuggleSmacks
    SnuggleSmacks Posts: 3,731 Member
    Is having a preference for what you like being shallow?

    Technically, yes. Shallow means "of little depth." Having a preference based on appearance hardly has a deep philosophical stimulus, does it? But that being said, so what? We are attracted to people based on a mixture of biology (nature) and cultural influence (nurture) and it's nearly impossible to change your preference even if you want to.

    I do think it is a sign of being less shallow and more enlightened when we are attracted to a broader range of forms...not just the ideal .7 waist/hip ration and perfectly symmetrical and uniform features with perfect teeth. But that's my personal opinion.

    Smugglesmacks - just curious - why is your weight ticker background a garlic??? lol.

    Actually it's a painting of garlic and onions that I painted. Cuz, I mean, garlic and onions! YUM!!
  • psmd
    psmd Posts: 764 Member
    I would say no unless that's your only measure of what you like in a person. Or you treat people like crap if they don't measure up.

    Otherwise everyone is gonna have preferences, only natural.

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