Getting judged :(

saygolas
saygolas Posts: 5 Member
in Motivation and Support
Im a highschool girl and I have been getting into fitness and health for almost a year now. My interests lie in lifting heavy and flexible dieting. I love my lifestyle and I love being fit and healthy. I am a strong believer in self improvement and I have always sought to improve myself.

Around my peers, especially my female friends, I am always discouraged and ridiculed. I dont talk to them about my interest in health anymore, but when I discuss macros and styles of training with my male friends, my female friends always interject with how lifting weights makes you "bulky" and how tracking macros makes me "crazy"

I am aware they gossip about how "self absorbed" and "obsessed" I am , and it really is discouraging, especially since they are my peers.

Have any of you ever faced this kind of judgement? How do I deal with it and stay motivated?
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  • Savlona
    Savlona Posts: 84 Member
    If it wasn't this, it'd be something else. Hold your head high and be your own person. Not easy, but worth it.
    As I'm sure you know, it is hard for females to get bulky due to hormones - suggest they open their ears in biology classes ;)
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    I'd say just worry about yourself.

    Also, you're 23? In high school?
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    I'd say just worry about yourself.

    Also, you're 23? In high school?

    Don't judge. Algebra can be a *****.
  • saygolas
    saygolas Posts: 5 Member
    I set my year wrong :(
    dunno if i can or how to change
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Not to discourage you- but how old are you?

    I believe there is an age limitation (18)on this site and sparkteens might be a more appropriate place for you.

    That being said- it's High school. People are more interesting in make themselves look good by pushing others down.

    If you know who you are and what you want- nothing and no one can change that. stay focused.
  • Mikkimeow
    Mikkimeow Posts: 1,282 Member
    I'd say just worry about yourself.

    Also, you're 23? In high school?

    Not sure if real person or...

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  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    High school sucks. It gets better. Do you have a boyfriend? How are your morals?
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Not to discourage you- but how old are you?

    I believe there is an age limitation (18)on this site and sparkteens might be a more appropriate place for you.

    That being said- it's High school. People are more interesting in make themselves look good by pushing others down.

    If you know who you are and what you want- nothing and no one can change that. stay focused.

    ^Agree with the above.

    And if these "friends" of yours are talking down and ridiculing you, then maybe they really aren't your friends and you should consider finding others.
  • saygolas
    saygolas Posts: 5 Member
    I am a senior.
  • DBoone85
    DBoone85 Posts: 916 Member
    High school bishes suck more than internet hoes.....
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    I am a senior.

    then maybe not posting pictures in your underwear on an adult site might be something to consider.

    also- age limit. 18.

    spark teens.
  • philipfoster76
    philipfoster76 Posts: 14 Member
    Lifting won't make you bulky.
    Even heavy lifting won't make you bulky.
    The only way you'll get bulky is if you put a ton of effort into purposely gaining muscle mass.

    Check this girl out...she lifts crazy, and isn't at all bulky.
    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    Heck I am 41 and my female peers say the same thing to me sweetie...it never changes just get thicker skin.
  • bluesarah13
    bluesarah13 Posts: 31 Member
    The hardest thing about high school (and life in general) is being yourself. Others may ridicule you for things they are jealous of. I've learned most people who ridicule others are insecure about who they are. I agree with Savlona, being your own person is not easy but it's so worth it. Are you able to tell your close friends that you don't appreciate their comment? Maybe if they are able to support you a little more, other people's comments won't hurt as much.
  • cuckoo_jenibeth
    cuckoo_jenibeth Posts: 1,434 Member
    I am a senior.
    ^^^^ Oh, so this!!!

    then maybe not posting pictures in your underwear on an adult site might be something to consider.

    also- age limit. 18.

    spark teens.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    I have been around people that make you crazy with their over-focus. However, when you make a big change, with lots of newness, it does take a lot of focus! You may need to join a group that is focused like you are, so you can talk and express yourself. Because some of your friends would rather see your results than hear you talk about the process.
    But if they are just sarcastic/mocking that's no bueno.
  • saygolas
    saygolas Posts: 5 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I mean...that's just how teenagers act. You know, because they are teenagers. Not sure what to tell you. I have found that none of my friends care to hear about it either, even at my age. So I talk about that kind of stuff with friends from this site who share that common interest.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then

    Trying to find ANY hostility in this thread.

    I'm gonna go out on a limb and say your friends are probably right about you.
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then

    lolwut?
  • margannmks
    margannmks Posts: 424 Member
    Since there your peers and not necessarily your friends,dont sweat it youll be away from them soon. High school is not the rest of your life, it does get better. The girls who get catty when you talk to boys about your goals are just not happy that you might be getting attention they want. Its great that you are going about it in a healthy way. Try to find more like minded friends and ignore the others,when they no longer get a rise out of you theyll move on to the next better than them girl to try to break down.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then

    Trying to find ANY hostility in this thread.

    I'm gonna go out on a limb and say your friends are probably right about you.

    This. Also this site is 18+... going on a limb and say you are not.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    When you first start a new activity, even one like eating more healthy and exercising, you tend to talk about it a lot with friends. But if your friends are not interested in the same thing, they will find it annoying. This goes double with weight loss and fitness.

    So please keep that in mind and consider keeping your fitness as a personal pursuit unless asked about it.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then

    and not a single post of hostility was seen that day.
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    lol.

    If you think this place is hostile you should not internet, ever.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    Im sad to see so many people be so hostile here. I guess it comes with every website then

    If you see hostility in this thread then I have a theory as to your problems with classmates
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Im a highschool girl and I have been getting into fitness and health for almost a year now. My interests lie in lifting heavy and flexible dieting. I love my lifestyle and I love being fit and healthy. I am a strong believer in self improvement and I have always sought to improve myself.

    Around my peers, especially my female friends, I am always discouraged and ridiculed. I dont talk to them about my interest in health anymore, but when I discuss macros and styles of training with my male friends, my female friends always interject with how lifting weights makes you "bulky" and how tracking macros makes me "crazy"

    I am aware they gossip about how "self absorbed" and "obsessed" I am , and it really is discouraging, especially since they are my peers.



    PM me. I won't judge you and I will give you lots of support and motivation.

    Have any of you ever faced this kind of judgement? How do I deal with it and stay motivated?
  • KseRz
    KseRz Posts: 980 Member
    I'd say just worry about yourself.

    Also, you're 23? In high school?

    Don't judge. Algebra can be a *****.

    I went to the same high school...

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    You can be over 18 there
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    am I the only one smelling a troll, here? that post didn't read like a thinly-dressed list of MFP buzzwords to anyone else??

    ed grammar
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    am I the only one smelling a troll, here? that post didn't read like a thinly-dressed list of MFP buzzwords to anyone else??

    ed grammar

    haha YEP.

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