question for the ladies...TMI for the guys

devil_in_a_blue_dress

I just have to say that as a fellow Christian abstaining from sex, spreading them for the doc was the least of my concern when I having period problems. :huh:

Exactly this.

Madame_Goldbricker

I'm sorry but I find this all highly confusing. What exactly is the issue with having a pelvic examination OP?

Unless you have actual sexual intercourse you will not have lost your virginity. A pap smear will not cause you to lose it. Nor would using tampons. If you are concerned about your hymen being intact the fact is many things such as strenuous activity can cause it to not be anymore.

If you're worried about the exam being uncomfortable then explain your concerns to the Dr/nurse. They can perform a purely vision examination first. If you're concerned about the gender of the Dr you cam state you would like a female one.

I don't see what the issue is? Many young women (under 18's) have undergone examinations stemming from gyno problems who are virgins. And many older women have too. The Dr will be used to dealing with this. You aren't a special snowflake. Its better to be safe than sorry and look after your health.

wheird

the articles I've found on it all seem to say it's time to make an appointment if you miss 3 months, so I'll give it that much anyway. I was just wondering if anybody else had experienced this is all.

Why get snarky if the articles you read suggested the same thing as baba? :huh:

because I'm being snarkily chastised for not immediately making an appointment when I'm only 4 days past my usual start day....not 3 months? oh well. I'll try harder just to ignore it next time.

Perhaps I misread everything you wrote, but I thought you said that you were more than a month late?

This post was about a 4 day late period?

meganjcallaghan

the articles I've found on it all seem to say it's time to make an appointment if you miss 3 months, so I'll give it that much anyway. I was just wondering if anybody else had experienced this is all.

Why get snarky if the articles you read suggested the same thing as baba? :huh:

because I'm being snarkily chastised for not immediately making an appointment when I'm only 4 days past my usual start day....not 3 months? oh well. I'll try harder just to ignore it next time.

Perhaps I misread everything you wrote, but I thought you said that you were more than a month late?

This post was about a 4 day late period?

I went slightly irregular after some tests (I assumed because of whatever the crap was they inject in you to run them) and switched from 37 days to 28 days....2 days after said tests. did that for 2 months normally and then a 3rd month much lighter (which, according to some people here still counts)....now I'm at 41 days since THAT one which is 4 days longer than my usual pre-test 37. Anyway...wasn't looking for a fight. just curious about common experiences. Just going to increase my fat intake and take some iron pills. See how that pans out over the next month.

pmwarrior

I'm a 36 year old virgin and I have been having paps since I was 25. Pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are only a small part of what they are checking for. You want to make sure you are healthy, you have no odd growths, that your endometrium is flushing properly. On that note, I found out in my tests that I have endometriosis, which is when the endometrium (lining that forms each time you ovulate) is breaking down to flow out for my period, it was leaving parts behind and even causing some of my organs to stick together. its basically like a nasty bloody paste in your body. This has caused irregular periods as well. You are 33. Be a big girl and go get it done. It's really not that bad, they don't put that much pressure in there, they don't break your hymen, it'll be okay, I promise. It will be worth it if you have something that you can catch early on.

aliakynes

I don't think the upset is because you're 3 days late, but because you've never seen one and this isn't the first time you're experiencing an irregularity.

P.S. Had you begun seeing one at 20, you wouldn't have had a pelvic exam. A GYN does much more than that.

Anyway, your regular doctor can take blood and see if your hormones are off.

KnitOrMiss

While I understand that you know your body better than anyone else, the fact that you were concerned enough to write this post tells me that you should consult a medical professional directly and immediately. It is 100% possible to contract vaginal, cervical, or uterine cancer without having ever been sexually active. Our bodies alone contain this potential without the introduction of outside contaminants.

What I cannot understand is why you wish to play roulette with your health. You are literally gambling with your life. Yes, the odds may be slight, they may be in your favor, but the fact that there is even a chance of this problem being something else would have me running, not walking to the doctor.

Having lost a cousin to severe vaginal cancer at 23, I have a bit different perspective than some. Her doctor could not figure out, even with sexual activity, how she contracted a disease that normally doesn't develop until 65-75 years of age. Medical practice is not an exact science. Diseases develop without quantifiable causes.

If you care enough about your health to post so many personal details to a messload of strangers, please care enough about your health to consult an actual medical professional who can run blood tests and other tests prior to any physical examination.

caracrawford1

I think you are being extremely ignorant. You said yourself that a pelvic exam becomes necessary when you are having "issues" regardless of sexual activity. You are having potentially very serious problems and it needs to be checked out. If they want to do a pregnancy test alongside their other procedures to completely rule it out, let them. It will not harm you. Not going to the doctor because you feel you shouldn't have to based on your sexual inactivity is completely ridiculous.

True. When I was all of fourteen and had never had sex I went to the gyno for ovarian cysts they discovered when looking at my bladder for something else (I have a spastic bladder). I wonder why the OPs fear or hangup about going to a gyno. It dies not signal "sin" or intercourse or whatever your beliefs may be