I look 6 months pregnant.

katieannd

I am the property manager of a modular home community. I love my job, love the residents and have formed great bonds with many of them. I found out today that there is a rumor going around the community that I am 6 months pregnant and will be quitting any day now. As if my self esteem isn't bad enough already, now I find out that apparently I look 6 months pregnant. I am so hurt. This group of 40 something year old women need to get a life - does it make them feel better to start rumors about someone half their age? I feel like crying and quitting.

Sorry for the rant - my feelings are hurt and I don't know how to deal with it.

HIzara

awwww. that's terrible. Hope your thanksgiving is better! :flowerforyou:

blel0906

Awww so sorry, petty, petty women with nothing better to do, keep your head held high and keep pushing forward! Eventually they will look like a bunch of *kitten*.

Have a great Thanksgiving.

nellajane24

that stinks. people can really be so rude sometimes!! this has happened to me 3 times so far in my life, so you are not alone! I think some people just are kind of idiots, and don't think before they speak. don't let someone else determine how you feel. keep up the good work!:flowerforyou:

toschab

People can be so inconsiderate! I am sorry that hurtful rumors have spread, but rumors are like infections, they can take on a life of their own unless we can build up our own healthy immunity. The fact that you are here on this site means that you are building them and growing healthier and stronger each day! I noticed the adorable wedding photo that is attached to your message. It is unfortunate, but some people can be jealous of other people's happiness. And others might be thinking in old fashioned terms that a marriage means a baby must soon be on the way. Not that I recommend spending time or energy on what they think. Enjoy your happiness and stick to your plans and goals!!!

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

catcrazy

I had similar but it was a school full of kids thinking i was! I just laughed it off and said I needed to do more sit ups but I was extremely embarrassed. I used to have a badge that said "i'm not fat i'm pregnant" when pregnant with my first child... I nearly made myself a new one after the kids comments thinking i was pregnant saying the opposite!

I think braving it out would be your best bet. Its not been done out of malice so don't think of it hurtfully. Just make an announcement when there are a small group of them saying something like, "thanks for your concern but no baby here, I guess I need more sit ups huh!"

This will probably make them feel a little embarrassed to have been caught out gossiping, will quash the rumour and hopefully the whole episode will serve as motivation for you and deter them from gossiping again

nellajane24

People can be so inconsiderate! I am sorry that hurtful rumors have spread, but rumors are like infections, they can take on a life of their own unless we can build up our own healthy immunity. The fact that you are here on this site means that you are building them and growing healthier and stronger each day! I noticed the adorable wedding photo that is attached to your message. It is unfortunate, but some people can be jealous of other people's happiness. And others might be thinking in old fashioned terms that a marriage means a baby must soon be on the way. Not that I recommend spending time or energy on what they think. Enjoy your happiness and stick to your plans and goals!!!

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

i have to agree with her- there are always people out there who are jealous of your happiness, and spend their days trying to make others just as miserable as them.

donella73

That's awful of them. They should keep their big mouths shut. I often get asked by strangers when I'm due, and it makes me feel sick every time.

orangejellybean

Oh wow!!! *massive hugs*

People can be so horrible and inconsiderate! I really hope the ladies wake up to themselves and realise rumours are never nice!

Hugs, hugs, hugs!
I hope today is better for you

ssanchez2010

Some people just only have one way to ignore their faults and thats by turning the attention to someone else. Its horrible what they did to you I am so sorry, working around that is not an easy feat but I know you can get passed it all.

SimonsGirl

I am the property manager of a modular home community. I love my job, love the residents and have formed great bonds with many of them. I found out today that there is a rumor going around the community that I am 6 months pregnant and will be quitting any day now. As if my self esteem isn't bad enough already, now I find out that apparently I look 6 months pregnant. I am so hurt. This group of 40 something year old women need to get a life - does it make them feel better to start rumors about someone half their age? I feel like crying and quitting.

Sorry for the rant - my feelings are hurt and I don't know how to deal with it.

Whatever your size your still a beautiful person inside and out.

NoAdditives

That's terrible! People can be so mean and rude for no good reason. Well, no reason is ever "good" but you know what I mean!

I don't know if you actually look like you're 6 months pregnant or not, but if you do, don't feel bad. I had two babies in two years and if I'm not holding my abs in as tight as I can I look that way too. I'm working on doing ab exercises to tighten them up again, especially focusing on the deepest muscles. It's helping, but I do have a fair amount of belly fat to contend with.

Try not to worry about what other people are saying and do some ab work! Pilates is great if you can take a class. If you can't, try to get your belly button to touch your spine and you'll be working the deepest abdominal muscles. Do that while you're doing sit ups/crunches, instead of just using the top layers of muscle. Those bulk up quickly and only add to the problem.

LynnBirchfield

I agree with what everyone has said here. Just consider the source and turn it into a positive. Keep on doing what you have set out to do. We all can do this!!!

NoAdditives

That's awful of them. They should keep their big mouths shut. I often get asked by strangers when I'm due, and it makes me feel sick every time.

OMG, how rude! When will people learn that that is absolutely not an appropriate question to ask? I'm sure those are the same people who accost pregnant women and touch their bellies, and then touch their tiny babies without asking. I am constantly shocked at the nerve of some people!

Ok, now MY rant is over...

katieannd

Thanks so much ladies - I feel like such an idiot sitting here in my office crying, but I feel sick about it. I mean, I know I am out of shape but I didn't realize I looked that bad...I am so embarrassed. I knew the residents gossiped about each other but now that I am involved it isn't so easy to shrug off...I take my job seriously (as I sit here on mfp haha) and I would hate for something like this to interfere with my reputation with the residents or my superiors.

Caperfae

Shame on them for gossiping like that. Some people aren't happy unless they are bringing other people down in some way.

SimonsGirl

Shame on them for gossiping like that. Some people aren't happy unless they are bringing other people down in some way.

too true

katieannd

This group of women spend all day taking their turns calling me to complain about something or someone. They are always very sweet and are always telling me how much they appreciate my work around here - but then they go around talking about how I am going to be 'quitting any day'. Ugh

davebarron

Imagine being a guy who is told that he looks six months pregnant! It has happened to me, so I actually know how you feel. Just keep you chin up sweetie, you know what a great person you are, and you can be the better person and just smile to yourself while you think that certain people really need to just shut the hell up!

YogiGirlLucy

I took a little peek at your photos, and you are a beautiful girl. If it were me I would confront them and put them in their place, but that's just me -- I'm fiesty --- either way, don't let them determine your self worth, you are here and there are so many wonderful people on this site ready to support you. Just keep at it and you will have the last laugh.

Lucy

louloup

Some people are just thoughtless *kitten*. They gossip about crap that they know nothing really about.

Forget them, they will get what is coming to them (bad karma). Focus on youself, family and the people that support you.
:flowerforyou:

meeshers

I also had a quick peek at your pictures. I am in the medical field so I say with gusto that you look nowhere NEAR 6 months pregnant!! Those ladies may need to examine their lives if the best thing they have to talk about is whether or not someone is pregnant. Sheesh! They must be blind! Have a fantastic rest of the day knowing that you are gorgeous and on your way to being happier in your own skin. Keep going!

lilRicki

. Just make an announcement when there are a small group of them saying something like, "thanks for your concern but no baby here, I guess I need more sit ups huh!"

This will probably make them feel a little embarrassed to have been caught out gossiping, will quash the rumour and hopefully the whole episode will serve as motivation for you and deter them from gossiping again

that's an awesome idea...confront the situation as a joke, it will take the wind out of their sails...

Sweet13_Princess

People are just plain rude! Unfortunately, some people don't know how to put a filter on their mouths.

In any case, don't quit your job or cry. Prove them wrong! Keep working hard, tone up, keep your head high and you will prove that they're all a bunch of jacka**es in the end.

Shannon

Scorpiomom222

Awww! That is so terrible! Since your the property manager, I would feel inclined to talk to them about how hurtful their words have been. I'm friggin 21, and I know better! Jerks. You poor thing! Don't quit. You show them what you got, lady and make them eat their words!

Scorpiomom222

Also, I just wanted to add: Two months after I had my daughter, an older couple walked up to me and the woman said "Oh you look like you're ready to pop. Pregnant again so soon, eh? Your little guy is so adorable!" NO, do you not see how small my baby is? And that SHE is wearing pink and has earrings? Just thought that might make you feel a little better. It happens everyday, and comes from people you don't even know. People are just plain ignorant and should probably find a knitting group to join.

Scorpiomom222

I took a little peek at your photos, and you are a beautiful girl. If it were me I would confront them and put them in their place, but that's just me -- I'm fiesty --- either way, don't let them determine your self worth, you are here and there are so many wonderful people on this site ready to support you. Just keep at it and you will have the last laugh.

Lucy

I SOOO agree. I would just make a little comment about not being pregnant and stare them down a little bit. haha

Mamoonie

Hey,

keep your head up! You already lost some weight and you will loose some more!
There are 2 ways to cope with such a situation:
- get up and do a really tough workout and put all your bad feelings in it, you'll certainly feel better after sweating your butt off!
- remember: weight can be lost, what about sillyness, rudeness, meanness? Go ahead and tell them: I will lose my overweight, what can you do about your *** (insert anything here) attitude?

Prove them wrong, don't let them prove right!!!

MM

Fineraziel

Well... it happened to me too. :grumble: After having my two babies (and I see in your profile you did have a baby too!), I wasnt able to loose the "pregnancy belly", so people would ask me if I was pregnant... I dont think they were mean, they actually really thought I was pregnant. And how could I blame them ? Of course, I looked like a pregnant woman! So I just told them : "No Im not pregnant... the baby is out, but the belly just wont go away!". And they would never bother me about that again! :laugh:

ckmama

I tell any woman, I mean any woman, no matter how big or little your belly is, THROW OUT THE BABY DOLL type shirts, or the ones waisted under the boobs.

Everytime someone has commented about me being pregnant when I wasn't I was wearing one of those shirts. Even little women look pregnant in them. I love wearing those types of shirts but have since thrown 4 of them out, because of that.